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Guys: PENIS FACTS

For all the attention they direct below the belt, most men actually know very little about their penises. Here's the knowledge you need to keep yours healthy, strong, and ready for action, for life.

1: Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good bloodflow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation. So even if you don't care all that much about your lungs or dying young, spare the little guy.

2: Doctors can now grow skin for burn victims using the foreskins of circumcised infants. One foreskin can produce 23,000 square meters, which would be enough to tarp every Major League infield with human flesh.

3: An enlarged prostate gland can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. If you have an unexplained case of either, your doctor's looking forward to checking your prostate. Even if you're not.

4: The average male orgasm lasts 6 seconds. Women get 23 seconds. Which means if women were really interested in equality, they'd make sure men have four orgasms for every one of theirs.

5: The oldest known species with a penis is a hard-shelled sea creature called Colymbosathon ecplecticos. That's Greek for "amazing swimmer with large penis." Which officially supplants Buck Naked as the best porn name, ever.

6: Circumcised foreskin can be reconstructed. Movable skin on the shaft of the penis is pulled toward the tip and set in place with tape. Later, doctors apply plastic rings, caps, and weights. Years can pass until complete coverage is attained.

7: Only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure. It's estimated, however, that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.

8: There are two types of penises. One kind expands and lengthens when becoming erect (a grower). The other appears big most of the time, but doesn't get much bigger after achieving erection (a shower).

9: An international Men's Health survey reports that 79 percent of men have growers, 21 percent have showers.

10: German researchers say the average intercourse lasts 2 minutes, 50 seconds, yet women perceive it as lasting 5 minutes, 30 seconds.

11: Turns out size does matter: The longer your penis, the better "semen displacement" you'll achieve when having sex with a woman flush with competing sperm. That's according to researchers at the State University of New York, who used artificial phalluses (ahem) to test the "scooping" mechanism of the penis's coronal ridge.

12: The penis that's been enjoyed by the most women could be that of King Fatefehi of Tonga, who supposedly deflowered 37,800 women between the years 1770 and 1784-that's about seven virgins a day.

13: Better-looking men may have stronger sperm. Spanish researchers showed women photos of guys who had good, average, and lousy sperm-and told them to pick the handsomest men. The women chose the best sperm producers most often.

14: No brain is necessary for ejaculation. That order comes from the spinal cord. Finding a living vessel for said ejaculation, however, takes hours of careful thought and, often, considerable amounts of alcohol.

15: The most common cause of penile rupture: vigorous masturbation. Some risks are just not worth taking.

TRICKS Everyman Should Know To Perform Better In Bed

Most guys are confident in their abilities in bed. But we might not all be the skillful lovers we like to think we are. In fact, many men might actually be embarrassing themselves more than they know. We may sincerely believe otherwise, but when it comes to the fundamentals, too many of us are making serious - and avoidable - mistakes in the sack. Next time you get down with someone for the night, be prepared - read our 10 sex basics men get wrong.

10. Foreplay Is More Than A Mean To An End: Some guys rifle through it, though, kissing here and caressing there, as they disrobe in anticipation of the act they appear desperate to begin. Meanwhile, their partners are left to feel as though they're incidental to the endeavor. While the penetration itself may seem synonymous with the act of coitus, that's not what it's all about. Guys would be best served to take it slowly, enjoying every aspect of the encounter as they get to know the woman they're with. A well-paced build-up - the make-out, the undressing, the reciprocal oral sex - will mean a more fulfilling encounter and, more importantly, a standing invitation for more.

9. Silence Is Not Golden: Women are taught to admire the strong, silent type -- the guys who, no matter the circumstances, stay steely and stoic. But while that lack of emotion might work in your favor at a poker tournament, it won't play out quite as well during sex. Instead, it risks alienating your partner by leaving her to wonder if she's actually pleasuring you. There's no need to exaggerate your feelings - leave the heavy moans and contorted facial expressions to the guys in porn - but you can let your partner know you're enjoying her company in a genuine way. How you articulate this is your choice. And if you're still not convinced, ask yourself this: What would you think if she were completely mute during sex?

8. It's Not All About The Orgasm: In any sexual encounter, there's at least a tacit understanding that you're both there to come. And, though circumstances are unlikely to alter that objective, it shouldn't be the only thing you have in mind. When guys approach sex with a laser focus on the all-important orgasm, they generally lose sight of the path to the climactic moment. They wind up pressuring themselves -- and their partners -- to hit the proverbial finish line as quickly as possible. Rather than rush it, why not enjoy the experience as a whole? You'll prolong your pleasure, and your partner will feel like she's with a guy who actually knows what he's doing. The conclusion, though delayed, will be a lot more satisfying for everyone involved.

7. Just Licking Her Does Not Make Excellent Cunnilingus: Performing oral sex on a woman doesnt' always mean a lot of quick licks at the labia majora, followed by brief, orgasm-inducing penetration with your tongue. The labial tongue lashing is not a technique we recommend. When it comes to cunnilingus, don't be shy - you'll want your face nice and close to her vagina. It will feel much better for her, and likely far more erotic for you. Trust us: The more timid option will make you look utterly inexperienced.

6. Use Your Digits Wisely: Digital penetration is a normal part of foreplay. But some guys get overeager and confuse their fingers for penises. As a result, they finger their partners with a vigor normally reserved for sex, as though they're offering a taste of what's to come. All this proves, however, is that they have no idea what a woman wants, so they've resolved to go hard and fast. You should aim for a more measured approach, taking care to acclimate her to the feel of your fingers as you gradually insert more of them. There's room for some intensity, but a little nuance will go a long way.

5. No One Likes A Jackhammer: Simply pounding away at a woman during sex is a surefire turnoff. Nonetheless, many men do, convinced that it will ultimately bring their partners to orgasm. There is no nuance, no build-up, no feeling. This approach is synonymous with inexperience. Rather than simply thrusting away from beginning to end, you'll want to vary your speed throughout sex. Gauge your partner's response and let it inform your movements. If she asks you to go harder, oblige. But if the moment calls for it, go slowly. Sensitize yourself to her needs. You'll last longer, and you'll both be happier for it.

4. Her Clitoris Is Not A Scratch-And-Win Ticket: Here's something every guy will tell you: Don't ignore her clitoris. Any woman you meet is more likely to come from clitoral stimulation than any sort of penetration. But to many men, this is an invitation to rub relentlessly in order to make their partner climax. As you'll learn, though, the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so too much force can actually prove painful. You'll want to approach it carefully - and always with neatly cut nails!

3. Keep Her Whole Body In Mind: When you have sex, you aim to pleasure the woman you're with. So it makes sense that many guys focus on the one or two sensitive areas of her body. If she responds to your attention to, say, her neck or thighs, why look for other ways to please her, right? Not quite. Though this notion is understandable, it's also incredibly shortsighted. The law of diminishing returns applies everywhere - even in the bedroom. If you've worked her neck for a while, move down to her breasts. And you may not want to focus too heavily on her clitoris, where overstimulation can sometimes prove unpleasant. So keep things varied. No woman dreams of a predictable, inattentive lover.

2. If You Like It Rough, Make Sure You're Sweet Afterward: There's nothing wrong with a little roughness if it's consensual. Many women freely admit that they enjoy being slapped and, occasionally, even degraded a little during sex. But you should never, ever take it too far -- no one wants to leave the bedroom in need of medical attention -- and you should always remember to show some compassion afterward. No woman wants to feel as though she's, as one Reddit poster put it, a slab of meat. When it's all over, make sure you pay attention to her immediate needs, which will likely mean some snuggling and cuddling. She will thank you for it.

1. Don't Stress Out About The G-Spot: The location of the G-Spot, or Gräfenberg Spot, has long eluded men. For the record, it is widely understood to be a couple of inches up the anterior vaginal wall, between the vaginal opening and the urethra. Your search will probably be less scientific, so, per one Redditor, once you've inserted your fingers into her vagina, curl them as though you were asking someone to come toward you; the spot you're looking for will feel rippled. But don't let that elusive area become the be-all, end-all of your sex life -- and don't convince yourself that it can induce an orgasm for every woman. Take the time to ask her what she likes and search for her body's hotspots. Wherever they are, discovering them will earn you some serious points.

10 Worst Things Women Do During Sex That Drives Men Crazy

What women do or not do in bed is a huge concern for men.

A lot of men spend hours thinking why women are the way they are, why they do what they do.

Here are some of the worst things women have said/done in bed to men.

Make You Feel Like A Necrophile - You pin her down on the bed after a steamy kiss, only to realise she has magically turned into a log of wood. She takes role play too seriously. Only, there is just one role she plays each time - that of a corpse. Nothing is creepier than making love to a woman so still and silent that you're almost able to hear the blood flowing inside your body.

Changing Their Mind Mid-Way - Nothing can be more annoying than a woman chickening out in bed. To make it worse, some of them express shock over even the thought of having sex, like watching television is what normal people do after getting naked. You keep wondering why this women undressed and let you in bed in the first place if all she had to do was play with your hair.

Bite - Even the sound of it hurts, right? We hear you. Unfortunately many women do that. And not just to your lips. Excitement is good, but a sharp stapler for a mouth is a little too much to bear. Some women just do not know how to keep their teeth off certain sensitive areas. It's a little more hard-hitting than even what the strongest of men can take.

Look Down And Laugh - No, no, no. That is definitely the worst that can happen to you. The person who shared this story is still recovering. When he was about to have his first intercourse, his girlfriend squealed out a laugh as soon as he let his buddy out. Why she did that, nobody knows. Needless to say, the intercourse didn't happen. Hard to believe, but a lot of men have been stabbed on their self-confidence like that.

Fake An Orgasm - Women are known to fake orgasms. What they do not understand is that most of them aren't award winning actors. Sometimes, they overact. Letting out screams and moans at frequencies only bats can hear already when the thing isn't even completely in doesn't make it too hard for the dumbest among men to figure out that it's not real.

Keep Talking - Conversations are good but some women fail to understand that there is a place and time for conversations. And the place is definitely nowhere between the sheets.

Bring Toys - Though just a few filed this complaint, it still makes it to the list of the worst things women have done to their guys.

Is It In? - Can anything be more humiliating than your woman asking you, "is it in"? This definitely beats 'I Love You' on the list of three words men dread to hear from their girls. Not only is it suggestive of your size being small but also your incapability to satisfy your woman. In a situation like above, you can do little but jump off the balcony.

Calling Out The Wrong Name - Imagine your girl suffixing another guy's name to 'don't stop'. Can you even try to not stop? Is there anything more embarrassing? There is, its the other name being that of a woman.

Telling You She Wants To Get Pregnant - If you thought you've read it all, here is another one. 'I wish the condom fails' she may let out while you're at it. What fails instead is your erection. She then looks at you with an eerie longing in her eyes that screams b-a-b-y. Nothing can be scarier. This is to prepare you for what may lie ahead.

DOMESTIC ABUSE: 6 Tactics Used To Control Women!

Domestic abuse often escalates from verbal abuse to violence. As a result, the victim suffers not only from physical injury, but also from severe emotional and psychological caused.

Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-esteem, lead to depression, and give you a sense of helplessness. Recognizing that your situation is abusive is the first step to being free.

Signs indicative of an abusive relationship

Feelings of self-loathing, feelings of helplessness, feelings of desperation, fear of your partner, walking on eggshells around your partner, constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up, your partner belittles you, your partner controls you.

Below you will find the common TACTICS abusers adhere to in order to exercise their control

Dominance - Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They tell you what to do all the time and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his or her possession.

Humiliation - An abuser will do everything he or she can to make you feel bad about yourself. Such an individual makes you feel worthless and not appreciated by anyone for you not to dump the current relationships. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public belittlement are all artillery of abuse.

Isolation - To increase your dependence on him/her, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world by keeping you from seeing friends and family, or even prevent you from going to work.

Threats - Abusers commonly use threats to keep their partners from leaving. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, or other family members, and may threaten to report you to child services.

Intimidation - Such a partner may use a variety of intimidation tactics for you to be obedient. These include making threatening gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, or putting weaponry on display.

Denial and blame - The abuser may deny the fact of abusing or minimize it. What is more, he or she will commonly shift the blame onto you.

Survival strategies of abused women

Abused women develop astonishing ways of surviving the violence. Others rarely understand these strategies because they often seem unhelpful when viewed from outside the relationship.

Often, a woman's survival strategies are used to support the myths around abuse and to blame her for the abuse.

Denial or minimising and making light of the abuse - Pretending that the abuse isn't happening because it is too overwhelming to face what it means in her life. "I needed to believe that he'd never do it again...I still cared about him...I wasn't seeing...Denying what was happening to me was my way of hanging onto my sanity".

Learning not to fight back - Fighting often escalates violence and causes her more harm. Substance abuse: can help her numb the pain. "I was so nervous that I gulped down the Valium".

Suicidal thoughts or acts - A woman in pain may see suicide as the only way out. "I thought about killing myself".

Paralysis - Not taking any actions, because it makes things even worse. "I would freeze... I was totally numb and dead... eventually I got paralysed with fear."

Isolation and fear of intervention from outsiders (includes a woman refusing to contact the police or withdrawing charges) - people who do not understand the situation often end up making it worse. "I did try to tell my neighbour and my doctor, but it was obvious they didn't want to hear about it. I felt humiliated and I was terrified someone would criticise me as he did. I lost so much self-confidence that it felt safer to be at home than to go out on the street. I was glad when the phone didn't ring or the day would pass without anyone coming to the door".

Trying to please the abuser - In order to prevent violent outbreaks. "At home the harder she tried, the more she failed...I really did a lot of work trying to keep the lid on things, keep things happy... I became compulsive... I did everything right... did everything to perfection."

Hyper-vigilance (walking on eggshells) - Also to prevent violent outbreaks. "I got good at anticipating every problem."

Playing "Superwoman" - Attempting to prevent violent outbreaks. "I could do anything - leap tall buildings, outrun locomotives... you would be amazed what I could accomplish in 24 hours to keep him happy."

Belief that she is inferior - The abuser insists that she accept his opinions and be submissive, passive and indecisive. He needs her to be dependent and subservient so he can feel in control. If she is not, he is likely to become violent.

Taking steps to heal and move on

The horrible experience of such relationships can stay with you long after you've escaped the abusive situation. To go through all this it's important for you to indulge in counselling, therapy, and support groups for domestic abuse survivors - it can help you process what you've been through and learn how to build new and healthy relationships.

After the trauma you may be struggling with upsetting emotions, frightening memories, or a sense of constant danger that you just can't kick.

Furthermore, you you may feel numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. It can take a while to feel safe again.

However, treatment and support from family and friends can speed your recovery from emotional and psychological trauma.

How You Can Use Facebook To Have More Sex

If you're not currently using your social media to gain an edge in your dating life, you're fighting with one arm tied behind your back.

Men who know what they're doing online have a huge advantage over their peers , and the gap is only going to widen as more services and apps are released.

These simple social-media dating tips will help boost your game-without you coming off as a weird, app-obsessed geekhead.

The Good Book

Women you meet will often ask if you have Facebook, or they'll just look for your profile when they get home-and they will make judgments about you based on what they see on your page. Keep your page private until it's ready to be seen.

Instagame

From Instagram to Facebook photos, you want to tell a story about yourself: If you're a skier, have photos of yourself skiing; and if you have cool friends, have photos of yourself out with them doing interesting things. There should be attractive women in some photos, but not so many or so obvious that it looks deliberate.

#GoFilter

While some things on your page are fine for everyone to see, others might be great for the women you're interested in dating but not professional contacts, and vice versa. Facebook allows you to sort your friends into groups (without their knowing) and then decide which groups get to see which updates. Do this.

Dude! Tweet!

A Twitter account shows women that you're interested in staying current. In general, think funny or interesting pictures and quick comments; it's not the place to discuss or debate. When an interesting woman is following you, you can direct message her privately.

Post-Modern

A conversation at a bar often starts with her looking over and catching your eye. You look back, she smiles, and then you approach. Connecting on social media can work the same way, except the look is a post and the smile is a comment or "like." These are low-investment things to do once in a while to get on the on-ramp to a conversation with someone you're into.

Chill Out

Don't try too hard with the status updates, detailed bios, or commenting on and liking everything that goes by. You don't want women to think of you as "the guy who is always on Facebook" or, worse, "the guy who stalks me on Facebook."

10 Common Mistakes That Men Make During Sex

Perhaps you are making one or more of these 10 mistakes below;

1. Getting Too Intimate

When it comes to verbal seduction, less is more. You might think it's what she wants to hear, but letting the conversation turn too sappy the first time you coax her back to your place gets awkward, fast. Don't overdo the compliments-a simple, "You're really gorgeous/hot," will do it. Resist the urge to discuss your future together. Right now is the time to be the strong and silent type.

2. Clam Jamming

Once you've shut up long enough to get below her clothes, be mindful of your fingers (i.e., don't start cramming them in her like you're trying to clear a clogged drain). The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings in an area smaller than a pea, which means that the lightest touch is enough to bring it to attention. Poke too hard and it feels more like an awkward jolt than a pleasurable sensation, like any contact with a penis right after orgasm. Start with a gentle touch, and she'll push against you to signal for more aggression.

3. Refusing to Kiss After Oral

No one's eager to coat their throat in man gravy, but when a woman has just performed a, erm, service for you, refusal of any forthcoming affection can be insulting. So if you see a kiss headed your way, suck it up. Contorting your face in disgust will only make a woman feel cheap. If you can't stomach the thought of a post-fellatio tongue dance, kiss her neck, shoulders, face, etc. until such time has passed that any offending you-goo has dissolved.

4. Failing to Reciprocate

This rule's a little fast and loose. On the one hand, many women feel self-conscious about a guy getting that close to their whispering eye before they've really gotten to know them, so don't be surprised if she declines. On the other hand, neglecting to even attempt to return her favor makes you look like a heel. So even if she shuts you down, she'll make a mental note that you're at least willing to appear generous.

5. Forgoing Protection

You might feel hesitant to kill the mood by pulling out a condom, but skin diving not only puts you at risk for STDs (not to mention fatherhood), but it also appears disrespectful. If you're fine being wreckless with yourself, that's your business, but there's a second party here, and a gentleman who wants to get laid puts the lady first.

6. Getting Too Kinky

Maybe six months down the line, you'll both discover that you're into urolagnia and live freakishly ever after, but right now isn't the time to explore your deviant side. Keep the slapping and hair-pulling at bay and withhold the graphic dirty talk.

7. Making Strange Noises/Yelling

Be aware of the strange sounds you make and the offensive things you yell out en coitus. If necessary, seek therapy for them.

8. Acting Like a Porn Star

If life was anything like a porno, every time you did laundry would end in a washer-top gangbang. But real women don't want to be treated like porn stars (at least not the first time you're with them), and mindless jack-hammering makes you less a workhorse than a hump monkey.

9. Stressing About Your Performance

There are a number of things that can go wrong the first time you're in bed with a new partner, and most consenting adults understand that. There's a lot to feel out about another person before reaching the right comfort level and sexual rhythm. Any awkward post-sex vibes that you project will make her uneasy as well, so you're better off relaxing and basking in the glow, bro.

10. Forgetting to Allot Cuddle Time

Whoa, whoa, whoa. So what if you need to take a piss or the sandman is beating you over the head with his nap bag? Before you go bouncing out of bed to use the bathroom or start snoring like a chainsaw, allow a solid five to 10 minutes of cuddle/pillow talk time. Ideally you want to wait for her to fall asleep first, but at least make sure you spend enough conscious time with her afterward to show that this wasn't just another smash and grab.

10 Things Her Body Is Telling You

The female body is a work of art and well deserves to be admired, while clothed or naked.

If you peel your eyes away from her butt and breasts for a few moments, you can improve your chances with the one you're after. Just look for these 10 subtle signs to understand what she's thinking and feeling.

Pupils: If she's feeling stimulated by you (not just sexually), her pupils will dilate. That's because her body is programmed to want to see more of whatever's exciting her, so her brain tells her irises to let in more light.

Eyelashes: Hold her gaze for a minute. If she's blinking more than normal (which is about 15 times a minute), there's a good chance she's on the Pill; women on birth control blink 32 percent more than those who aren't. Aside from the obvious, what does that mean for you? Put on your toughest, most confident mug as you look at her. Because of the shift in hormone levels, research says, women on the Pill are more attracted to men with rugged features, such as strong, wide jaws.

Brain: She's matching you drink for drink, you're starting to feel like reenacting Animal House, but she seems like her same old self. What's the deal? Men and women get different kinds of buzzes: Men lose inhibitions, while women become sedated. If you're looking to get her into the party spirit, don't feed her more alcohol. Instead, feed the jukebox. Research shows that mid- to fast-tempo music will make her more social.

Belly: Want to know if it's a good or bad time to broach a tricky conversation? You can tell if she's suitably relaxed by her breathing pattern. If her stomach pulls in with each inhalation, she's taking shallow breaths from her chest, which indicates stress. Keep your distance. If her abdomen and chest expand with each inhalation, she's taking deeper, more rhythmic breath, a sign of relaxation. Go for it.

Nose: Her sense of smell is sharpest first thing in the morning, which, aside from being a good reason to brush your teeth immediately, makes it the best time to impress her with your culinary skills. That's because 90 percent of taste is really smell. Treat her to a breakfast in bed consisting of warmed banana-nut bread, which has an aroma that, according to one study, increases bloodflow to the vagina. And that may lead to a different kind of morning treat.

Chest: Sex flush, a pinkish look to the skin of her chest, occurs during foreplay. It stems from changes in blood pressure and circulation, along with pulse and respiration rates. Think of it as her coy way of telling you that if you keep doing what you're doing, you just might get lucky. Another sign that things are working: A woman's breasts grow by as much as 25 percent as things turn hot and heavy.

Small of Her Back: As she moves toward orgasm during sex, she'll begin to arch her back. Hold her tight around the small of her back at this point and stay attuned to how much she's arching. And, for God's sake, do not let up; maintain the same rhythm and intensity of stimulation until she climaxes. She'll pay you back for this later, with interest.

Fingernails: Pay attention to her fingers; among the surest signs of anxiety or depression in a woman are body-focused repetitive behaviors, such as skin picking and nail biting. If you see her doing that, don't nag her to stop; that can send her deeper into a spiral. Instead, gently pull her hand away, give it a squeeze, and hold on to it. Feel the tension ooze right out.

Hands: If it seems as if she always has cold hands, that's because she does, almost 3 degrees colder than yours, possibly more if she's stressed. Women's bodies, even more than men's, are programmed to keep their cores warmer than their extremities. So to warm her hands up, don't massage them; wrap your arm around her waist. This will warm her core and allow blood to flow back into her hands.

Between Her Legs: Okay, you know enough about your partner's menstrual cycle to know when to leave her alone. Now add this to your arsenal: Two weeks after her period begins, she will be at her horniest, guaranteed. Female sexual motivation is highest when she's ovulating. Warning: This is also when she's most likely to get pregnant.

Why Some Women Go Through Pain During Sex

Women often have painful sex on their first sexual experience or if they have been on a sexual sabbatical.

But sex for the first time should be memorable and of course pleasurable so why do women experience painful intercourse.

Read on to learn about the causes of painful intercourse and ways to prevent it.

Medically, painful intercourse is known as dyspareunia and according to NCBI, 'The overall prevalence of dyspareunia was 12.6 per cent, with a higher prevalence in the central region, among newly married and younger women, among Muslims, rural residents, and among non users or traditional contraceptive method users.

Dyspareunia was significantly more common among respondents who had urinary sensory symptoms when compared with their counterparts.'

Three Types of Dyspareunia:

1) Entry pain

2) Deep Pain

3) Emotional factors

Entry pain, Dyspareunia: Lack of lubrication - Too much friction is a cause of painful intercourse. Lack of lubrication intensifies the pain during intercourse. Engage in longer foreplay to increase lubrication and reduce friction in the vagina.

Entry pain, Dyspareunia: Injury - Irritation due to injury, accident or congenital abnormality is another reason for dyspareunia.

Entry pain, Dyspareunia: Inflammation - Inflammation or infection of the genitals can increase your chances of painful intercourse. Problems like urinary tract infection and genital skin problems can also cause dyspareunia.

Entry pain, Dyspareunia: Vaginismus - This condition is characterised as involuntary muscle spasms of the vagina that makes sex a painful experience.

Deep pain, Dyspareunia: Ailments - There are several health problems that affect the vagina and uterus. Fibroids, haemorrhoids, ovarian cyst and endometriosis are some of the factors that can cause dyspareunia.

Deep pain, Dyspareunia: Surgeries - Surgeries at the pelvic area and chemotherapy are some of the causes of Dyspareunia. Surgeries and chemo make the skin tender, which can result in painful sex.

Emotional factors, Dyspareunia: Psychology - Depression, anxiety and stress are some of the factors that cause painful intercourse. Your pelvic muscles tighten when you are stressed making it difficult for smooth and painless penetration.

WHY Most Men And Women Are Unhappy About These Kinds Of Sex

In an ideal world, no one would regret their informed, consensual sexual choices -- or feel like their sex lives need to fall in line with what's stereotypically "expected" from men and women. Unfortunately, we're not there yet.

In a study published in the October 2013 issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior, researchers analyzed data from three different studies, one of which included over 24,000 participants. They found that men and women had very different regrets about their sexual pasts. While men tended to regret the sexual adventures they hadn't pursued, female participants expressed regret over the things that they had done.

The most common regrets for women were:
1. Losing their virginity to the wrong partner (24 percent of respondents)
2. Cheating on a present or past partner (23 percent)
3. Moving too fast sexually (20 percent)

The most common regrets for men were entirely different:
1. Failing to make a move on a prospective sexual partner (27 percent of respondents)
2. Not being more sexually adventurous in their youth (23 percent)
3. Not being more sexually adventurous when single (19 percent)

The researchers posit that these differences are evolutionary -- i.e. that men are more likely to regret not having sown their wild oats, whereas women are more likely to regret casual sex because of possible reproductive or emotional repercussions. However, lead author Andrew Galperin has admitted that cultural standards likely play a significant role, too.

"We do not doubt that social norms, such as a sexual 'double standard,' play a major role in sexual regret," Galperin said in a Nov. 25 press release."But these norms themselves might have roots in the ancient selection pressures shaping women's and men's minds."

For example, the intense cultural importance placed on women's sexual choices, specifically when and how they lose their virginity could contribute to the large number of women who report regretting who they had their "first time" with.

"I think that we're all trapped in these stereotypes," Therese Shechter, director of "How To Lose Your Virginity," said. "Part of it is just millennia of double standards. But I also think we see these [ideas] reflected back to us through our popular culture. It's pretty narrow, pretty shallow and pretty limited."

5 Simple Ways To Make Her Get Naked For You

Let's face it, some women out there just aren't comfortable making the first move when you get to the bedroom. Whether she's shy or just doesn't know what you want, you need to take control of the situation.

You've said all the right things, but she just won't give in. It's time to lend her a hand by being the leader so the real fun can start. We promise, she'll follow.

1. Get Naked Yourself

Whipping it out can encourage her to do the same and can heighten her curiosity and sexual tension. Unlike going for her pants, getting undressed yourself isn't something she's used to automatically objecting to, so there's less chance of her breaking the mood.

2. Make it Warm-or Cold

If it's warm, she'll be more likely to be willing to shed clothes. If it's cold, she'll be more likely to curl up under a blanket next to you. Either of those will lead to her being naked sooner.

3. Be Bold

No woman gets naked with a man because she's turned on by how 'respectful' he is. If you are attracted to her, she'll know-whether you say anything or not. Women are rarely attracted to a man who wants her, but doesn't make a move. So you may as well show her you have the confidence to make something happen.

4. Get Physical

She's more likely to get naked after a workout, a hike, or a day at the beach. Plan something hot and sweaty and then offer to let her shower at your place. Just make sure your bathroom is clean and you have nice towels!

5. Be the Man

Many women like to feel like they're being seduced. Of course she knows what's going on, but it's a nice feeling for a lot of women for the man to make things happen, smoothly, in a 'it just happened' kind of way. So have an excuse when you invite her home, don't spend five minutes looking for a condom or trying to unhook her bra. One mistake a lot of guys make is starting to fool around on the couch and then moving her to the bedroom. That's a potentially awkward moment. If you start on the couch, finish on the couch.

Guys: Nine Steps To A Stronger & Longer Erection

It's the eternal quest: how do you increase the size, strength and stamina of your erections? There are endless treatments, ointments and devices claiming to pump up your volume, but precious few solutions hold any water. The reality is that we're blessed with whatever God gave us. But if you follow the realistic tips that follow, you can maximize your erection on all fronts.

These tips could come in handy when you know in advance that you're going to have sex, as you'll be well-informed and prepared. You can make your penis go the distance instead of being a "one and done" guy.

Eat Well: One of the keys to a healthy erection is a healthy diet. You don't want to be loading up on heavy foods or difficult-to-digest meals if you know an intimate moment is in your near future.

Get Positioned Properly: Setting yourself up on the right position can enhance and maximize the size of your erection.

Calm Your Nerves: The more relaxed and comfortable you are in the moment, the stiffer and stronger your member will be.

Limit Your Sensitivity To Go Longer: The classic way to limit over-sensitivity is to wear a condom, which you should be doing anyway in a lot of cases. If you don't need to wear a condom with your woman, you can try focusing on other things. Periodically take yourself out of the scene mentally if you think you're going to lose control. The trick is to transport your mind away just long enough to avoid ejaculating too early - but not lose your erection.

Manage Any Medication You Are On: Medication for some ailments such as depression, social phobia, and anxiety are more and more common these days. But unfortunately, these medicines are murder on your erection. If you're on these types of drugs, work with your doctor to make sure you're not over-medicated - or it's goodbye, sex life.

Save Your Strength: Don't tire yourself out too quickly in the sack. If you exhaust yourself, your erection is going to feel like a marshmallow. Know your limits.

Exercise, Exercise, Exercise: Do abdominal exercises. This will help your abdominal muscles support and hold your erection, as opposed to holding your belly. Furthermore, if you have a large gut, it tends to make your unit small by comparison. Being in shape and having a good physique will make you feel good about yourself and up your confidence. This will, in turn, make you comfortable with your body, enticing you to have sex and increasing your sex drive. You can also give your penis a workout with some Kegel exercises. While there's no hard evidence that they will produce a larger size, they will help you stay hard longer.

Don't Smoke and Drink to Excess: Smoking cigarettes gives you bad circulation. And when you want to get down, the blood's gotta be flowing. So there's one more reason to quit. Drinking too much alcohol numbs your wiener and can inflate your prostate. So don't overdo the alcohol if you don't want to under-do the lovemaking.

Don't Masturbate Too Often: You want to save your money-shot for Miss Right, not Mr. Five Fingers. If you ever needed an excuse not to masturbate, that's it. This calls for a little self-control - and most of us have that, right?

Sexy Statements That Turn Her On In Bed

The list of best things is sadly more difficult to compile. Follow these guidelines and you'll become the elusive man she's longing for: the man with a well-trained tongue.

It's okay to go slow: Say it and mean it. Especially when you're first rubbing skin with a new woman and it's not yet clear whether you'll actually have sex tonight. Or when you're first getting back together with an ex. Or when you're about to have sex with her for the first time since she gave birth. It builds trust and reassures a woman that you care more about her than about the sex. Also, it often leads to the reverse-psychology phenomenon: She'll want to jump you by the time you finish the sentence.

That freckle is beautiful: Compliments are always good. Except when they're generic. Then she thinks you've said the same thing to 47 other women. Focus on unique details, the way her lips curl or her eyes crinkle. The more special you make her feel, the more aroused she gets. She wants to hear words that imply she's attractive, appreciated, loved or at least liked. Compliments after sex are good, too.

You: Say it often. "You" is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed. "You make me feel so good" instead of "That feels so good." Subtle modification, but big difference in sentiment. "You' is sexy because you're referring to her as opposed to the act of sex," says Daylle Deanna Schwartz, a psychotherapist and author of How to Please a Woman in and out of Bed. "It's very personal, and women love that."

You kiss great for a virgin: A woman needs feedback to know she's turning you on. "Oh, yeah. You feel so good. Even grunting indicates you really liked it when she grabbed your ass, but didn't care for the sucking of toes. Need inspiration to get vocal? "Women are much more likely to give longer and more enthusiastic oral sex when men give them a response," says Schwartz. When you drift into radio silence, she starts wondering, "Is this doing anything for him? Should I stop? Does my face look fat?" All that thinking keeps her from concentrating.

I'm going to take these off: Compare this with "Should I take these off?" Too many questions makes sex seem clinical and cerebral, and women hate that. Also, women want the man to convey a sense of certainty. When he does, it creates an intimate space where she can feel safe to open up. Sometimes midthrust queries are necessary, in which case it's best to whisper urgently in her ear. A better time for questions is before or after sex, while you're holding her.

You make me think dirty thoughts: Your last girlfriend liked you to swear like Missy Elliot. Your new girlfriend might, too. You just don't know yet: You've had only sweet, respectful, beginning-of-relationship sex. It's time for a dirty-talk litmus test. Make a statement like the one above and see if she turns red. "Some women hate the 'c-word' but love the 'p-word,' " says David Copeland, coauthor of How to Talk to Women. "Some feel the opposite. Some dislike both. It's best to test a bit, rather than go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right away." Be attuned to her response before you take it up a notch on the dirty scale.

I want to make you feel good: You want her to have an orgasm, and you want her to know it. But talking about it is one way to ensure it won't happen, it sometimes comes across as your being more concerned about your abilities than about how she feels. "Focus not on orgasm, but on giving her sexual pleasure," says Laura Berman, Ph.D., a clinical professor at Northwestern University and director of the Berman Center in Chicago. "It's more erotic."

Next time, I'm going to . . . : Afterplay is just as important for building her arousal as foreplay, and it takes only a fraction of the time. "Create sexual anticipation by telling her what you're going to do to her next time," suggests Cadell. "It conveys that you care about her and want to satisfy her." And it lets her know she's still desirable to you, even after you've had your way with her.

You amaze me Or You're amazing: It says, "That was really great sex," without actually saying, "That was really great sex." Another declaration that women love to hear: "You're the best lover I've ever had." If it's true, tell her. There's no greater confidence booster; and once she holds the title, she'll make darn sure she keeps it.

Early Ejaculation: What To Do After You Finish Too Quickly

It happens to the best of men. You're with a girl, and it's feeling good - really good. All of sudden, way too good. Before you know it, you've concluded your business and you've barely made it past the one-minute mark. As she stares quizzically into your eyes, you have a split second to decide what to do about your early ejaculation. Should you try to play it off with a joke or genuinely apologise? Here are the DOs and DONT's of how to react.

Laugh it off: Trying to casually make a joke of the situation is a valid reaction. If you can get her to laugh about it with you, then it will just be an amusing hiccup in an otherwise pleasurable evening. Take a break, have a good laugh and then try again. If she does not find it funny, you have two options: 1) skip to "distracting her" or 2) find yourself a girl who's not so uptight. Oh! Yes!

Apologise: Sure, you could apologise for your premature ending. It's a fine option as long as you don't grovel. A quick "sorry" wouldn't hurt, but don't dwell on it. It really doesn't require a solemn declaration of regret. The only thing you'd really have to be sorry for is leaving her unsatisfied after your quick orgasm.

Pout: Grown men should not pout. It is not becoming at the best of times, and it is certainly not appropriate on the occasion of early ejaculation. Be a man, suck it up and try again. It may be disheartening, but acting like a petulant two-year-old will guarantee that you don't get a second chance.

Panic: Do not panic. In the event of an unexpected climax, resist the urge to flee the room in shame. Stay calm and try to act like it's not a big deal. She'll still be out there when you're finished hiding in the bathroom, and your freak-out will just make things more awkward when you finally chill out.

Try to explain: The phrase "this never happens to me" should not escape your mouth in this situation. She probably won't believe it despite your insistence on the rarity of the occurrence. In fact, she might even think you doth protest too much. Believe it or not, women are aware that it happens every once in a while. She doesn't need an explanation.

Fake like it didn't happen: Faking an orgasm is one thing, but faking not having an orgasm is probably even harder. There is evidence left behind after all. So don't try to pretend it didn't happen; just act like it didn't. Instead of pausing to acknowledge it, just move on and keep the pleasure going by other means. Your penis does not have to be directly involved for sex to continue.

Distract her: The best possible reaction to a early ejaculation on your part is to focus your attention on her pleasure, thereby distracting her from the fact that you're already finished. If you're using your mouth, hands or sex toys to please her, she won't care when you had your orgasm.

Try, try again: No matter which of these reactions come to you at the moment of your untimely orgasm, you can save the situation by getting yourself together and starting from the beginning. If you can't manage to get it up a second time, make sure she is happy for the night by using the other means at your disposal and giving her a repeat performance in the morning, which will be sure to last longer than the first.

Happy New Month

Every morning is a chance to forget the pains of yesterday, and see the change of a brand new day. To dance and laugh again, to make up for the wrong things done. And most of all, It's God's reminder that He is sending another blessing called 'LIFE.'

Happy New Month!

Easy Tips To Help Her Reach The Big O

For years, the clitoris was considered the only trigger for the female orgasm. Alas, even finding the clitoris turned out to be a daunting task for many men, and things didn't get any easier in 1950 when a physician by the name of Dr. Ernst Grafenberg found an even more mysterious female pleasure spot hidden within the vagina.

This area became popularised by sexologists as the 'G-spot'. It turns out that stimulation of the G-spot produces a very powerful kind of female orgasm.

For both of these reasons, finding, stimulating and discovering how to master the woman's G-spot has become, for both men and women, the Holy Grail of female pleasuring.

What exactly is the G-spot? It is the bean-shaped, spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, which is analogous to the male prostate. The actual area is rather small, but it feels rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. Because the G-spot is composed of erectile tissue, it swells up when blood rushes to it - especially if you learn how to master the woman's G-spot effectively. It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. The 'front' wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as her belly button.

The best way to find the G-spot: First of all, the G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is sexually aroused, so don't stint on your foreplay first. To locate and master the woman's G-spot, face your partner while she is lying on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina as far as it will easily go. Then crook it up toward yourself in a "come hither" motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. Make sure you have your fingernails clipped short and buffed before you do this - sharp fingernails will definitely spoil the effort. This rough or slightly ridged area is the "G-spot," and touching it will often cause a woman to react with surprise or pleasure.

If you don't get a reaction, don't be too shy to ask her if she feels especially sensitive when you touch what you think is the spot. You may need to use a fair amount of pressure to find the G-spot because it is located within, not on the outside of, the vaginal wall.

Sometimes, it helps to use your other hand on the outside of the mons pubis (the hairy area above the pubic bone) to lightly massage the skin in the area where your crooked finger is touching to intensify the effect. And since not all women are G-spot sensitive, don't get discouraged if you can't get a special reaction.

While some women are capable of multiple orgasms with repetitive stimulation of the G-spot, others don't get much of a feeling and some even feel discomfort from G-spot stimulation.

No worries - every woman will appreciate the attention and the effort! And while searching, you might discover other areas in her vagina that she responds to even more enthusiastically.

Tapping into love. The best way to manually stimulate the G-spot is with a firm "tapping" motion with your crooked finger. Even women who do not enjoy manual stimulation of the G-spot may enjoy penile stimulation of the spot during intercourse. The "woman on top" positions and posterior (doggy style) positions are best for achieving that contact.

The only way to get G-spot stimulation in the missionary position is to prop her hips up with pillows. Women can also intensify their ability to have G-spot orgasm by learning to contract their pelvic muscles, known as Kegel exercises.

Sex gets better with age. Most young women under 30 find clitoral orgasms to be more powerful because, due to their relatively high oestrogen levels, their vaginal lining becomes too thick to allow direct stimulation of their G-spot nerves.

As the oestrogen level begins to decline in women during their 30s, the vaginal lining becomes thinner and the G-spot becomes more accessible. That's why most women feel that they begin to peak sexually in their early to mid-30s.

What are the main differences between the clitoris and G-spot? Basically, the first thing that you need to know is that the purpose of both the clitoris and the G-spot is to provide sexual pleasure to a woman. Women have far more body parts which can be their premier source of pleasure - including her breasts and her vagina.

Here is a quick definition of each. The clitoris is a small erectile organ located at the anterior part of the vagina. Sex experts say that it is the only human body part whose sole function is to provide women with sexual pleasure. In simple terms, it is that small pleasure button which is located on top of her vaginal opening - the one which can be stimulated to bring her to new sexual heights.

The G-spot is physically similar to the male prostate. It is a bean-shaped tissue which is located just behind the frontal wall of the vagina. Its position is quite tricky, though, unlike the clitoris which is visible to the naked eye. With the G-spot, you need to use some manual dexterity in order to reach it.

However, it is important to note that every woman's body is different, so some may respond better to clitoral stimulation while others may prefer the trickier G-spot stimulation.

Why You Should Be Having More Orgasms

We dont need to convince you to have sex! Sex is a natural way to procreate. But, besides that, sex can bring happiness and relief. Here's having an orgasm could help improve your health.

One of the main reasons orgasm feels so good is because your brain releases the pleasure hormone oxytocin when you climax. Oxytocin is also called the "love hormone" because of its important role in facilitating social bonding between humans. Most of the following points revolve around the release of oxytocin. Read on to discover eleven ways achieving an orgasm can make your life so much better...

1. Orgasms relieve stress.

Anonymous poll has shown that in 2,632 women between the ages of 23 and 90, 39 percent of those who masturbate reported that they do it in order to relax. When someone orgasms, the hormone oxytocin is released from nerve cells in the hypothalamus (a region of the brain) into the bloodstream.

Orgasm relives tension as oxytocin stimulates feelings of warmth and relaxation.

Additionally, research gathered in a study by scientists found that when women experience an orgasm, the amygdala, the part of the brain associated with fear and anxiety, shows little to no activity.

2. An orgasm could make your significant other less likely to cheat.

Researchers in Germany decided to conduct an experiment in 2012 testing the power of oxytocin. They believed that high doses of the "love hormone" would cause men to consider going outside of their relationships, so they gave oxycotin to a group of (heterosexual) men and introduced them to a very attractive woman. The subjects were asked to determine when the attractive woman was at an "ideal distance" or an "uncomfortable distance."

Those who took oxycotin and were in monogamous relationships ended up distancing themselves about four to six inches farther than those who took oxytocin and were single. The researchers hypothesized that instead of oxytocin causing coupled men to cheat, it instead compelled them to hold on tighter to the bond they have already formed with their girlfriends.

3. The female orgasm could make men focus better.

There is so much power in the orgasm that some people are devoted to the practice of "orgasmic meditation," in which two partners focus on achieving the female orgasm. Even men have claimed that they receive health benefits by just pleasuring a woman. Men even confessed that fixing their attention on a tiny spot of a woman's body improves their concentration at work.

4. Orgasms could help with insomnia.

Would you rather take a sleeping pill or have a mind-blowing orgasm to help you get some rest? We think we know the answer. 32 percent of 1,866 U.S. women say they masturbate in order to facilitate falling asleep. Why? No one knows for sure, though some researchers and sex therapists theorize that the release of other neurochemicals, like endorphins, can have a sedative effect.

5. A man's orgasm could (maybe) make a woman less depressed.

A somehow controversial study showed that women who had sex without condoms had fewer signs of depression than women who used condoms or refrained from sex, even when researchers controlled for relationship status and other personal factors.

What does this mean? Semen, resulting from the male orgasm, could be an effective antidepressant for women. That said, unprotected sex is NOT something we'd recommend -- after all, an STD or unplanned pregnancy can surely also contribute to depression, along with other medical and social risks.

The lead psychologist of the study believes the reason semen has the potential to lift a woman's mood is because of the several mood-altering hormones found in it. Most of these hormones werefound in the women's blood shortly after ejaculation.

6. Orgasms help alleviate pain.

There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain -- including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth. That's thanks to pain-relieving oxytocin and endorphins. Women's pain tolerance and pain detection increased by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively, when those women masturbated to orgasm.

7. They could help men get over their colds faster.

A study at a German university studied 11 men who were asked to masturbate until completion. Blood was drawn continuously throughout the process, and it was discovered that sexual arousal and orgasm increased the number of "killer" cells called leukocytes. This means that when men are sick, an orgasm could initiate components of their immune system that could help them get over that bug sooner.

8. Steady orgasms could help you live longer.

In 1997, a group of researchers decided to look into the relationship between orgasms and mortality. They studied the sexual frequency of 918 men between the ages of 45 and 59. They evaluated those who died from coronary heart disease and discovered that those who had two or more orgasms a week died at a rate half of those who had orgasms less than once a month. The researchers concluded that "sexual activity seems to have a protective effect on men's health."

While women's orgasms have not been studied as extensively, a research was conducted in 1941, looking at the sex lives of 1,500 couples. The frequency of orgasms women in these couples had was recorded. Twenty years later, same researchers studied the death certificates of each of the women. What they discovered was that the women who reported a frequency of orgasm during intercourse tended to live longer than those who reported being less sexually fulfilled.

9. Orgasms will also stimulate your brain.

Orgasms sure get your blood flowing, and that doesn't exclude blood flow to your brain. In August, researchers asked female subjects to masturbate while lying in a MRI machine that measured blood flow to the brain. When the females orgasmed, it increased blood flow to all parts of the brain while allowing nutrients and oxygenation to travel to their noggins as well.

10. Orgasms could keep you looking young.

Forget plastic surgeries, or cosmetic substances, just have an orgasm. Among thousands of men and women of differing ages, those between the ages of 40 and 50, who reported having sex 50 percent more than other respondents, looked younger. While this study does not explicitly state the specifics as to why orgasms could make you look younger, this could be because intercourse releases the human growth hormone, which makes skin look more elastic.

11. They just get better as you age.

There's no reason to stop having sex when you get older. In fact, you are more likely to enjoy it even more as you enter old age. A study found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age. Researchers from the University of California studied 806 women living in a planned community home. The study measured the sexual activity of these women who had a median age of 67 and were all postmenopausal. The findings reported that sexually satisfaction actually increased with age, with approximately half of the women over 80 years old reporting sexual satisfaction almost always or always. So, never stop having orgasms!

Guys: 10 Lessons About Female Orgasm

According to the data collected in several major researches, only 25% of women climax during sex with their partner. That is while over 90% of men say they reach orgasm. Thus, gentlemen, it is up to you to ensure that your lady experiences this highest level of sexual satisfaction. These tips might prove very handy in mastering the art of pleasuring a woman.

1.Take her off the clock: Just as you're concerned about lasting longer, many women are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or deciding to go without. The solution? Stop obsessing over orgasms-yours and hers. A recent brain-imaging study by Swedish researchers shows that relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm. So tell her she has all night. The better you convey not just tolerance for a lengthy buildup, but also appreciation of her sexual pleasure-orgasm or not-the easier it will be for her to unwind and explode. Oh, and studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere?

2. Turn her on with your talent: The best sex starts long before the clothes come off. Talent-more than rugged good looks or a chiseled midsection-is a powerful aphrodisiac, according to researches (less surprisingly, poor hygiene and a messy home are among women's biggest turnoffs.) Demonstrate your sense of humor, for instance.

3. Speak up when she's naked: Women who worry about the way they look down there are less likely to orgasm easily during oral sex, according to researches. And a recent study suggests that women who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual experience and are less sexually assertive.

Clearly, you have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks naked-and you do, right?-share the news.

4. Always be tender on top: During foreplay, gently brush the tops, bottoms, and sides of her breasts; these areas are actually more sensitive than an unaroused areola and nipple. Gradually move in toward her nipples, paying attention to how she responds. As things heat up, the nipples will become flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors will become primed for direct stimulation. You'll kickstart the bloodflow and lubrication down below, starting her slow buildup.

5. Learn her key strokes: One thing many women love during manual stimulation: a slow buildup. Here's how to do it: Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your ring and middle fingers along the length of her outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding pressure as the tension builds. Cup the area around her clitoris with your palm to add indirect stimulation-most women are too sensitive to receive direct contact early on. As she becomes aroused, brace your hand on her pubic mound, the fleshy area that covers her pubic bone, and tease the clitoris with the middles and tips of your fingers as you move your entire hand.

6. Change her angle: Explore various types of penetration to figure out what turns her on most. Your first stop: her G-spot, located about 1 to 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina. This spongy region swells during arousal. Try massaging the area slowly with your fingers. A lot of women find it mind blowing. Not her thing? Just move on.

7. Use moves that multitask: To maximize her pleasure, increase the amount of contact you'll have with her most sensitive parts. Here's one move that will drive her wild: Ask her to lie on her back, with her legs stretched out. Now climb on top. Curl your arms around her shoulders, supporting yourself with your elbows and moving your chest up by her chin. The goal is to bring the base of your penis in contact with her clitoris. Thrust slowly, focusing on up-and-down movement instead of in-and-out penetration. Another great trick: Move your pubic mound in a circle or up and down against her clitoris. You'll get a break from high-intensity stimulation, and she'll receive focused attention where it often matters most.

8. Learn to sense her orgasm: Ease into oral sex-don't just attack. First kiss her inner thighs and her inner and outer lips, then work your way inside using firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. Listen to her gasps and moans as you experiment with different techniques. And watch for signs she's close to climaxing, such as a subtle deepening in the color of her labia caused by increased bloodflow. Or rest a hand on her stomach and feel for the muscular contractions that immediately precede her orgasm.

9. Follow her lead: Once you reach your point of no return, you'll climax even if you're interrupted by a tuba-playing, thong-clad Charly Boy. But your lady could hit the "off" switch if you stop or change moves midway to orgasm.They it when you try new things, and it's important to vary your technique, but once you've found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line.

10. Let her finish first: Stalking the elusive tandem orgasm is an admirable goal, but many women respond better to a "ladies-first" strategy. If you rub the clitoris for a long time - during thrusting, for example - it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to manual or oral stimulation later. So satisfy her before intercourse. Bonus: A woman's orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it's often easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she's already had one. How does that sound for an encore?