When I came across a friend’s ‘black berry’ status update some time back, I wasted no time in telling her that she had made my day with such moving tribute to her husband (whose birthday was on that day).The words may seem simple but the message is powerful and I quote ‘’ Happy birthday to the man, that makes my smile his priority – I am dead and empty without you’’.
This can only come from a woman that either appreciates her blessing or a woman who has studied and mastered the ever efficient art of flattery. I teach women this (appreciation/flattery) a lot. Go out of your way to appreciate your man’s efforts (no matter how little) towards your happiness. Any man
you praise for the little favours he shows you -will double his efforts next time. It is most discouraging when someone begins to feel that whatever he does for you is like pouring water into a basket.
Some people have unbearable ‘sense of entitlement’- that is, an attitude that whatever someone does for them is their right and such hardly (if ever) elicits a heartfelt ‘thank you’ from them. It’s a terrible attitude and the worst thing that can happen to anybody is when someone that makes your smile his/her priority simply stops ‘trying’ because you don’t seem to appreciate their efforts towards you. Never push a caring person to the point where he/she feels unappreciated. You may not be able to undo the damage- if they ever decide to stop bothering about you. I am yet to see someone who truly feels appreciated -stop making efforts.
Whoever you appreciate/flatter will most likely double his efforts in making your smile his or her priority.
Let me also emphasize that, it is actually a man who knows his onions that can elicit this level (as quoted above) of appreciation from his woman. A good deed precedes appreciation-majorly. Your woman cannot appreciate you out of the blues, if you have been most irresponsible in your obligations (economic, emotional, sexual, etc.) towards her.
Many ladies do not know that appreciation enslaves a man. Appreciation is priceless but difficult to give out’’
For the men, appreciation works wonders on women. It matter a lot when you make your woman know that you understand her stress and efforts in keeping your home which is actually very multi tasking once the kids start arriving. If you want to give flowers for the purpose of letting her know you love her and appreciate her, try to give them when there is absolutely no other reason to do so. Flowers may be expected on certain days—and you should give them when appropriate—but try to surprise her with a nice bouquet when she does not expect them.
Pay Attention When She Expresses a Desire. Listen to her when she casually mentions she “would like to have one of those.” Write those things down and refer to your list when it comes time to find a gift. Romance never grows old. plan dates with your wife. Hire a babysitter. Write love notes. Brush your teeth. Shower her with public displays of affection (as long as she is comfortable). She should know that she is the most important person in the world to you, and she wants the world to know it too. Showing affection when you are with other people will help strengthen your relationship.
Respect her. Respect comes in many forms. Support her decision with the kids. Keep your disagreements private. Be honest with her. Communicate early and often when plans have to change.
This can only come from a woman that either appreciates her blessing or a woman who has studied and mastered the ever efficient art of flattery. I teach women this (appreciation/flattery) a lot. Go out of your way to appreciate your man’s efforts (no matter how little) towards your happiness. Any man
you praise for the little favours he shows you -will double his efforts next time. It is most discouraging when someone begins to feel that whatever he does for you is like pouring water into a basket.
Some people have unbearable ‘sense of entitlement’- that is, an attitude that whatever someone does for them is their right and such hardly (if ever) elicits a heartfelt ‘thank you’ from them. It’s a terrible attitude and the worst thing that can happen to anybody is when someone that makes your smile his/her priority simply stops ‘trying’ because you don’t seem to appreciate their efforts towards you. Never push a caring person to the point where he/she feels unappreciated. You may not be able to undo the damage- if they ever decide to stop bothering about you. I am yet to see someone who truly feels appreciated -stop making efforts.
Whoever you appreciate/flatter will most likely double his efforts in making your smile his or her priority.
Let me also emphasize that, it is actually a man who knows his onions that can elicit this level (as quoted above) of appreciation from his woman. A good deed precedes appreciation-majorly. Your woman cannot appreciate you out of the blues, if you have been most irresponsible in your obligations (economic, emotional, sexual, etc.) towards her.
Many ladies do not know that appreciation enslaves a man. Appreciation is priceless but difficult to give out’’
For the men, appreciation works wonders on women. It matter a lot when you make your woman know that you understand her stress and efforts in keeping your home which is actually very multi tasking once the kids start arriving. If you want to give flowers for the purpose of letting her know you love her and appreciate her, try to give them when there is absolutely no other reason to do so. Flowers may be expected on certain days—and you should give them when appropriate—but try to surprise her with a nice bouquet when she does not expect them.
Pay Attention When She Expresses a Desire. Listen to her when she casually mentions she “would like to have one of those.” Write those things down and refer to your list when it comes time to find a gift. Romance never grows old. plan dates with your wife. Hire a babysitter. Write love notes. Brush your teeth. Shower her with public displays of affection (as long as she is comfortable). She should know that she is the most important person in the world to you, and she wants the world to know it too. Showing affection when you are with other people will help strengthen your relationship.
Respect her. Respect comes in many forms. Support her decision with the kids. Keep your disagreements private. Be honest with her. Communicate early and often when plans have to change.
Appreciate your man/woman today!
Culled from Laila's blog
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