Sunday 31 March 2013
Amazing 3D Images Of Babies In The Womb
Saturday 30 March 2013
Happy Easter
Easter gives us yet another reason to be thankful to God. Have the joy of the coming of Christ be filled in your heart and bring peace into your life. Have a Blessed Easter!
Pornógraphy case: Covenant University was right to expel student – Court
Vwamhi had challenged the institution over his expulsion for being in possession of pornógraphic materials in his laptop.
The case was dismissed for lack of merit.
It would be recalled that Vwamhi was on November 27, 2012 expelled from the institution following the outcome of the Disciplinary Committee set up by the university which found him guilty of being in possession of pornógraphic materials and indecent dressing.
The Covenant University, its Vice Chancellor and Chancellor were the first, second and third defendants, respectively while Felix’s mother, Mrs
Indo Felix Vwamhi of Block House 13 Mbora Estate, Abuja was a co-plaintiff in the suit.
While delivering his judgment, Justice Ojo found out that the student had indeed violated the university regulations as contained in chapter 4, section 35 of its student’s hand book which prohibits public display or possession of pornógraphic films or photograph.
He noted that the student also admitted being in possession of the laptop containing the pornógraphic materials and sharing same laptop with friends in the school.
He affirmed that the panel set up by the university to try the student did not violate section 36 of the 1999 constitution as amended and the principles of “Audi Alterem Partem and Nemo Judex in Causa Sua” . That one cannot be a judge in his own course.”
According to him, the claimant did not state categorically that the chairman of the panel was biased being the Dean of Students Affairs whose staff investigated the student in question.
The Judge also faulted the claimant’s counsel for his inability to file counter affidavit against the issues raised by the respondents, adding that, in a situation where the party to a dispute could not file counter affidavit it would be assumed he admitted.
Justice Ojo however, stated that the school authority should reconsider the passionate appeal made by the student’s father to revisit and review the decision of the Student Disciplinary Committee to avert possible miscarriage of justice and colossal human and material wastage.
The father pleaded with the university authority to tamper justice with mercy and recall the student, stressing that he needs encouragement to complete his education, having spent four years already.
Girl Masqueraded as a Boy to Get 16-year-old Girl into Bed
Justine McNally fooled the 16-year-old and her family and friends with her disguise as a "Goth" called Scott, and she was welcomed into their home. She then lured her into intimate encounters, promising her marriage and children.
Jailing her for three years, Judge James Patrick said: "She had her first sexual experience with you, and you abused her trust so badly she finds it difficult to trust other people".
"It was selfish and callous behaviour - a grave abuse of trust of her, her family and friends through your behaviour over a period of years."
The deception was so successful that the girl believed she had lost her virginity to "Scott". But her secret identity was exposed when a sex toy was found in her bag.
Prosecutor David Markham described it as "an extraordinary case" in which sexual consent was obtained "by fraud".
The couple began their relationship after meeting through an online videogame when they were 12 and 13.
They eventually met in March 2011, when McNally, posing as Scott, visited the girl in north London, staying with a friend of her family.
They had talked about having sex during MSN webchats and in video calls, and the relationship turned physical immediately.
But initially McNally refused to remove her clothes, claiming that she simply wanted to please her lover. Eventually the teenager was deceived into believing that they had attempted to have sex, the court heard.
She believed they were girlfriend and boyfriend. "They talked about getting married and having children in the future", Mr Markham said.
McNally was almost exposed when she broke up with another girl who she had been dating in her home town, Glasgow.
The spurned woman got in touch with her rival in north London, and made a comment about "Scott" being a girl.
But when confronted McNally lied her way out of the situation.
Eventually, in November 2011, a family friend of the victim became suspicious and looked through McNally's possessions.
"The friend found a bra, a size 12 River Island top, and as she was talking (to the girl's mother) she found a strap on penis in the bag", said Mr Markham.
The mother and daughter confronted McNally, who produced a picture on Facebook of her dressed in pink clothing and heels, and said she wanted to have a sex change to continue the relationship.
Mr Markham said the victim was "literally sickened", and ended the relationship and called police.
"What should be an exciting era in her life has been darkened by what has been done to her," said Mr Markham.
"She feels completely bereft and besieged with self-doubt."
McNally, who admitted six counts of sexual assault, will be on the Sex Offenders' Register for life and is banned from contact the victim or her mother.
Jailing her for three years, Judge James Patrick said: "She had her first sexual experience with you, and you abused her trust so badly she finds it difficult to trust other people".
"It was selfish and callous behaviour - a grave abuse of trust of her, her family and friends through your behaviour over a period of years."
The deception was so successful that the girl believed she had lost her virginity to "Scott". But her secret identity was exposed when a sex toy was found in her bag.
Prosecutor David Markham described it as "an extraordinary case" in which sexual consent was obtained "by fraud".
The couple began their relationship after meeting through an online videogame when they were 12 and 13.
They eventually met in March 2011, when McNally, posing as Scott, visited the girl in north London, staying with a friend of her family.
They had talked about having sex during MSN webchats and in video calls, and the relationship turned physical immediately.
But initially McNally refused to remove her clothes, claiming that she simply wanted to please her lover. Eventually the teenager was deceived into believing that they had attempted to have sex, the court heard.
She believed they were girlfriend and boyfriend. "They talked about getting married and having children in the future", Mr Markham said.
McNally was almost exposed when she broke up with another girl who she had been dating in her home town, Glasgow.
The spurned woman got in touch with her rival in north London, and made a comment about "Scott" being a girl.
But when confronted McNally lied her way out of the situation.
Eventually, in November 2011, a family friend of the victim became suspicious and looked through McNally's possessions.
"The friend found a bra, a size 12 River Island top, and as she was talking (to the girl's mother) she found a strap on penis in the bag", said Mr Markham.
The mother and daughter confronted McNally, who produced a picture on Facebook of her dressed in pink clothing and heels, and said she wanted to have a sex change to continue the relationship.
Mr Markham said the victim was "literally sickened", and ended the relationship and called police.
"What should be an exciting era in her life has been darkened by what has been done to her," said Mr Markham.
"She feels completely bereft and besieged with self-doubt."
McNally, who admitted six counts of sexual assault, will be on the Sex Offenders' Register for life and is banned from contact the victim or her mother.
Man Stabs Girlfriend To Death After Sex
A civil servant with the Ministry of Education in Ekiti State (name withheld) has allegedly stabbed his lover to death during an argument which arose between the two after sex.
The suspect was said to have taken the 24-year-old lady, Tosin Alabi, to a hotel on Ajilosun Road in Ado Ekiti on March 24 to catch some fun.
Our correspondent gathered that an argument arose between the two lovers after they had had sex and the man refused to 'settle' Tosin as earlier agreed.
The lady was said to have insisted that he must pay her what he promised before having sex with her and this led to a fight.
The man, who was said to have been slightly drunk, grabbed a bottle, broke it and stabbed the lady on the neck and buttocks.
Sympathisers and some of the hotel workers were said to have rushed the lady to a nearby hospital but there was no doctor to attend to her.
She was later taken to the Ekiti State University Teaching Hospital, Ado Ekiti where she was confirmed dead.
The boyfriend was said to have escaped and gone into hiding and has not been sighted since the incident happened.
Another source told journalists that a man took the lady to a club but another man hijacked her and had sex with her.
The fight which led to Tosin's death was said to have broken out between her and the man who hijacked her at the hotel.
The Police Public Relations Officer in the state, Mr. Victor Babayemi, told our correspondent that he was not aware of the incident because he had been away from the state for more than a week.
He promised to send the telephone number of a police officer to contact for reaction to the incident, but he had yet to do so at the time of filing this report.
One of the brothers of the deceased, Mr. Paul Owolabi, told journalists that he gathered from the hotel that the man who took Tosin to the hotel stabbed her to death as a result of a dispute over how much to pay her after having sex with her.
Owolabi accused the police of trying to cover the man who committed the crime but he said that the family would not allow that to happen.
He said, "By now, the police ought to have made some arrests, including the owner of the hotel. The police said the father of Tosin's boyfriend was arrested but was later released. We don't know why the police should hurriedly release the man whose son stabbed our sister to death when the killer is still in hiding.
Meanwhile, an Ado Ekiti High Court has sentenced one Mallam Usman Sule to death by hanging over the killing of Mallam Mohammed Sheu, who was his neighbour.
The killing was said to have been carried out at Aramoko Ekiti about a year ago. The two mallams were said to be from Sokoto State.
Justice John Adeyeye, in a judgment on Thursday, held that Sule was guilty of murder and conspiracy based on the evidence presented before him by the prosecuting counsel, Mr. Olufemi Alabi, who is the Deputy Director of Public Prosecution in the state judiciary.
The court ruled that the evidence given by the witnesses, who are neighbours of the two mallams, was enough to convince the court that Sule committed the crime.
The suspect was said to have taken the 24-year-old lady, Tosin Alabi, to a hotel on Ajilosun Road in Ado Ekiti on March 24 to catch some fun.
Our correspondent gathered that an argument arose between the two lovers after they had had sex and the man refused to 'settle' Tosin as earlier agreed.
The lady was said to have insisted that he must pay her what he promised before having sex with her and this led to a fight.
The man, who was said to have been slightly drunk, grabbed a bottle, broke it and stabbed the lady on the neck and buttocks.
Sympathisers and some of the hotel workers were said to have rushed the lady to a nearby hospital but there was no doctor to attend to her.
She was later taken to the Ekiti State University Teaching Hospital, Ado Ekiti where she was confirmed dead.
The boyfriend was said to have escaped and gone into hiding and has not been sighted since the incident happened.
Another source told journalists that a man took the lady to a club but another man hijacked her and had sex with her.
The fight which led to Tosin's death was said to have broken out between her and the man who hijacked her at the hotel.
The Police Public Relations Officer in the state, Mr. Victor Babayemi, told our correspondent that he was not aware of the incident because he had been away from the state for more than a week.
He promised to send the telephone number of a police officer to contact for reaction to the incident, but he had yet to do so at the time of filing this report.
One of the brothers of the deceased, Mr. Paul Owolabi, told journalists that he gathered from the hotel that the man who took Tosin to the hotel stabbed her to death as a result of a dispute over how much to pay her after having sex with her.
Owolabi accused the police of trying to cover the man who committed the crime but he said that the family would not allow that to happen.
He said, "By now, the police ought to have made some arrests, including the owner of the hotel. The police said the father of Tosin's boyfriend was arrested but was later released. We don't know why the police should hurriedly release the man whose son stabbed our sister to death when the killer is still in hiding.
Meanwhile, an Ado Ekiti High Court has sentenced one Mallam Usman Sule to death by hanging over the killing of Mallam Mohammed Sheu, who was his neighbour.
The killing was said to have been carried out at Aramoko Ekiti about a year ago. The two mallams were said to be from Sokoto State.
Justice John Adeyeye, in a judgment on Thursday, held that Sule was guilty of murder and conspiracy based on the evidence presented before him by the prosecuting counsel, Mr. Olufemi Alabi, who is the Deputy Director of Public Prosecution in the state judiciary.
The court ruled that the evidence given by the witnesses, who are neighbours of the two mallams, was enough to convince the court that Sule committed the crime.
Brothers Arrested For Slicing Neighbour’s Scrotum
For 22-year-old Sunday Onyike, a Business Administration student of Yaba College of Technology, Yaba Lagos, the hope of successfully rounding up his programme with the his peers have been dashed.
This is because of the prolonged treatment he has been receiving since March, 2011 as a result of serious injury he sustained during a scuffle with his neighbours identified as Augustine Eleyi, 28, and Emeka Eleyi, 32, from Ohozara in Mgbo Ebonyi State.
Sunday, the only son of his parents from Ohafia in AbiaState, had his scrotum slashed off during a fight with two of his neighbours.
Narrating the circumstances that led to the problem to Crime Guard at their Makoko residence, the father of the victim, Onyike Okpara,65, stated; "I have been living in this compound since 1970. I had five children but only two are alive; that is Sunday and his younger sister who works at LagosIsland.
I occupy two rooms in the building, one room which I sleep in, and the other at the back of the building, where my children sleep. When ever my daughter comes home from work, she buys and shares biscuits, sweets and gala to our neighbour's children. So, the children always look forward to her returning from work.
More so, when ever she is sharing these goodies to the children, two of our neighbours, Augustine Eleyi and his elder brother, Emeka Eleyi (who normally sits on the chair I kept in front of my children's room at the boys quarters to smoke Indian hemp), would always walk up to them, grab what ever is within their grasp, and flee. Instead of them to ask, they would grab what ever they can and run away. My daughter complained about this to me, and I had called and cautioned them to desist from such act, but they would not listen.
On the evening of March 1st, 2011, she was seated at the boys' quarters with some children sharing some gala when Augustine Eleyi, came and as usual, grabbed one gala and ran away.
My daughter pursued him and in the process, N200 fell from his pocket. She picked it up and said it would serve as a payment for all the gala and biscuits he has been snatching from them.
Later on, on a second thought, she decided to give him back the money as she thought it was not worth it.
Having searched around for him, and not knowing of his whereabouts, she decided to give him the money the next day.
On the evening of that day which was the 2nd of March, 2011, after she got back from work, she took the money to him at the boys quarters, but he said he does not want it anymore. At that point, an argument ensued between them, during which his younger brother, Emeka Eleyi collected the money from my daughter.
As the argument continued, my son Sunday who was in the room preparing for the next day's lecture, told his sister to let the matter be, and go to our main room and sleep, while he asked Augustine and Emeka to leave the place because they were disturbing him with their noise.
Augustine asked him if the place looked like his school hostel, that if he wants to read, he should pack his books and go to his school hostel. As the argument raged, he slapped my son, who grabbed him on his shirt asking 'what have I done to you'?, Emeka rushed to them pretending as if we was going for peace only for him to grab my son's two hands, while Augustine rushed and fetched a sharp object, and used it to slash my son's scrotum.
I feel he actually wanted to cut off his male organ, but missed. My son's cry of agony attracted the attention of passersby, because part of the compound is a thoroughfare; it was these passersby that ran to inform us at the other side of the building.
I ran to the place and met my son in a pool of his blood. On sighting us, the culprits bolted. I wanted to run after them but I was weakened by the sight of my son lying in pains, in the pool of his blood.
I also thought, if I go after them at that point, what would be the fate of my son when I get back, hence I opted to stay back, with the help of the other neighbours and some of our church members, my son was rushed to the State Criminal Investigations Department, SCID, Panti, Yaba, from where we obtained a note to take him to the hospital. At that time, the GeneralHospital was on strike, we brought my son back to Adekunle Police Station, and they asked us to find a private hospital and take him there.
So, we took him to a private hospital at Iwaya. Augustine and Emeka were later apprehended by neighbours who went after them, and handed over to the police."
Crime Guard learnt that the case has been at the Yaba Magistrate's Court since 2011. Onyike Okpara further told our reporter that for one month his son was at the hospital in Iwaya, the Eleyi family only contributed N15,000 for the medical bills. He stated, "after the initial N15,000 installment they brought when Sunday was taken to the hospital, I have not heard from them.
Three times, my pastor and family called them to seek out ways to settle the matter amicably; when they come, they will be dribbling us, they will promise to contribute to the medical bills but we wont hear from them after that. I have so far spent almost N200,000, I have the medical bill to prove that".
He also alleged that some members of the Eleyi family have threatened him to accept their term of payment, which is to pay N40,000, as their contribution; and withdraw the case from court. He stated, "On November 18, 2012 at about 9:30pm, they sent six men, out of which I recognized three, they came asking me to sign a document, I could not properly read through because of my poor sight, at that time of the night.
One of them practically told me that " so many people die in Lagos every day, and their corpses are never discovered; I would want your corpse to be found". What he meant by that, I do not know. I don't feel safe anymore.
First, they tried to take my son away, now they are threatening me to accept a condition I don't think any of them would accept if it were their son that was involved."
Counsel to the defendant, Worer Obuagbaka, on his part told Crime Guard that what happened between the defendant and the complainant was unfortunate.
According to him, they have been living peacefully together for some years, what we are trying to do is to see if we can settle the case amicably." He said the defendants have been granted bail but are still in police custody because they have not been able to perfect their bail.
This is because of the prolonged treatment he has been receiving since March, 2011 as a result of serious injury he sustained during a scuffle with his neighbours identified as Augustine Eleyi, 28, and Emeka Eleyi, 32, from Ohozara in Mgbo Ebonyi State.
Sunday, the only son of his parents from Ohafia in AbiaState, had his scrotum slashed off during a fight with two of his neighbours.
Narrating the circumstances that led to the problem to Crime Guard at their Makoko residence, the father of the victim, Onyike Okpara,65, stated; "I have been living in this compound since 1970. I had five children but only two are alive; that is Sunday and his younger sister who works at LagosIsland.
I occupy two rooms in the building, one room which I sleep in, and the other at the back of the building, where my children sleep. When ever my daughter comes home from work, she buys and shares biscuits, sweets and gala to our neighbour's children. So, the children always look forward to her returning from work.
More so, when ever she is sharing these goodies to the children, two of our neighbours, Augustine Eleyi and his elder brother, Emeka Eleyi (who normally sits on the chair I kept in front of my children's room at the boys quarters to smoke Indian hemp), would always walk up to them, grab what ever is within their grasp, and flee. Instead of them to ask, they would grab what ever they can and run away. My daughter complained about this to me, and I had called and cautioned them to desist from such act, but they would not listen.
On the evening of March 1st, 2011, she was seated at the boys' quarters with some children sharing some gala when Augustine Eleyi, came and as usual, grabbed one gala and ran away.
My daughter pursued him and in the process, N200 fell from his pocket. She picked it up and said it would serve as a payment for all the gala and biscuits he has been snatching from them.
Later on, on a second thought, she decided to give him back the money as she thought it was not worth it.
Having searched around for him, and not knowing of his whereabouts, she decided to give him the money the next day.
On the evening of that day which was the 2nd of March, 2011, after she got back from work, she took the money to him at the boys quarters, but he said he does not want it anymore. At that point, an argument ensued between them, during which his younger brother, Emeka Eleyi collected the money from my daughter.
As the argument continued, my son Sunday who was in the room preparing for the next day's lecture, told his sister to let the matter be, and go to our main room and sleep, while he asked Augustine and Emeka to leave the place because they were disturbing him with their noise.
Augustine asked him if the place looked like his school hostel, that if he wants to read, he should pack his books and go to his school hostel. As the argument raged, he slapped my son, who grabbed him on his shirt asking 'what have I done to you'?, Emeka rushed to them pretending as if we was going for peace only for him to grab my son's two hands, while Augustine rushed and fetched a sharp object, and used it to slash my son's scrotum.
I feel he actually wanted to cut off his male organ, but missed. My son's cry of agony attracted the attention of passersby, because part of the compound is a thoroughfare; it was these passersby that ran to inform us at the other side of the building.
I ran to the place and met my son in a pool of his blood. On sighting us, the culprits bolted. I wanted to run after them but I was weakened by the sight of my son lying in pains, in the pool of his blood.
I also thought, if I go after them at that point, what would be the fate of my son when I get back, hence I opted to stay back, with the help of the other neighbours and some of our church members, my son was rushed to the State Criminal Investigations Department, SCID, Panti, Yaba, from where we obtained a note to take him to the hospital. At that time, the GeneralHospital was on strike, we brought my son back to Adekunle Police Station, and they asked us to find a private hospital and take him there.
So, we took him to a private hospital at Iwaya. Augustine and Emeka were later apprehended by neighbours who went after them, and handed over to the police."
Crime Guard learnt that the case has been at the Yaba Magistrate's Court since 2011. Onyike Okpara further told our reporter that for one month his son was at the hospital in Iwaya, the Eleyi family only contributed N15,000 for the medical bills. He stated, "after the initial N15,000 installment they brought when Sunday was taken to the hospital, I have not heard from them.
Three times, my pastor and family called them to seek out ways to settle the matter amicably; when they come, they will be dribbling us, they will promise to contribute to the medical bills but we wont hear from them after that. I have so far spent almost N200,000, I have the medical bill to prove that".
He also alleged that some members of the Eleyi family have threatened him to accept their term of payment, which is to pay N40,000, as their contribution; and withdraw the case from court. He stated, "On November 18, 2012 at about 9:30pm, they sent six men, out of which I recognized three, they came asking me to sign a document, I could not properly read through because of my poor sight, at that time of the night.
One of them practically told me that " so many people die in Lagos every day, and their corpses are never discovered; I would want your corpse to be found". What he meant by that, I do not know. I don't feel safe anymore.
First, they tried to take my son away, now they are threatening me to accept a condition I don't think any of them would accept if it were their son that was involved."
Counsel to the defendant, Worer Obuagbaka, on his part told Crime Guard that what happened between the defendant and the complainant was unfortunate.
According to him, they have been living peacefully together for some years, what we are trying to do is to see if we can settle the case amicably." He said the defendants have been granted bail but are still in police custody because they have not been able to perfect their bail.
Friday 29 March 2013
It's Good Friday
On this Good Friday may we never forget the true meaning of Easter - 'For when He was on the cross, we're on His mind.
Why Good Friday is observed. Good Friday is observed during the Holy Week on the Friday preceding the Easter Sunday. For Christians, unlike Christmas, Good Friday is a day of mourning.
According to the Canonical gospel, Jesus Christ was crucified on this Friday after much torment and sufferings which eventually lead to his death. So, they lament on the crucifixion and death of Jesus Christ which they believe is of great essence as it brought salvation to the human race.
This year, Good Friday 2013 will be observed today: Friday, March 29. People will gather at the churches and attend mass, sing Good Friday songs, read passages from the holy Bible to mark the significance of Good Friday. Every year on this day, devotees in black clothes assemble at the church and take out processions of Jesus' idol.
A ritual burial is also carried out. Statues and pictures of Jesus at churches are covered in black clothes to mourn the day. At the mass prayers, priest read Good Friday sermons from the Bible and remember Jesus. Many people at the end of the day or procession spend sometime to meditate and chant prayers silently.
Moreover, many devotional followers of Christ abstain from having meat or wine, and if possible keep a fast. Churches also encourage people to become actively involved in philanthropic activities for the well being of the society.
Celebration of Good Friday is observed across the world including India where a majority of Christian population resides.
Why Good Friday is observed. Good Friday is observed during the Holy Week on the Friday preceding the Easter Sunday. For Christians, unlike Christmas, Good Friday is a day of mourning.
According to the Canonical gospel, Jesus Christ was crucified on this Friday after much torment and sufferings which eventually lead to his death. So, they lament on the crucifixion and death of Jesus Christ which they believe is of great essence as it brought salvation to the human race.
This year, Good Friday 2013 will be observed today: Friday, March 29. People will gather at the churches and attend mass, sing Good Friday songs, read passages from the holy Bible to mark the significance of Good Friday. Every year on this day, devotees in black clothes assemble at the church and take out processions of Jesus' idol.
A ritual burial is also carried out. Statues and pictures of Jesus at churches are covered in black clothes to mourn the day. At the mass prayers, priest read Good Friday sermons from the Bible and remember Jesus. Many people at the end of the day or procession spend sometime to meditate and chant prayers silently.
Moreover, many devotional followers of Christ abstain from having meat or wine, and if possible keep a fast. Churches also encourage people to become actively involved in philanthropic activities for the well being of the society.
Celebration of Good Friday is observed across the world including India where a majority of Christian population resides.
Thursday 28 March 2013
Girl Raped To Death With A Huge Wood Left In Her Private Part [VIEWER DISCRETION]
I got this from another blog and I thought I should share it! There is need to advocate against it and I hope they catch the perpetrators!
My attention was drawn to this extremely disturbing photo of a young woman pictured dead with a long thick wood stuck in her private part.
The website which reported it didn’t give details as to the location this young girl was murdered…whether this heinous crime even took place in Nigeria. I have contemplated for hours if I should report this story because it has little or no details.
One thing stands true, details or not. This young woman was SOMEBODY!! She had a name. She was somebody’s daughter, sister, friend and maybe wife or mother. She also had a right to live like any one of us. But for some unjustifiable reason, some evil person felt he had the right to take her life…and not just taking the life but in such a gruesome manner. Click below to see photo. WARNING!!! PHOTO VERY GRAPHIC.
We must all stand up in one voice and say ENOUGH!!! We can no longer pretend that RAPE is not a serious concern. This is so un-African! This strange phenomenon is not part of our culture. That is why we must condemn those artistes who glorify date rape, date rape drugs and violence in their lyrics…making it look like some hip fad.
I pray this photo would become viral enough to shock the world to action. I am also hoping that the police will find useful leads to the perpetrators of this crime.
As more details unfold on this story, I shall keep you all updated.
Young African sister, may your soul rest in peace.
10 Sexy Things Women Have No Idea They’re Doing
There are so many lists and essays out there that are vague spin-offs on "how to appear sexy to guys." (And, lord knows, plenty of the inverse.)
But isn't it almost always the things people do naturally, things they have no idea they're even doing, that end up being the most alluring?
In that spirit, here are some sexy things that require zero practice, because you're already doing them:
1. Holding eye contact that extra second
2. Buying a round of drinks for the group
3. Laughing heartily, not just elegantly
4. Asking people the last good book they read
5. Saying exactly what she wants to do next on a date-even if he already had something else planned
6. That thing where a thick strand of hair falls over one eye, and she doesn't move it right away
7. Getting excited just talking about her work
8. Making fun of passersby
9. Making friends with strangers
10. Calling out things that are boring, instead of feigning interest in them
But isn't it almost always the things people do naturally, things they have no idea they're even doing, that end up being the most alluring?
In that spirit, here are some sexy things that require zero practice, because you're already doing them:
1. Holding eye contact that extra second
2. Buying a round of drinks for the group
3. Laughing heartily, not just elegantly
4. Asking people the last good book they read
5. Saying exactly what she wants to do next on a date-even if he already had something else planned
6. That thing where a thick strand of hair falls over one eye, and she doesn't move it right away
7. Getting excited just talking about her work
8. Making fun of passersby
9. Making friends with strangers
10. Calling out things that are boring, instead of feigning interest in them
Women Receive First Mother-to-Daughter Womb Transplants
According to officials at the University of Goteborg in Sweden, two Swedish women received the world's first mother-to-daughter uterine transplants at the Sahlgrenska Hospital and are doing well. Both recipients are in their 30s and received the uteri from their biological mothers.
The first transplant recipient had her uterus removed several years ago following a bout with cervical cancer. The second woman was born without a uterus. Prior to both uterine transplants, both women underwent a procedure to harvest their eggs. The embryos were then fertilized and frozen.
Within the next seven months, both women will receive an embryo transfer and may be able to give birth in an estimated 16 months. The transplants officially took place in September of 2012, and both women have successfully accommodated the transplants to date. This comes after Goteborg University spent more than a decade researching and developing the procedures.
A team of more than 10 surgeons, led by chief physician Dr. Mats Brannstrom, trained together for several years before attempting the surgery. "So far, the procedures have been a success, but the final proof will be the birth of a healthy child," Dr. Michael Olausson, surgeon and professor, told CNN.
The main goal of the surgeries is to provide hope for those without uteri, as in Sweden alone there are an estimated 2,000 to 3,000 women of childbearing age who fall into this category. In the year 2000, doctors in Saudi Arabia attempted the procedure that failed after three months due to a blood clot.
According to Olausson, the chances for organ rejection are expected to be lower for the two Swedish women because their donors are both family members. Plus, he suggested that the "emotional connection" between both mothers and daughters is an extremely important factor. Doctors are closely monitoring both women to assure they are reacting well to the prescribed anti-rejection drugs. The transplanted wombs will in theory accommodate up to two pregnancies.
The wombs will then be removed and the women taken off of anti-rejection drugs, which can cause a number of conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes and swelling. Additionally, the drugs have been noted to increase an individual's risk of cancer. In a USA Today interview Scott Nelson, chairman of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Glasgow, Scotland agreed that if the procedure works and pregnancies result in the coming months, this will be a major breakthrough for the world of medicine."
At present, the only option for these women is to have a surrogacy - i.e., having their embryos implanted into another woman." Nelson theorized that the major concern is the proper development of the women's potential babies, as the donated wombs contain less blood vessels than the average uterus. The doctors at the University of Goteborg remain confident that the uterus transplants will be a success. Olausson isn't fearful that the anti-rejection drugs will cause problems with the fetuses. The ultimate success will be the birth of healthy babies in the coming months.
The first transplant recipient had her uterus removed several years ago following a bout with cervical cancer. The second woman was born without a uterus. Prior to both uterine transplants, both women underwent a procedure to harvest their eggs. The embryos were then fertilized and frozen.
Within the next seven months, both women will receive an embryo transfer and may be able to give birth in an estimated 16 months. The transplants officially took place in September of 2012, and both women have successfully accommodated the transplants to date. This comes after Goteborg University spent more than a decade researching and developing the procedures.
A team of more than 10 surgeons, led by chief physician Dr. Mats Brannstrom, trained together for several years before attempting the surgery. "So far, the procedures have been a success, but the final proof will be the birth of a healthy child," Dr. Michael Olausson, surgeon and professor, told CNN.
The main goal of the surgeries is to provide hope for those without uteri, as in Sweden alone there are an estimated 2,000 to 3,000 women of childbearing age who fall into this category. In the year 2000, doctors in Saudi Arabia attempted the procedure that failed after three months due to a blood clot.
According to Olausson, the chances for organ rejection are expected to be lower for the two Swedish women because their donors are both family members. Plus, he suggested that the "emotional connection" between both mothers and daughters is an extremely important factor. Doctors are closely monitoring both women to assure they are reacting well to the prescribed anti-rejection drugs. The transplanted wombs will in theory accommodate up to two pregnancies.
The wombs will then be removed and the women taken off of anti-rejection drugs, which can cause a number of conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes and swelling. Additionally, the drugs have been noted to increase an individual's risk of cancer. In a USA Today interview Scott Nelson, chairman of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Glasgow, Scotland agreed that if the procedure works and pregnancies result in the coming months, this will be a major breakthrough for the world of medicine."
At present, the only option for these women is to have a surrogacy - i.e., having their embryos implanted into another woman." Nelson theorized that the major concern is the proper development of the women's potential babies, as the donated wombs contain less blood vessels than the average uterus. The doctors at the University of Goteborg remain confident that the uterus transplants will be a success. Olausson isn't fearful that the anti-rejection drugs will cause problems with the fetuses. The ultimate success will be the birth of healthy babies in the coming months.
Wednesday 27 March 2013
Reasons Why Sex Really Does Change Everything
"Sex changes everything." It's the cliched advice that our friends love to give us after the fact, when it's already too late. But what exactly does sex change? And why? As luck would have it, there is extensive research on the topic. Here's the breakdown of what happens to you, chemically, when you have sex and what it means.
1. Orgasm makes you lose control of your rational mind. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you the lateral orbitofrontal cortex. It's the part of your brain that's responsible for reason and self-control. And guess what? When you orgasm, it shuts off. Completely. In both men and women. So, at the moment of orgasm, you are not thinking rationally.
In fact, you can't. So all of the rules of engagement that you've been holding yourself to with this stranger/friend/person you're dating fly temporarily out the window.
2. "Trust Drugs". Every heard of oxytocin? It's a kind of a big-wig, hormonally speaking. Oxytocin's basically running the block, reproduction-wise. Lactation? Erections? The strength of your orgasm? Oxytocin, oxytocin, oxytocin. This power-hormone's most famous achievement, though, is that it's largely responsible for making you like and trust people. And when you orgasm? Huge spike. So. At the precise moment that your reason control center shuts down, you experience a rush of hormones that make you like and trust the person you've just had sex with. You like and trust and trust this person. A lot. Without understanding why. Then it goes away.
3. Women are addicted to oxytocin. Men aren't. Kissing, hugging, caressing, positive touch in general - all these things release oxytocin in a big way. Because girls tend to get more physical affection from their family and peers at an early age,, many women may have developed an oxytocin dependency. Like, the equivalent of a drug dependency. Men, while they like oxytocin, aren't necessarily addicted to it. Part of the function of oxytocin is that it makes you associate the drug high with the person who was with you when you got high. The more intense the high is for you, the more you're going to want to see that person again. Whether you like it or not.
So… What Do We Do? Sex causes an irrational attachment - one that doesn't necessarily match up with your thoughts and feelings outside of the bedroom. It can be difficult to negotiate the difference. Casual sex is, of course, possible.
So is Friends With Benefits if you're careful. But, I have to say that I have never had really mind-blowing sex (i.e. oxytocin-heavy sex) and had both parties mutually shrug "whatevs," afterward. It seems that if there's some rational, reality-based bond with a person before we have sex with them, it'll be a easier to deal with them, and ourselves, when we come back from our temporary trip to Orgasm-Trusty-Rainbow-Land. It doesn't have to be a committed relationship - just some kind of a lifeline back to reality.
A conversation about what your expectations are would work fine. Think of it like cleaning your apartment before you go on vacation. It's up to you if you do or don't, but you're usually glad you did when you do.
1. Orgasm makes you lose control of your rational mind. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you the lateral orbitofrontal cortex. It's the part of your brain that's responsible for reason and self-control. And guess what? When you orgasm, it shuts off. Completely. In both men and women. So, at the moment of orgasm, you are not thinking rationally.
In fact, you can't. So all of the rules of engagement that you've been holding yourself to with this stranger/friend/person you're dating fly temporarily out the window.
2. "Trust Drugs". Every heard of oxytocin? It's a kind of a big-wig, hormonally speaking. Oxytocin's basically running the block, reproduction-wise. Lactation? Erections? The strength of your orgasm? Oxytocin, oxytocin, oxytocin. This power-hormone's most famous achievement, though, is that it's largely responsible for making you like and trust people. And when you orgasm? Huge spike. So. At the precise moment that your reason control center shuts down, you experience a rush of hormones that make you like and trust the person you've just had sex with. You like and trust and trust this person. A lot. Without understanding why. Then it goes away.
3. Women are addicted to oxytocin. Men aren't. Kissing, hugging, caressing, positive touch in general - all these things release oxytocin in a big way. Because girls tend to get more physical affection from their family and peers at an early age,, many women may have developed an oxytocin dependency. Like, the equivalent of a drug dependency. Men, while they like oxytocin, aren't necessarily addicted to it. Part of the function of oxytocin is that it makes you associate the drug high with the person who was with you when you got high. The more intense the high is for you, the more you're going to want to see that person again. Whether you like it or not.
So… What Do We Do? Sex causes an irrational attachment - one that doesn't necessarily match up with your thoughts and feelings outside of the bedroom. It can be difficult to negotiate the difference. Casual sex is, of course, possible.
So is Friends With Benefits if you're careful. But, I have to say that I have never had really mind-blowing sex (i.e. oxytocin-heavy sex) and had both parties mutually shrug "whatevs," afterward. It seems that if there's some rational, reality-based bond with a person before we have sex with them, it'll be a easier to deal with them, and ourselves, when we come back from our temporary trip to Orgasm-Trusty-Rainbow-Land. It doesn't have to be a committed relationship - just some kind of a lifeline back to reality.
A conversation about what your expectations are would work fine. Think of it like cleaning your apartment before you go on vacation. It's up to you if you do or don't, but you're usually glad you did when you do.
7 Sex Positions Some Guys Love
The bedroom moves that men love: try these sex positions tonight.
Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Make his night and drive him crazy with these sex positions that men love. Ultimately, sex is about love and intimacy, so while the positions are part of the fun, the real payoff is the way various maneuvers allow you to connect and explore each other in different ways.
1. Woman on Top: Ask your guy what drives him crazy in the bedroom, and we're betting he'll say it's pleasing you. This sexy position puts you in the driver's seat, and that's exactly where he wants you. Take advantage of being in control and set the pace according to what you like, leaving his hands free to roam. The bonus? He loves having your curves in full view…so flip on the lights and give him a show.
2. Missionary: This standard go-to is a favorite because it puts him in control, while still being intimate: your hips are free to do all the work, and you can lock lips and eyes with ease. And while he's in the power position on top of you, the two of you can set the pace together. If you want him to go slower or deeper, put your hands on his hips and guide him. The best sex is like a conversation, and missionary allows you to communicate with your bodies.
3. Reverse Cowgirl: This reverse variation of the woman on top position is the best of both worlds for your guy. It gives him the sexy view he gets during doggie style but it puts you in control. This position doesn't allow for a ton of touching or eye contact, but it's a nice contrast to some of the more classic, romantic positions. If you're craving a connection flash a look back at him while you're doing your thing-it'll drive both of you over the edge.
4. Doggie Style: This rear entry positions puts him in control, allowing him to call the shots and to go at the speed that's best for him. Plus, it allows for deeper penetration, making him feel like king in the bedroom. Some women love the intense full feeling, but if it feels like too much, let him know. Communication is key to enjoying sex and experiencing the full psychological benefits of physical intimacy.
5. Standing Up: Getting it on while standing up is probably not your go-to move, but it's perfect for that sweaty, gotta-have-you-now sex that'll make him feel irresistible. Whether he's bending you over the new kitchen table or you're steadying yourself against the wall, this spontaneous position is perfect for a quickie.
Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Make his night and drive him crazy with these sex positions that men love. Ultimately, sex is about love and intimacy, so while the positions are part of the fun, the real payoff is the way various maneuvers allow you to connect and explore each other in different ways.
1. Woman on Top: Ask your guy what drives him crazy in the bedroom, and we're betting he'll say it's pleasing you. This sexy position puts you in the driver's seat, and that's exactly where he wants you. Take advantage of being in control and set the pace according to what you like, leaving his hands free to roam. The bonus? He loves having your curves in full view…so flip on the lights and give him a show.
2. Missionary: This standard go-to is a favorite because it puts him in control, while still being intimate: your hips are free to do all the work, and you can lock lips and eyes with ease. And while he's in the power position on top of you, the two of you can set the pace together. If you want him to go slower or deeper, put your hands on his hips and guide him. The best sex is like a conversation, and missionary allows you to communicate with your bodies.
3. Reverse Cowgirl: This reverse variation of the woman on top position is the best of both worlds for your guy. It gives him the sexy view he gets during doggie style but it puts you in control. This position doesn't allow for a ton of touching or eye contact, but it's a nice contrast to some of the more classic, romantic positions. If you're craving a connection flash a look back at him while you're doing your thing-it'll drive both of you over the edge.
4. Doggie Style: This rear entry positions puts him in control, allowing him to call the shots and to go at the speed that's best for him. Plus, it allows for deeper penetration, making him feel like king in the bedroom. Some women love the intense full feeling, but if it feels like too much, let him know. Communication is key to enjoying sex and experiencing the full psychological benefits of physical intimacy.
5. Standing Up: Getting it on while standing up is probably not your go-to move, but it's perfect for that sweaty, gotta-have-you-now sex that'll make him feel irresistible. Whether he's bending you over the new kitchen table or you're steadying yourself against the wall, this spontaneous position is perfect for a quickie.
5 Sex Positions Most Women Enjoy
Women are always ready to accept and enjoy men's favorite sex positions but women seldom ask for their favourite position(s).
The time has come for men to understand what women really want in bed.
Remember, great sex happens only when there is a smooth balance between pleasure and comfort.
We bring you five amazing sex positions you need to explore and women always wanted to have.
1. Get dirty with doggy style: Women definitely enjoy doggy style. It is probably one of the best sex positions, and also the most arousing position for men. Make sure to perform this style with intimacy and pleasure.
2. The overused style, missionary position: No doubt, the man-on-woman position is the most common one. It's boring but sex mostly begins with missionary position, and women still like it. In this position women get more intimate with their partners through eye contact.
3. Women like riding, cowgirl style: It's a big turn-on for both the sexes, and perhaps the sexiest sex position. Sometimes women like to dominate men during sex. In this position women can move back and forth and stimulate their G-spot for a big orgasm. You may also try reverse cowgirl position.
4. Get more intimate with spoons position: Side by side sexual position is one of the most comfortable sex positions, and it can really last long. Get naughtier by doing some dirty talk while you can.
5. Out of control, the standing position: Sometimes women want to jump out of the bed and play again in standing position. In this style, she sits on a surface and he thrust her from the front as deeply as he can, and in all likelihood gets the chance to hit the G-spot. Try this position in the kitchen or on a tabletop.
Give your girl the most amazing 'Big O' of her life.
The time has come for men to understand what women really want in bed.
Remember, great sex happens only when there is a smooth balance between pleasure and comfort.
We bring you five amazing sex positions you need to explore and women always wanted to have.
1. Get dirty with doggy style: Women definitely enjoy doggy style. It is probably one of the best sex positions, and also the most arousing position for men. Make sure to perform this style with intimacy and pleasure.
2. The overused style, missionary position: No doubt, the man-on-woman position is the most common one. It's boring but sex mostly begins with missionary position, and women still like it. In this position women get more intimate with their partners through eye contact.
3. Women like riding, cowgirl style: It's a big turn-on for both the sexes, and perhaps the sexiest sex position. Sometimes women like to dominate men during sex. In this position women can move back and forth and stimulate their G-spot for a big orgasm. You may also try reverse cowgirl position.
4. Get more intimate with spoons position: Side by side sexual position is one of the most comfortable sex positions, and it can really last long. Get naughtier by doing some dirty talk while you can.
5. Out of control, the standing position: Sometimes women want to jump out of the bed and play again in standing position. In this style, she sits on a surface and he thrust her from the front as deeply as he can, and in all likelihood gets the chance to hit the G-spot. Try this position in the kitchen or on a tabletop.
Give your girl the most amazing 'Big O' of her life.
Choir Master And A Choristers Cut Younger Colleague With Blade On The Face
Abigeal (26) and Remi (28), choristers at a Cherubim and Seraphim church at Ebute Meta, were alleged to have assaulted Hannah Okurabe (18) with razor blades at Abule Nla junction, a few metres away from the church.
The incident was said to be the result of an earlier fight over the church’s choirmaster, Joseph Unuigbe, a father of two. Joseph Unuigbe is married to a lady who is also a member of the same church.
Hannah is presently receiving treatment at the Lagos Island General Hospital, while Abigeal and Remi have been remanded in Kirikiri until they meet their bail terms.
Tuesday 26 March 2013
Study for Women: Using Soaps, Lubricants May 'Increase Risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections"
Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, say that soaps and lubricants can damage sensitive tissues and raise a woman's chance of becoming infected with herpes, chlamydia and HIV.
Study leader Joelle Brown said there is 'mounting evidence' that using these products internally can increase the risk of bacterial vaginosis - a condition that occurs when the bacterial balance becomes disrupted - and sexually transmitted infections.
Dr Brown's team recruited 141 women who agreed to answer questionnaires about their product use and undergo lab tests for vaginal infections.
The researchers found that 66% of the women reported using lubricants and cleansers internally. The most commonly used products were sexual lubricants - 70% of the product-using group used commercial lubricants, while 17% reported using petroleum jelly and 13% used oils.
Test results showed that the women who used products not intended for internal use, such as oils and Vaseline, were more likely to have yeast and bacterial infections, according to the findings published in the journal Obstetrics and Gynaecology.
For instance, 40% of the women who used petroleum jelly as a lubricant had bacterial vaginosis - an infection that can be caused by a number of common bacterial species - compared to 18% of women who did not insert petroleum jelly. And 44% of women who reported using oils tested positive for Candida, the fungus that causes yeast infections, compared to five per cent of women who did not use oils.
Researchers suggested the increased risk for these common infections might result from the products upsetting internal pH and beneficial microbe communities, allowing harmful organisms to proliferate.
Normally, the area is home to a finely tuned system of good and bad bacteria, which produce acids that protect against infections and viruses. Doctors do not recommend that women wash themselves internally because it can alter the balance of these bacteria and does not seem to offer any benefit.
The natural balance of bacteria in the vagina is an 'evolutionary protection that is just washed away', with soaps and perfumes according to Dr Michael Zinaman, chair of obstetrics and gynaecology at St Elizabeth's Medical Centre in Boston.
A representative for Vaseline manufacturer Unilever told Reuters Health: 'Vaseline Petroleum Jelly is for external use only, and we state this on our packaging for consumers. We do not recommend Vaseline Petroleum Jelly be used as a lubricant and have not performed any testing to support this use. Vaseline Petroleum Jelly should also not be used as a sexual lubricant in combination with latex barrier protection, as it can degrade the latex.'
The study did not determine why petroleum jelly might promote bacterial vaginosis.
Commercial sexual lubricants, which are designed for internal use, were not associated with an increased risk of infection in the study, but they still require further evaluation, according to Dr Brown.
However, Dr Mary Marnach, a specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, claims that, many personal lubricants contain glycerin which breaks down to sugars and promotes yeast infections and possibly also bacterial vaginosis, noted.
'For this reason I recommend lubricants without glycerin and those that are silicone based over the counter,' Dr Marnach said.
The fashion for scented intimate products can be linked to health issues, agrees Dr Sovra Whitcroft, a gynaecologist at the Surrey Park Clinic, Guildford. She said: 'The problem with perfumed products is that they change the natural pH or acidity of the vagina.
'The normal pH is four to five. If this is altered and made less acidic, it loses its natural protection and bacteria are allowed to thrive and multiply. The very product designed to improve body odour can, in a short space of time, do the opposite by contributing to an overgrowth of odour-producing bacteria.
'And many strong chemicals and perfumes can have a direct irritant effect on the sensitive mucosal lining as well as the relatively thin and delicate skin, causing contact dermatitis or inflammation. This can make the area more prone to harbouring bacteria, causing secondary infections. In the longer term, if products containing talcum powder are sprayed around the area, the tiny particles can be driven up into the female reproductive system.
'There have been many studies suggesting a link between these talcum particles and ovarian cancer and while it is difficult to know whether these results are true, it is important to steer clear from anything which can cause such potential harm.
'The truth is as long as a woman is healthy, washes thoroughly with soap and water frequently and changes her underwear every day there should be no need for cover-up deodorants. Using a chemical perfume to cover potential odours may mask an underlying infection or even cause one.'
Study leader Joelle Brown said there is 'mounting evidence' that using these products internally can increase the risk of bacterial vaginosis - a condition that occurs when the bacterial balance becomes disrupted - and sexually transmitted infections.
Dr Brown's team recruited 141 women who agreed to answer questionnaires about their product use and undergo lab tests for vaginal infections.
The researchers found that 66% of the women reported using lubricants and cleansers internally. The most commonly used products were sexual lubricants - 70% of the product-using group used commercial lubricants, while 17% reported using petroleum jelly and 13% used oils.
Test results showed that the women who used products not intended for internal use, such as oils and Vaseline, were more likely to have yeast and bacterial infections, according to the findings published in the journal Obstetrics and Gynaecology.
For instance, 40% of the women who used petroleum jelly as a lubricant had bacterial vaginosis - an infection that can be caused by a number of common bacterial species - compared to 18% of women who did not insert petroleum jelly. And 44% of women who reported using oils tested positive for Candida, the fungus that causes yeast infections, compared to five per cent of women who did not use oils.
Researchers suggested the increased risk for these common infections might result from the products upsetting internal pH and beneficial microbe communities, allowing harmful organisms to proliferate.
Normally, the area is home to a finely tuned system of good and bad bacteria, which produce acids that protect against infections and viruses. Doctors do not recommend that women wash themselves internally because it can alter the balance of these bacteria and does not seem to offer any benefit.
The natural balance of bacteria in the vagina is an 'evolutionary protection that is just washed away', with soaps and perfumes according to Dr Michael Zinaman, chair of obstetrics and gynaecology at St Elizabeth's Medical Centre in Boston.
A representative for Vaseline manufacturer Unilever told Reuters Health: 'Vaseline Petroleum Jelly is for external use only, and we state this on our packaging for consumers. We do not recommend Vaseline Petroleum Jelly be used as a lubricant and have not performed any testing to support this use. Vaseline Petroleum Jelly should also not be used as a sexual lubricant in combination with latex barrier protection, as it can degrade the latex.'
The study did not determine why petroleum jelly might promote bacterial vaginosis.
Commercial sexual lubricants, which are designed for internal use, were not associated with an increased risk of infection in the study, but they still require further evaluation, according to Dr Brown.
However, Dr Mary Marnach, a specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, claims that, many personal lubricants contain glycerin which breaks down to sugars and promotes yeast infections and possibly also bacterial vaginosis, noted.
'For this reason I recommend lubricants without glycerin and those that are silicone based over the counter,' Dr Marnach said.
The fashion for scented intimate products can be linked to health issues, agrees Dr Sovra Whitcroft, a gynaecologist at the Surrey Park Clinic, Guildford. She said: 'The problem with perfumed products is that they change the natural pH or acidity of the vagina.
'The normal pH is four to five. If this is altered and made less acidic, it loses its natural protection and bacteria are allowed to thrive and multiply. The very product designed to improve body odour can, in a short space of time, do the opposite by contributing to an overgrowth of odour-producing bacteria.
'And many strong chemicals and perfumes can have a direct irritant effect on the sensitive mucosal lining as well as the relatively thin and delicate skin, causing contact dermatitis or inflammation. This can make the area more prone to harbouring bacteria, causing secondary infections. In the longer term, if products containing talcum powder are sprayed around the area, the tiny particles can be driven up into the female reproductive system.
'There have been many studies suggesting a link between these talcum particles and ovarian cancer and while it is difficult to know whether these results are true, it is important to steer clear from anything which can cause such potential harm.
'The truth is as long as a woman is healthy, washes thoroughly with soap and water frequently and changes her underwear every day there should be no need for cover-up deodorants. Using a chemical perfume to cover potential odours may mask an underlying infection or even cause one.'
Reasons Why Women Shouldn’t Deprive Him Of Sex
I highly disagree with withholding sex, and a lot of psychologists also disagree. But I personally have a few reasons for why I view it as just plain heartless.
I understand that you are trying to prove a point, but withholding sex may not be the best way to prove your point'"despite what you may think.
1. Withholding sex teaches your man to only value your body . When you withhold sex from your man, you are sending a message. The message is, "My body is a reward". And don't get me wrong. I think every woman's body is a prize, but when you withhold sex from a man, you are telling him that the only thing he should worry about is doing what you want him to do so that he can get "the prize". There is more to a woman than her body, so why are you only withholding your body? I'm not trying to give you any other ideas to torture your man, but why not withhold everything you do? Are you only a sex toy? If not, stop treating yourself like the only valuable thing about you is your vagina.
2. Withholding sex is prostitution. Oh yes I did just go there! When you withhold sex, you are sending a second message: "My body is for sale". You are teaching the man that if he gives you A, B, and C, then you'll give him X, Y, and Z. Basically, you are making a transaction or exchanging goods. You are bartering. Yes, in relationships there should be negotiating, but sex should not be a part of the negotiation. You shouldn't barter sex. That's what prostitutes do.
3. Withholding sex is emotionally abusive. There are men in this world that actually enjoy having sex with the woman they love, and they use sex as a way to express that. When you withhold sex from him, you are sending a final message: "I don't want to love you". Let's face it. The only reason why women withhold sex is to hurt the guy. Just be honest and call it what it is. Let's not pretend that we don't know it's a mean spirited thing to do. It is only done to inflict pain. And that's why it's abuse. It's only done to make the man feel lonely, deprived, and left in the cold. If a man purposely makes a woman feel that way, we would say he's abusive. So why not say that when it's the other way around?
Sex is supposed to be an expression of love. It's not supposed to be used as a way to get what you want, reward people for things, or to punish people for things. I hate when women use their bodies in this way because it matches the stereotype that we use are bodies and sexuality to get what we want. I always want us to transcend those stereotypes, but some of us are doing a good job of proving those stereotypes to be true.
I don't quite know who to blame for this, but the perception that you can get whatever you want by having or withholding sex is flawed. Every time you do that, you are reducing yourself down to just a body. You are ignoring the parts of you that can actually get the job done'"the mind and the spirit.
You can't actually believe that withholding sex is the best way to prove your point. Are you telling me that you can't come up with any other way to barter without using your body? If you can't, then you don't need to have kids because kids don't want to have sex with you, so how are you going to get them to behave?
You know what I think? I think some women think men are children. They think they have to "discipline" him if he does something wrong. If you have a man that needs to be disciplined, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. I personally prefer to date a man that has already been raised well by his mom. I don't want to date someone that I have to raise and discipline. If you have to do that, then maybe you shouldn't be with him in the first place.
Don't you know that you are not the only woman with a vagina? If you don't give it to him, where do you think he will get it? From another woman, of course! With all the Rachel Uchitels of the world, there would be lots of women who would be glad to sleep with your man if you refuse to.
Source- Naij
I understand that you are trying to prove a point, but withholding sex may not be the best way to prove your point'"despite what you may think.
1. Withholding sex teaches your man to only value your body . When you withhold sex from your man, you are sending a message. The message is, "My body is a reward". And don't get me wrong. I think every woman's body is a prize, but when you withhold sex from a man, you are telling him that the only thing he should worry about is doing what you want him to do so that he can get "the prize". There is more to a woman than her body, so why are you only withholding your body? I'm not trying to give you any other ideas to torture your man, but why not withhold everything you do? Are you only a sex toy? If not, stop treating yourself like the only valuable thing about you is your vagina.
2. Withholding sex is prostitution. Oh yes I did just go there! When you withhold sex, you are sending a second message: "My body is for sale". You are teaching the man that if he gives you A, B, and C, then you'll give him X, Y, and Z. Basically, you are making a transaction or exchanging goods. You are bartering. Yes, in relationships there should be negotiating, but sex should not be a part of the negotiation. You shouldn't barter sex. That's what prostitutes do.
3. Withholding sex is emotionally abusive. There are men in this world that actually enjoy having sex with the woman they love, and they use sex as a way to express that. When you withhold sex from him, you are sending a final message: "I don't want to love you". Let's face it. The only reason why women withhold sex is to hurt the guy. Just be honest and call it what it is. Let's not pretend that we don't know it's a mean spirited thing to do. It is only done to inflict pain. And that's why it's abuse. It's only done to make the man feel lonely, deprived, and left in the cold. If a man purposely makes a woman feel that way, we would say he's abusive. So why not say that when it's the other way around?
Sex is supposed to be an expression of love. It's not supposed to be used as a way to get what you want, reward people for things, or to punish people for things. I hate when women use their bodies in this way because it matches the stereotype that we use are bodies and sexuality to get what we want. I always want us to transcend those stereotypes, but some of us are doing a good job of proving those stereotypes to be true.
I don't quite know who to blame for this, but the perception that you can get whatever you want by having or withholding sex is flawed. Every time you do that, you are reducing yourself down to just a body. You are ignoring the parts of you that can actually get the job done'"the mind and the spirit.
You can't actually believe that withholding sex is the best way to prove your point. Are you telling me that you can't come up with any other way to barter without using your body? If you can't, then you don't need to have kids because kids don't want to have sex with you, so how are you going to get them to behave?
You know what I think? I think some women think men are children. They think they have to "discipline" him if he does something wrong. If you have a man that needs to be disciplined, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. I personally prefer to date a man that has already been raised well by his mom. I don't want to date someone that I have to raise and discipline. If you have to do that, then maybe you shouldn't be with him in the first place.
Don't you know that you are not the only woman with a vagina? If you don't give it to him, where do you think he will get it? From another woman, of course! With all the Rachel Uchitels of the world, there would be lots of women who would be glad to sleep with your man if you refuse to.
Source- Naij
The Sex Tricks Guys Should Know
The top ten must-know secrets for guys to keep their girls satisfied.
1. It's safer at the shallow end. What I mean by this is that, evidence suggests, the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive, so deep thrusting isn't essential - at least not for her! Instead, try 'dipping' the tip of your member in and out of her vagina.
2. There are more than two erogenous zones. Yes the breasts and pubic area are obvious hot-spots but they get a lot hotter when stimulated in conjunction with other areas. Try kissing and gently stroking her neck, back, stomach and inner thighs.
3. Women are slow burners. For women, good sex takes time. Women are also more emotional lovers. So dedicating 10-15 minutes prior to sex, cuddling, kissing and holding your partner will be infinitely more successful at getting her aroused than spending a frustrating 5 minutes rubbing an unresponsive clitoris.
4. Tell her how great she looks. And mean it. On the whole, women don't love to be naked. The second her clothes come off she feels vulnerable and sensitive. When she undresses, tell her what you love about her body. And if she tries to turn the lights off, turn them back on to show her she has nothing to be embarrassed about.
5. Assume the right position. Yes, the pieces of the puzzle will always go together but there are certain tricks that will help make sure they are the perfect fit. By simply sliding a pillow under her bottom while you enter her, you bring her clitoris and g-spot into better contact with you.
6. You should both finish the race. As already mentioned, women take time to climax. Men, however, are much quicker. Orgasmically speaking, she is the tortoise to your hare. So if you climax first, no matter how tired you are, you're responsible for helping her over the finish line. The best tactic? Head south with your mouth.
7. Talk to her. This doesn't mean you need to launch into a running commentary on your love-making, but break the silence/moaning every now and again with some arousing words. Women love communication from men, including in the bedroom. Occasionally mention why you love doing what you are doing to her, ask her what she wants you to do next, or throw in the guaranteed winner ... "I just can't get enough of you..." Best said in a husky, breathless voice.
8. Be clean. Just as you're more inspired to indulge her in some oral action when you know she's just washed, women are also more turned on by a tidy man. Seeing you showered, shaven, smelling good with a clean t-shirt on and with freshly brushed teeth is like foreplay to her.
9. Aim for G-Spot Orgasm. Only 30% of women have ever reached a g-spot climax, and 100% of women want to experience this unknown ecstasy. So if you're the guy who helps her to get there, you'll forever be seen as a sex god in her eyes. The best technique to achieve this is to use a curved finger or g-spot toy.
10. Enjoy Oral Sex. Yes she can tell when you flinch or seem hesitant about going down on her. But even if it isn't your favourite thing to do, it's the best way for most women to reach orgasm, so you'll have to learn to enjoy it. Because when she's happy, you're happy, right?
1. It's safer at the shallow end. What I mean by this is that, evidence suggests, the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive, so deep thrusting isn't essential - at least not for her! Instead, try 'dipping' the tip of your member in and out of her vagina.
2. There are more than two erogenous zones. Yes the breasts and pubic area are obvious hot-spots but they get a lot hotter when stimulated in conjunction with other areas. Try kissing and gently stroking her neck, back, stomach and inner thighs.
3. Women are slow burners. For women, good sex takes time. Women are also more emotional lovers. So dedicating 10-15 minutes prior to sex, cuddling, kissing and holding your partner will be infinitely more successful at getting her aroused than spending a frustrating 5 minutes rubbing an unresponsive clitoris.
4. Tell her how great she looks. And mean it. On the whole, women don't love to be naked. The second her clothes come off she feels vulnerable and sensitive. When she undresses, tell her what you love about her body. And if she tries to turn the lights off, turn them back on to show her she has nothing to be embarrassed about.
5. Assume the right position. Yes, the pieces of the puzzle will always go together but there are certain tricks that will help make sure they are the perfect fit. By simply sliding a pillow under her bottom while you enter her, you bring her clitoris and g-spot into better contact with you.
6. You should both finish the race. As already mentioned, women take time to climax. Men, however, are much quicker. Orgasmically speaking, she is the tortoise to your hare. So if you climax first, no matter how tired you are, you're responsible for helping her over the finish line. The best tactic? Head south with your mouth.
7. Talk to her. This doesn't mean you need to launch into a running commentary on your love-making, but break the silence/moaning every now and again with some arousing words. Women love communication from men, including in the bedroom. Occasionally mention why you love doing what you are doing to her, ask her what she wants you to do next, or throw in the guaranteed winner ... "I just can't get enough of you..." Best said in a husky, breathless voice.
8. Be clean. Just as you're more inspired to indulge her in some oral action when you know she's just washed, women are also more turned on by a tidy man. Seeing you showered, shaven, smelling good with a clean t-shirt on and with freshly brushed teeth is like foreplay to her.
9. Aim for G-Spot Orgasm. Only 30% of women have ever reached a g-spot climax, and 100% of women want to experience this unknown ecstasy. So if you're the guy who helps her to get there, you'll forever be seen as a sex god in her eyes. The best technique to achieve this is to use a curved finger or g-spot toy.
10. Enjoy Oral Sex. Yes she can tell when you flinch or seem hesitant about going down on her. But even if it isn't your favourite thing to do, it's the best way for most women to reach orgasm, so you'll have to learn to enjoy it. Because when she's happy, you're happy, right?
The Secret Way To Turn Her On
So, some women masturbated for researchers. Yes, really-but they had their brains scanned, too. (So you know it's legit.)
Their findings? Nipple stimulation activates the same brain regions as clitoral stimulation and penetration, according to the Rutgers University study.
"We expected nipple stimulation to activate the chest areas of the brain," says lead study author Barry Komisaruk, Ph.D. "But it activated the erotic areas, too."
The sensation isn't necessarily the same, he notes, but nipple stimulation can heighten the orgasm by sending even more signals to this area. "Nipple stimulation is usually associated with foreplay," he says. "But you shouldn't ignore the nipples-and breasts in general-during sex."
Translation: Multi-tasking is your friend. "The more stimulation you can provide, the more intense the orgasm will be," he says. Meaning, if you try the downward dog, for example, she can rub her clitoris while you penetrate her vagina and cup her breasts, sending tons of signals to the erotic area of her brain.
But don't pinch and turn like you used to do to your little brother. "Stimulate the breasts, not just the nipples," explains Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., . "Zeroing in can be uncomfortable for a lot of women." Use the whole hand to touch or massage the entire breast, focusing on the outsides and seeing how the woman responds, she says. "If she enjoys breast touching, then you can often proceed to touching or licking the nipples."
Their findings? Nipple stimulation activates the same brain regions as clitoral stimulation and penetration, according to the Rutgers University study.
"We expected nipple stimulation to activate the chest areas of the brain," says lead study author Barry Komisaruk, Ph.D. "But it activated the erotic areas, too."
The sensation isn't necessarily the same, he notes, but nipple stimulation can heighten the orgasm by sending even more signals to this area. "Nipple stimulation is usually associated with foreplay," he says. "But you shouldn't ignore the nipples-and breasts in general-during sex."
Translation: Multi-tasking is your friend. "The more stimulation you can provide, the more intense the orgasm will be," he says. Meaning, if you try the downward dog, for example, she can rub her clitoris while you penetrate her vagina and cup her breasts, sending tons of signals to the erotic area of her brain.
But don't pinch and turn like you used to do to your little brother. "Stimulate the breasts, not just the nipples," explains Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., . "Zeroing in can be uncomfortable for a lot of women." Use the whole hand to touch or massage the entire breast, focusing on the outsides and seeing how the woman responds, she says. "If she enjoys breast touching, then you can often proceed to touching or licking the nipples."
15 Tips for Talking to Women And Attracting Them
Many men are never taught how to talk to women. Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman.
Here are 15 tips to help make sure you aren't making mistakes with the women you'd like to attract:
1. You should talk about "emotional" topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.
2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you'll be talking about.
3. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you're standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.
4. Remember this motto "Fun not Funny." Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don't concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment.
5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.
6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.
7. Use things like "cold reads" to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.
8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as "needy." If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you're trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.
9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn't bore them… Avoid asking too many "interview" style questions. Instead state your opinion about things.
10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying "where did you grow up?" Say "You don't look like you grew up around here." This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality.
11. Don't hide your identity. Don't be afraid to talk about whatever you're passionate about.
12. Never compliment her on her eyes, looks, or body.
13. Say something that lets her know that you view her in a "sexual" way. If you don't, you run the risk of winding up in the "friend zone".
14. Use conversation "games" to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like "truth or dare" or to less extreme games like the "5 questions game".
15. Don't give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman's interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you're too easy… she'll lose interest.
The best way to think about how to talk to women is to think about what kind of fun, playful, and sexual conversation you would most enjoy. Talking to a woman doesn't have to be difficult.
You just need to be aware of what they are turned on by and what turns them off. Follow the list above and you'll do just fine.
Here are 15 tips to help make sure you aren't making mistakes with the women you'd like to attract:
1. You should talk about "emotional" topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.
2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you'll be talking about.
3. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you're standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.
4. Remember this motto "Fun not Funny." Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don't concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment.
5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.
6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.
7. Use things like "cold reads" to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.
8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as "needy." If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you're trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.
9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn't bore them… Avoid asking too many "interview" style questions. Instead state your opinion about things.
10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying "where did you grow up?" Say "You don't look like you grew up around here." This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality.
11. Don't hide your identity. Don't be afraid to talk about whatever you're passionate about.
12. Never compliment her on her eyes, looks, or body.
13. Say something that lets her know that you view her in a "sexual" way. If you don't, you run the risk of winding up in the "friend zone".
14. Use conversation "games" to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like "truth or dare" or to less extreme games like the "5 questions game".
15. Don't give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman's interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you're too easy… she'll lose interest.
The best way to think about how to talk to women is to think about what kind of fun, playful, and sexual conversation you would most enjoy. Talking to a woman doesn't have to be difficult.
You just need to be aware of what they are turned on by and what turns them off. Follow the list above and you'll do just fine.
15 Sexy Reasons It's Cool To Be Fat
Being overweight has some pretty obvious downsides. It's enough to get plus sized folks down from time to time.
But what's awesome about being fat? Here are 15 reasons why being fat is cool:
1. Fat is fun to play with. It can be amusing to grab, squish and jiggle your belly. Other people are often intrigued by the soft bits of body and can have fun jiggling an arm or poking your belly.
2. Some clothes actually look better. Contrary to popular belief, many items of clothing look better with curves stretching them out.
3. Big hips make Latin dancing easier. When doing a smaller hip shake in samba class, you look like your doing more than your skinny peers.
4. More to love! Cliche, but true. The extra cushioning means that fat people are excellent huggers and spooning partners.
5. Possibly healthier? Some studies show that overweight people are less likely to die from chronic illnesses, infections, invasive procedures, etc.
6. Provide excellent life drawing subjects. Many artists will say, "Nothing is more boring to draw than a perfect body."
7. Turning on the sex. All the tight clothing and fleshy parts can be very indecent when we want them to be.
8. We're warm! The extra layers of fat provide warmth in winter, so you don't need to run the heater. Win for you, win for the environment.
9. Body armor. Protects your internal organs (like how women gain weight in pregnancy for cushioning).
10. Look younger. Some believe more fatty tissue in the face can make you look younger.
11. Good for lounging. My cat and my child both like sitting on me cause I'm soft!
12. Longer life span. Studies have shown that as you get older, additional fat stores can prolong life.
13. Stronger frame. Higher weight correlates with stronger bones.
14. Jerk filter. Why would you want to be friends with the kind of person who doesn't like you the way you are?
15. More canvas space. One of my favorites, more body to tattoo!
But what's awesome about being fat? Here are 15 reasons why being fat is cool:
1. Fat is fun to play with. It can be amusing to grab, squish and jiggle your belly. Other people are often intrigued by the soft bits of body and can have fun jiggling an arm or poking your belly.
2. Some clothes actually look better. Contrary to popular belief, many items of clothing look better with curves stretching them out.
3. Big hips make Latin dancing easier. When doing a smaller hip shake in samba class, you look like your doing more than your skinny peers.
4. More to love! Cliche, but true. The extra cushioning means that fat people are excellent huggers and spooning partners.
5. Possibly healthier? Some studies show that overweight people are less likely to die from chronic illnesses, infections, invasive procedures, etc.
6. Provide excellent life drawing subjects. Many artists will say, "Nothing is more boring to draw than a perfect body."
7. Turning on the sex. All the tight clothing and fleshy parts can be very indecent when we want them to be.
8. We're warm! The extra layers of fat provide warmth in winter, so you don't need to run the heater. Win for you, win for the environment.
9. Body armor. Protects your internal organs (like how women gain weight in pregnancy for cushioning).
10. Look younger. Some believe more fatty tissue in the face can make you look younger.
11. Good for lounging. My cat and my child both like sitting on me cause I'm soft!
12. Longer life span. Studies have shown that as you get older, additional fat stores can prolong life.
13. Stronger frame. Higher weight correlates with stronger bones.
14. Jerk filter. Why would you want to be friends with the kind of person who doesn't like you the way you are?
15. More canvas space. One of my favorites, more body to tattoo!
7 Things He'll Do If He’s Serious About You
Are you wondering if a guy is serious about you? There are some things guys make a conscious effort to not do for women they're not serious about.
So, if you catch your guy doing these, you can be sure he knew exactly what he was doing. And he is hoping to be in it for the long haul.
Ask about "that thing"
If you had a job interview you were nervous about, or a doctor's appointment, a meeting about a possible promotion, or just something you had once mentioned was coming up and he makes a point of calling you up after to ask how it went, he is serious about you. Men who aren't serious about a woman make a point of not asking for too many details about her life.
Clarify missed calls
Did he take hours to call back? Did he completely forget to text back? If you're just someone he is having temporary fun with, he isn't concerned about you getting pissed about those things. But if he makes a point of saying, "Hey, sorry for taking so long, I was hung up in etc, etc" or "Oh my god I just realized you sent me a text when I was at work and I completely forgot to answer! I'm so sorry!" then you're not someone he is willing to let go of easily. (Men know how much delayed call or text-backs upset us).
Offer to help
When you mention that you're moving, or putting together some furniture, or looking for a new car, does he jump at the chance to help? Does he often look for ways he can be of service to you? Men don't do that just for a woman they are trying to sleep with or casually date for a short period of time. They save that type of effort for ones they are serious about.
Plan ahead
If you're just a fling to him, you are (unfortunately) kind of replaceable. But, if he is serious about you, no one else's presence will do. You'll know that is the case if he asks you a significant amount of time ahead of time to reserve a day so that you can be his date to something. That means he wants to guarantee he gets your time.
Care about your career
If he really cares about you, he wants all the other things in your life that make you happy to go as well as possible! If a man has clearly put time into thinking about your career, and coming up with suggestions for how you could advance it or be happier in it, he plans on being around for a while. He is making sure things in your future will be good. Because he plans on being with you then and he wants to be with a woman who is happy.
Brags about you
If he isn't serious about you, he may bring you to a party or a friend's get together, but he'll most likely leave you to fend for yourself. If he is serious about you, he is proud of you, and he will make a point of being near you to introduce you to people and tell them all about you and your accomplishments.
Just wants to cuddle
No man who is trying to keep things casual is going to make the terrible mistake of sending a, "Can't you just be next to me so we can cuddle?" text. They know that sends a serious signal. If a guy sends this type of text, he likes you.
So, if you catch your guy doing these, you can be sure he knew exactly what he was doing. And he is hoping to be in it for the long haul.
Ask about "that thing"
If you had a job interview you were nervous about, or a doctor's appointment, a meeting about a possible promotion, or just something you had once mentioned was coming up and he makes a point of calling you up after to ask how it went, he is serious about you. Men who aren't serious about a woman make a point of not asking for too many details about her life.
Clarify missed calls
Did he take hours to call back? Did he completely forget to text back? If you're just someone he is having temporary fun with, he isn't concerned about you getting pissed about those things. But if he makes a point of saying, "Hey, sorry for taking so long, I was hung up in etc, etc" or "Oh my god I just realized you sent me a text when I was at work and I completely forgot to answer! I'm so sorry!" then you're not someone he is willing to let go of easily. (Men know how much delayed call or text-backs upset us).
Offer to help
When you mention that you're moving, or putting together some furniture, or looking for a new car, does he jump at the chance to help? Does he often look for ways he can be of service to you? Men don't do that just for a woman they are trying to sleep with or casually date for a short period of time. They save that type of effort for ones they are serious about.
Plan ahead
If you're just a fling to him, you are (unfortunately) kind of replaceable. But, if he is serious about you, no one else's presence will do. You'll know that is the case if he asks you a significant amount of time ahead of time to reserve a day so that you can be his date to something. That means he wants to guarantee he gets your time.
Care about your career
If he really cares about you, he wants all the other things in your life that make you happy to go as well as possible! If a man has clearly put time into thinking about your career, and coming up with suggestions for how you could advance it or be happier in it, he plans on being around for a while. He is making sure things in your future will be good. Because he plans on being with you then and he wants to be with a woman who is happy.
Brags about you
If he isn't serious about you, he may bring you to a party or a friend's get together, but he'll most likely leave you to fend for yourself. If he is serious about you, he is proud of you, and he will make a point of being near you to introduce you to people and tell them all about you and your accomplishments.
Just wants to cuddle
No man who is trying to keep things casual is going to make the terrible mistake of sending a, "Can't you just be next to me so we can cuddle?" text. They know that sends a serious signal. If a guy sends this type of text, he likes you.
19-Year Old Tunisian Woman Who Posted Topless Photos On Facebook Threatened
The 19-year-old activist, identified only as Amina, posted on the Femen-Tunisian Facebook page a topless picture of herself with the words “F**k your morals” written across her chest.
Another controversial image followed, of the woman smoking a cigarette, baring her breasts, with the Arabic written across her chest: “My body belongs to me, and is not the source of anyone’s honour”.
Tunisian newspaper Kapitalis quoted the Wahabi Salafi preacher Almi Adel, who heads the Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and Prevention of Vice, saying: “The young lady should be punished according to sharia, with 80 to 100 lashes, but [because of] the severity of the act she has committed, she deserves be stoned to death.
“Her act could bring about an epidemic. It could be contagious and give ideas to other women. It is therefore necessary to isolate [the incident]. I wish her to be healed.”
If she committed the offense in Tunisia, Amina could be punished by up to two years in prison and a fine of 100 to 1,000 dinars [between £40 and £400], local media said.
Sunday 24 March 2013
10 Ways To Impress Her
Every living things will always try to impress the opposite sex. Chameleon changing their color, peacock showing the beauty of their tail, or male hummingbirds dancing in the air are some examples that animals do these things to impress the opposite sex.
Men do it too. Trying to attract a woman's attention is something that they often do. It is the starting point of a relationship. There are two possible results, either she is not interested or she is interested. If she is interested, then they move into the next stage of a relationship. In general, the following are 10 simple ways to impress a woman:
1. Compliment, compliment, and compliment
Women love to be complimented. For them, compliments are very important to enhance their confidence level. If men have a weakness in their eyes, then women have a weakness in their ears. However, don't do it excessively. Give her a sincere compliment, not just lip service, and give it at the right time.
2. Have a well groomed body and appearance
You don't need to have a handsome face to try to impress a woman, but having a well groomed body and appearance are very important. Having a bright face, clean skin and clothes, and smell good all the time are some examples that you treat your body well. If you can't treat your own body then can you treat her well?
3. Have a sense of humor
Don't be too serious, women like a man who can make them laugh. In fact, sometimes humor can dilute a tense situation or conflict, like opening a window in a hot room. Of course, men and women have different sense of humor. Don't ever tell a woman dirty jokes especially if you don't know her closely.
4. Have good manners
Women dislike rude men and men who like talking dirty. It's too unpleasant to hear. By being rude, she will think that you can't treat her well. Show that you're a well-educated man!
5. Socialize with her family and friends
Make a good impression on her family and friends. When you already have a close relationship with them, you will be easier to get her. Impress them and you'll impress her.
6. Be a smart man
Some teens may have not thought about this, but for those who are already mature, being smart is an important factor. Smart men usually have a bright future, creative, and able to adapt in all situations.
7. Smiling
There is a saying, "don't frown because you never know who's falling in love with your smile". These words are created for a reason, a smile makes a person look attractive, friendly, optimistic and confident. After all, women don't want to be with a man who looks like not enjoying his life.
8. Try to ask her some questions
If you don't know too much about her, ask something about herself. Actually, this topic is their preferred topic. Besides you will know her more closely, she will be more open and feel comfortable toward you. It also gives her a sign that you like her inside and out.
9. Give something special on her special day
Special day, such as birthday, is a very good moment to make her attracted to you. Give something special on that day will make her feel as a special person for you. Try to give something that makes her always remember you. :)
10. Be sincere and honest to her
You have to love her sincerely without any other veiled purpose. In addition, tell something about you honestly, without boasting something you don't have or something you've never experienced. Although you can get her, if you're not being sincere and honest, your relationship won't last long because eventually she will notice.
Men do it too. Trying to attract a woman's attention is something that they often do. It is the starting point of a relationship. There are two possible results, either she is not interested or she is interested. If she is interested, then they move into the next stage of a relationship. In general, the following are 10 simple ways to impress a woman:
1. Compliment, compliment, and compliment
Women love to be complimented. For them, compliments are very important to enhance their confidence level. If men have a weakness in their eyes, then women have a weakness in their ears. However, don't do it excessively. Give her a sincere compliment, not just lip service, and give it at the right time.
2. Have a well groomed body and appearance
You don't need to have a handsome face to try to impress a woman, but having a well groomed body and appearance are very important. Having a bright face, clean skin and clothes, and smell good all the time are some examples that you treat your body well. If you can't treat your own body then can you treat her well?
3. Have a sense of humor
Don't be too serious, women like a man who can make them laugh. In fact, sometimes humor can dilute a tense situation or conflict, like opening a window in a hot room. Of course, men and women have different sense of humor. Don't ever tell a woman dirty jokes especially if you don't know her closely.
4. Have good manners
Women dislike rude men and men who like talking dirty. It's too unpleasant to hear. By being rude, she will think that you can't treat her well. Show that you're a well-educated man!
5. Socialize with her family and friends
Make a good impression on her family and friends. When you already have a close relationship with them, you will be easier to get her. Impress them and you'll impress her.
6. Be a smart man
Some teens may have not thought about this, but for those who are already mature, being smart is an important factor. Smart men usually have a bright future, creative, and able to adapt in all situations.
7. Smiling
There is a saying, "don't frown because you never know who's falling in love with your smile". These words are created for a reason, a smile makes a person look attractive, friendly, optimistic and confident. After all, women don't want to be with a man who looks like not enjoying his life.
8. Try to ask her some questions
If you don't know too much about her, ask something about herself. Actually, this topic is their preferred topic. Besides you will know her more closely, she will be more open and feel comfortable toward you. It also gives her a sign that you like her inside and out.
9. Give something special on her special day
Special day, such as birthday, is a very good moment to make her attracted to you. Give something special on that day will make her feel as a special person for you. Try to give something that makes her always remember you. :)
10. Be sincere and honest to her
You have to love her sincerely without any other veiled purpose. In addition, tell something about you honestly, without boasting something you don't have or something you've never experienced. Although you can get her, if you're not being sincere and honest, your relationship won't last long because eventually she will notice.
"He Always Gave Me N100 After Having Sex With Me" - Girl, 13
In what can be described as the height of wickedness or extreme case of sexual perversion, a man has subjected a 13-year-old girl to a terrible show of his machismo by continuously having sex with her for two weeks.
The girl, Faith (surname withheld) is in primary six in a public school at Ajeromi-Ifelodun Local Government Area of Lagos State.
Sunday Sun investigations revealed that the amorous game must have been going on for long before the two weeks' "sabbatical" when the immoral act became a daily routine.
It was gathered that the young girl had before now been playing truancy forcing the Head Mistress of her school to alert her parents and she was cautioned. Thereafter she attended school regularly for about two weeks before she again became truant.
Narrating her ordeal, Faith who looks younger than her age said the man she simply identified as Edwin lured her to his shop one day, enteraintained her with juice and thereafter he started caressing her. Later the did was done.
She added that she was scared and terrified but the man would not leave her and instead caressed her and later laid her on her back, removed her clothes and had sex with her.
After the sexual escapade, she said, the man gave her N100.
The man later cajoled her into coming to his shop during school hours as a result of which she was absent from school for complete two weeks.
She said, "He told me that if I tell anybody, I would die. Or he will send people to go and kill me when I am passing by. That was why I was afraid to tell anybody".
According to her, the man used to have sex with her in his shop and after school hours he would release her to go home telling her to come back the following day. As usual, he always gave her a parting gift of N100.
"He always gave me N100 after having sex with me. He also used to buy food for me when I was with him", she added.
It was gathered that once the man wanted to commence his diabolical act, he normally bribed a woman who sells orange beside his shop and the woman would leave.
The bubble however burst last week Friday after the school invited the girl's parents to inquire about what was happening to their daughter as she had not been in school for two weeks running.
Sunday Sun learnt that her parents were surprised to hear the allegation and they told the Head Mistress (HM) that it could not have been true because she left home everyday in school uniform and other materials.
Since the day was Thursday, she told her parents the following day being Friday, that they should ensure that the moment she was through with her school preparation and about to leave home they should grab her and bundle her to her office to come and explain herself.
The game worked, as Faith was face-to-face with the school head the following day.
After interrogation in the presence of her parents, the fear of her HM overwhelmed her and she said it all.
She was said to have felt remorseful that she could not hold back anything from what transpired between her and Edwin.
Her father (name withheld) was also downcast on hearing the confession of her daughter.
Her father while speaking with Sunday Sun, was apparently perplexed and said he did not have any iota of suspicion that his daughter was not actually going to school during her truancy.
"Everyday she dresses and carries her school bag and leaves home. I never believed that she was going to somewhere else", he said.
He lamented that the man wanted to ruin her life praying that he should leave his daughter alone.
When Sunday Sun met the man whose name is Edwin (surname withheld) in his shop on Thursday, he admitted knowing the girl but denied ever having sexual intercourse with her.
He also said the only time he gave the girl money was on Friday when he gave her N50.
"I swear God knows I don't have anything with this girl. If I have anything with her, anything I am looking for in this world I should not get it", the man who said he was 47 and married with four kids swore.
Edwin said he hails from Imo State and told Sunday Sun that the first time he saw the girl , she was wandering in uniform on his street and he inquired from her why she was not in school and she explained that she was in need of N1000 for school.
He said he later advised her to go.
But the girl countered saying after the first meeting on the street, the third day while she was going somewhere with a friend, three women and a man accosted her and took her to his shop and from that day they started having sexual intercourse.
"I swear this man had sex with me for two weeks", she insisted.
The girl, Faith (surname withheld) is in primary six in a public school at Ajeromi-Ifelodun Local Government Area of Lagos State.
Sunday Sun investigations revealed that the amorous game must have been going on for long before the two weeks' "sabbatical" when the immoral act became a daily routine.
It was gathered that the young girl had before now been playing truancy forcing the Head Mistress of her school to alert her parents and she was cautioned. Thereafter she attended school regularly for about two weeks before she again became truant.
Narrating her ordeal, Faith who looks younger than her age said the man she simply identified as Edwin lured her to his shop one day, enteraintained her with juice and thereafter he started caressing her. Later the did was done.
She added that she was scared and terrified but the man would not leave her and instead caressed her and later laid her on her back, removed her clothes and had sex with her.
After the sexual escapade, she said, the man gave her N100.
The man later cajoled her into coming to his shop during school hours as a result of which she was absent from school for complete two weeks.
She said, "He told me that if I tell anybody, I would die. Or he will send people to go and kill me when I am passing by. That was why I was afraid to tell anybody".
According to her, the man used to have sex with her in his shop and after school hours he would release her to go home telling her to come back the following day. As usual, he always gave her a parting gift of N100.
"He always gave me N100 after having sex with me. He also used to buy food for me when I was with him", she added.
It was gathered that once the man wanted to commence his diabolical act, he normally bribed a woman who sells orange beside his shop and the woman would leave.
The bubble however burst last week Friday after the school invited the girl's parents to inquire about what was happening to their daughter as she had not been in school for two weeks running.
Sunday Sun learnt that her parents were surprised to hear the allegation and they told the Head Mistress (HM) that it could not have been true because she left home everyday in school uniform and other materials.
Since the day was Thursday, she told her parents the following day being Friday, that they should ensure that the moment she was through with her school preparation and about to leave home they should grab her and bundle her to her office to come and explain herself.
The game worked, as Faith was face-to-face with the school head the following day.
After interrogation in the presence of her parents, the fear of her HM overwhelmed her and she said it all.
She was said to have felt remorseful that she could not hold back anything from what transpired between her and Edwin.
Her father (name withheld) was also downcast on hearing the confession of her daughter.
Her father while speaking with Sunday Sun, was apparently perplexed and said he did not have any iota of suspicion that his daughter was not actually going to school during her truancy.
"Everyday she dresses and carries her school bag and leaves home. I never believed that she was going to somewhere else", he said.
He lamented that the man wanted to ruin her life praying that he should leave his daughter alone.
When Sunday Sun met the man whose name is Edwin (surname withheld) in his shop on Thursday, he admitted knowing the girl but denied ever having sexual intercourse with her.
He also said the only time he gave the girl money was on Friday when he gave her N50.
"I swear God knows I don't have anything with this girl. If I have anything with her, anything I am looking for in this world I should not get it", the man who said he was 47 and married with four kids swore.
Edwin said he hails from Imo State and told Sunday Sun that the first time he saw the girl , she was wandering in uniform on his street and he inquired from her why she was not in school and she explained that she was in need of N1000 for school.
He said he later advised her to go.
But the girl countered saying after the first meeting on the street, the third day while she was going somewhere with a friend, three women and a man accosted her and took her to his shop and from that day they started having sexual intercourse.
"I swear this man had sex with me for two weeks", she insisted.
Why Some Loving People End Up With Unloving Spouses
People wonder why good and loving men and women mostly end up with unloving, unfaithful, cheating and bad men and women. This whole thing has to do with a misunderstanding of love and lust.
LUST is a strong sexual attraction to another person which is mostly short-lived, whereas LOVE inconveniences itself for the convenience of others. Love lasts longer than lust.
The man or woman in lust would do virtually anything to get his or her need met. The unsuspecting partner who wrongly translated all those gestures as pure love gestures gets led astray and also develops strong love and affection for the lustful partner. After satisfying his or her lust the lustful partner moves on to another person. The partner who fell in love with the lustful man or woman will then find it so difficult to forget about him or her. He or she may try so hard to keep him or her and end up getting hurt. The partner who was in love desired a lasting relationship, whereas the one in lust was just interested in satisfying his or her sexual desire.
Hence the truth of the matter is; the loving people, who dated rough, unloving abusive and unfaithful people, were actually dating people who lusted after them and then despised them after satisfying their own lusts. A person in lust will leave after getting what he or she wants. They also leave after not getting what they want. Some lustful people also have the tendency of coming back once in a while to try to fulfill their lust.
The best way to avoid heartbreak is to ensure that the one you are entering a relationship with is truly in love with you. This can be done by not allowing any sexual contact with your partner or any physical contact that stimulates sexual feelings as you start dating until marriage and carefully studying your partner to determine whether his or her actions are more directed at you sexually. A person just wanting to satisfy his or lustful desire on you will eventually give up on you. In some instances too, such people eventually develop strong love after being denied sexual access initially.
Before entering a relationship, one should pray a lot about the intended spouse, and God will let his or her true intentions come out. It is always better to date a person who really loves you and is not just interested in getting sexual with you. When people marry people who truly love then, heartaches are minimized.
Lastly, in order to maintain the spark in one's relationship, one should give his or her spouse the opportunity to show their love. A feedback of their affection for you should be requested especially after you have shown them some love.
LUST is a strong sexual attraction to another person which is mostly short-lived, whereas LOVE inconveniences itself for the convenience of others. Love lasts longer than lust.
The man or woman in lust would do virtually anything to get his or her need met. The unsuspecting partner who wrongly translated all those gestures as pure love gestures gets led astray and also develops strong love and affection for the lustful partner. After satisfying his or her lust the lustful partner moves on to another person. The partner who fell in love with the lustful man or woman will then find it so difficult to forget about him or her. He or she may try so hard to keep him or her and end up getting hurt. The partner who was in love desired a lasting relationship, whereas the one in lust was just interested in satisfying his or her sexual desire.
Hence the truth of the matter is; the loving people, who dated rough, unloving abusive and unfaithful people, were actually dating people who lusted after them and then despised them after satisfying their own lusts. A person in lust will leave after getting what he or she wants. They also leave after not getting what they want. Some lustful people also have the tendency of coming back once in a while to try to fulfill their lust.
The best way to avoid heartbreak is to ensure that the one you are entering a relationship with is truly in love with you. This can be done by not allowing any sexual contact with your partner or any physical contact that stimulates sexual feelings as you start dating until marriage and carefully studying your partner to determine whether his or her actions are more directed at you sexually. A person just wanting to satisfy his or lustful desire on you will eventually give up on you. In some instances too, such people eventually develop strong love after being denied sexual access initially.
Before entering a relationship, one should pray a lot about the intended spouse, and God will let his or her true intentions come out. It is always better to date a person who really loves you and is not just interested in getting sexual with you. When people marry people who truly love then, heartaches are minimized.
Lastly, in order to maintain the spark in one's relationship, one should give his or her spouse the opportunity to show their love. A feedback of their affection for you should be requested especially after you have shown them some love.
Friday 22 March 2013
Soldiers Storm Terror Suspect Hiding Place In Lagos
Fear gripped many residents of Lagos on Thursday when news filtered in that troops numbering about 100 stormed terror suspects’ hideouts in Ijora, a densely populated part of the city.
The soldiers, who were assisted by men of the StateSecurity Service, were believed to have acted on a tip-off. They were said to have arrived in the area around 7am in search of the suspects said to be members of an Islamic fundamentalist sect, Boko Haram.It was learnt that their search yielded fruits when two persons were arrested at 24 Aromire Street and three others at a location in an adjacent street.
The soldiers then ransacked the building at Aromire Street where one of the arrested persons, Ibrahim Musa, occupies five rooms. A bomb kept in a cooler and hidden inside the ceiling of one of the rooms in Musa’s apartment was recovered by the soldiers.
Musa, who a security source described as an illegal alien from Chad, was said to be leader of the suspects.
Other items found were AK-47 rifles,cartridges and daggers.
The security source, who craved anonymity, added the raid was as a result of an investigation which began a month ago.
He said, “Security agents got information a month ago that there was a terrorist hideout in the Seven-Up area of Ijora. Although we were not sure if they were Boko Haram members or not, we did not want to take any chances so we decided to go and raid the place.
“It was discovered that the place was being run by a Chadian and arms were recovered during the raid, including AK-47 riffles. Investigations are ongoing and those who are found not culpable will be released.”
Musa’s neighbour, who craved anonymity, told one of our correspondents that they did not suspect he was a member of Boko Haram.
He said the suspect moved into the house less than three months ago.
“Musa rented his apartment about three months ago. However, since he moved in with his wife, who recently had a baby and a brother, none of them had any known form of livelihood. Musa and his brother, particularly were always going about with their laptops and expensive phones.
“Though he (Musa) was not working, he was usually the first to pay for anything in the house. It was when the soldiers came that we got to know what they truly are. It was in the course of beating him (Musa) that he told the soldiers where he hid the bomb and guns.”
Another resident of the area, who identified himself simply as Olu, said that when the suspects were being taken away by the soldiers “we did not know they were living here.”
“When soldiers were taking them away, we wondered if they were living in the neighbourhood. It was my neighbour, who told me he had seen Musa once or twice,” he said.
Olu said when the soldiers were going, they told them to be vigilant in the area, saying Boko Haram members had infiltrated the area, particularly the Hausa settlement.
When one of our correspondents met the Ojora of Ijora , Oba Fatai Adeyinka, he said he was shocked that Boko Haram members had infiltrated the area.
The spokesman for the Army 81 Division, Colonel Kingsley Umoh, confirmed the raid but said the army had been carrying out constant raids across the state in response to the rising level of insecurity in the country.
Umoh said over 36 people had been arrested recently. He however said he had yet to receive the details of Thursday’s operation.
He said, “The Nigerian Army is carrying out a proactive approach. We are raiding every nook and cranny of the state in order to rid it of criminal elements. We are not ignorant of the insecurity in the country so we are carrying out preventive measures and we want to make sure that Lagos is safe for all its inhabitants.
“The raids have been in collaboration with sister agencies like the Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps, the SSS, the police and others. It is the OP MESA of the army that is at the forefront of the raids and we have recorded many successes of late as we have also arrested some soldiers who were found wanting.
“I will not be able to brief you fully about Thursday’s raid.”
Lagos State Director, SSS, Achu Olayi, also confirmed the raid but said that it was too soon for him to say if the suspects were Boko Haram members or not.
The raid on Thursday on the predominantly Hausa settlement came a month after the SSS uncovered a terror network coordinated by Iranians in Lagos.
The SSS had said while parading a leader of an Islamic sect, Abdullahi Berende, and two others that they believed that the operators of the Iranian terror cell were gathering information about Israelis and Americans living in Nigeria.
Thursday 21 March 2013
Characteristics Of A Good Man To Date
Finding a man to be your boyfriend actually isn't a difficult thing. The difficult part is finding a man who deserves to be your life partner.
Unfortunately, many men out there take advantage of the women's vulnerability to seduction to easily get them. In order to choose the right boyfriend, below are 10 characteristics of a good man to be your boyfriend:
1. He treats you well
He doesn't have to treat you like a princess and spoil you everyday, but he knows what he has to do to show his love and he will never hurt you. If he accidentally hurts you, he doesn't hesitate to come to you, admit his mistake and apologize sincerely. He is a man who appreciates and respects you. There is nothing more disgusting than a man who degrades,commits physical and verbal abuse towards a woman.
2. He is a man of his word
When he says yes, then he will do it, when he says no, then he won't do it. Included in this trait, a man who is loyal to his girlfriend. When he promises that you will be the only woman he loved, then he really doesn't have another woman in his heart. In other words, he takes full responsibility for his own words and realize them in his actions (He's not wishy washy in relationships).
3. He loves you inside and out
Why this kind of man is right for you? Because he doesn't only love you physically. He loves all of the strengths and weaknesses you have. And most importantly, he loves your imperfection, perfectly.
4. He has a bright future
If you're really serious about bringing your relationship to a marriage, then you have to think about this. Do you have to choose a man who already have a well established job and good income? Not really. Most importantly, he is mature in thinking and has good plans for the future. Of course, he doesn't spend most of his time playing video games and watching tv everyday. He is able to balance fun and relaxation with work and productivity.
5. He is able to guide and protect you
In relationships, men are leaders. With him, you can develop into a better woman. He also becomes the first person in front of you to protect you from all kinds of dangers.
6. He is confident in himself
Maybe he's not handsome, but he always seems very excited, his face looks so bright, he dares to face everyone, and he has a pleasant personality. Most importantly, he is just being himself and not trying desperately to change his attitude and behave like everyone else (e.g. a movie star you like) when he is trying to draw your attention.
7. He is an independent man
Does a man who spend every day, hour, minute, and second to please you is the right man for you? Frankly speaking, NO! Because it means he is too attached and in the future, he will be very possessive of you. Independent man also thinks about his own life, spends time with his family and friends, and has other good activities to do. Don't ever choose a needy or clingy man to be your boyfriend.
8. He is appreciative of you
He notices every little thing you do. When you try your best to look pretty, he will praise you. When you fetch him a glass of water, he will say 'thank you'. When you do things that are out of your habit, he notices it.
9. He speaks and acts honestly
He can tell you what really happens when he makes a mistake. He does everything for you with sincerity with no bad intentions. In addition, he is a man who doesn't seek your approval by giving praise and doesn't hesitate to criticize yourself when you make a mistake. Receiving praise is important to make you more motivated while criticism is important to make you become a better woman.
10. He has good morality
His morality also affects your relationship in the future. A man who has grown up as a good man and doesn't have many problems with society tends to act wisely in relationships. On the other hand, a man with low morality (e.g. solving problems with violence, familiar with criminality, drugs and free sex) tends to bring the relationship into violence, quarrels, and infidelity.
Unfortunately, many men out there take advantage of the women's vulnerability to seduction to easily get them. In order to choose the right boyfriend, below are 10 characteristics of a good man to be your boyfriend:
1. He treats you well
He doesn't have to treat you like a princess and spoil you everyday, but he knows what he has to do to show his love and he will never hurt you. If he accidentally hurts you, he doesn't hesitate to come to you, admit his mistake and apologize sincerely. He is a man who appreciates and respects you. There is nothing more disgusting than a man who degrades,commits physical and verbal abuse towards a woman.
2. He is a man of his word
When he says yes, then he will do it, when he says no, then he won't do it. Included in this trait, a man who is loyal to his girlfriend. When he promises that you will be the only woman he loved, then he really doesn't have another woman in his heart. In other words, he takes full responsibility for his own words and realize them in his actions (He's not wishy washy in relationships).
3. He loves you inside and out
Why this kind of man is right for you? Because he doesn't only love you physically. He loves all of the strengths and weaknesses you have. And most importantly, he loves your imperfection, perfectly.
4. He has a bright future
If you're really serious about bringing your relationship to a marriage, then you have to think about this. Do you have to choose a man who already have a well established job and good income? Not really. Most importantly, he is mature in thinking and has good plans for the future. Of course, he doesn't spend most of his time playing video games and watching tv everyday. He is able to balance fun and relaxation with work and productivity.
5. He is able to guide and protect you
In relationships, men are leaders. With him, you can develop into a better woman. He also becomes the first person in front of you to protect you from all kinds of dangers.
6. He is confident in himself
Maybe he's not handsome, but he always seems very excited, his face looks so bright, he dares to face everyone, and he has a pleasant personality. Most importantly, he is just being himself and not trying desperately to change his attitude and behave like everyone else (e.g. a movie star you like) when he is trying to draw your attention.
7. He is an independent man
Does a man who spend every day, hour, minute, and second to please you is the right man for you? Frankly speaking, NO! Because it means he is too attached and in the future, he will be very possessive of you. Independent man also thinks about his own life, spends time with his family and friends, and has other good activities to do. Don't ever choose a needy or clingy man to be your boyfriend.
8. He is appreciative of you
He notices every little thing you do. When you try your best to look pretty, he will praise you. When you fetch him a glass of water, he will say 'thank you'. When you do things that are out of your habit, he notices it.
9. He speaks and acts honestly
He can tell you what really happens when he makes a mistake. He does everything for you with sincerity with no bad intentions. In addition, he is a man who doesn't seek your approval by giving praise and doesn't hesitate to criticize yourself when you make a mistake. Receiving praise is important to make you more motivated while criticism is important to make you become a better woman.
10. He has good morality
His morality also affects your relationship in the future. A man who has grown up as a good man and doesn't have many problems with society tends to act wisely in relationships. On the other hand, a man with low morality (e.g. solving problems with violence, familiar with criminality, drugs and free sex) tends to bring the relationship into violence, quarrels, and infidelity.
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