Wednesday 30 January 2013

7 Reasons Why Sex Is Good For Your Health

As well as the emotional benefits of connecting with your partner, sex improves your overall health too


Good for the heart

Not only is sex a way to feel close and express your love it’s also good for your heart in a physical way. As you’re getting active (hopefully) sex gets your heart rate up, which helps it stay in good shape. Men who have sex twice a week or more have been found to cut their risk of a fatal heart attack by half.

Lose a few pounds

It’s exercise, albeit more fun than the average kind, so sex can help you drop a few pounds. Alright, it’s not as effective as the treadmill (which burns 400 calories in half an hour compared to sex’s 85) but as part of a healthy lifestyle it can really make a difference.

Stops you getting sick

Regular sex with your partner can help stave off colds and illnesses as it boosts your immune system. People who achieve the holy grail of two or more times a week have been found to have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which protects you against minor illness and flu. However, those who had sex more often than that had lower levels of the antibody so don’t go overboard.

Soothes pain

Hormones produced when you have sex are a powerful pain reliever and have been shown to sooth menstrual and arthritic pain, among other things. The chemical at work is oxytocin, which also lowers blood pressure and can be beneficial if you get migraines.

Reduces the risk of prostate cancer

Prostate cancer is the most common male cancer in the UK, but researchers have found that men in their 20s lower their risk of developing it by a third by ejaculating five or more times a week. The correlation isn’t clear for older men but there’s no harm in trying… 

Stress reliever

There’s a medical reason sex improves your mood – it causes your brain to produce feel good chemicals called endorphins that relieve stress.  It has also been shown to lower your blood pressure, which will help keep you calm in stressful situations.

Sends you to sleep

Afterwards of course! As sex floods your system with endorphins and oxytocin, it’s ideal to promote a relaxation and a deeper, more restful sleep.

Maybe tonight after all, dear?

7 Relationship Rules You Need To Break


7 relationship rules you need to break

Forgive and forget

Forgiveness is a great thing. It is something that every relationship needs if things are going to work. Yet forgiving your boyfriend or girlfriend when they repeatedly upset you or break your relationship rules is not a great thing; it is in fact disastrous.  
If your partner continuously breaks your rules then don’t forgive and don’t forget. Instead, you need to ditch them. If you don’t then your partner will continue to behave as they do and this will ruin your self-esteem and make you feel miserable and bitter.

Never say never

If you’ve been after that hot guy or gorgeous girl for months now and they still won’t go out with you, don’t listen to those people that tell you, ‘Never say never’. If something was going to happen between you and the girl or guy you like, then it would have happened by now.
Granted, after pursuing someone for months you might find that they finally agree to one date.  Yet really, is that what you want? Do you want to have to persuade someone to date you? A good, solid relationship comes from mutual attraction and you can’t force these things. If you could persuade someone to like you then we’d all be going out with the Ryan Goslings and BeyoncĂ©s of this world.  

Boys will be boys

The saying ‘Boys will be boys’ has meant that men around the world have been getting away with behaving badly for far too long. This seemingly innocent phrase gives people the impression that men have an innate, predetermined characteristic that makes them misbehave and that they don’t do so by choice.
If you are going to break just one of these relationship rules, let it be this one.

Sleep on it

Of all the terrible ideas in the world, this must be one of the worst. After having a blazing row with your boyfriend or girlfriend you should never, ever try to sleep on it. In fact that must be one of the worst things you can do. By sleeping on it you give the bad mood that has been brewing between you the chance to continue and grow. You will also end up having a terrible night’s sleep, which won’t help you tackle the issues you need to solve with a clear mind.
Although you may not be able to resolve every fight before you go to bed, make the effort to at least be on speaking terms with your partner. This way, you give your anger a time limit, meaning that those bad feelings can’t seep into the next day. Thus, you’ll both wake up feeling close enough to face whatever issues you have.

Never mix business with pleasure

When you’re at school you are constantly meeting people, yet as you get older opportunities for meeting ‘The One’ grow slimmer and slimmer. Therefore, why limit your pool of potential dates by vowing to never mix business with pleasure? Although work relationships can be awkward, if handled well they actually have lots of benefits.
According to a recent survey 19 per cent of 28 to 39 year olds meet their spouse at work and 15 per cent of 18 to 27 year olds meet the love of their life in the workplace. Although we don’t advise hitting on your boss or getting it on in the stationery cupboard, mixing business with pleasure can be  great if you’re cautious and sensible. Remember to check what your work’s policy is on employees dating each other before you announce your affair at the work’s annual meeting though.

If it’s not broken, don’t fix it

Many people think that once you’ve found someone who you love and who loves you back, then the hard work is over. Yet, committing to a long-term relationship is when the hard work really begins. A good relationship requires lots of dedication and effort to keep it strong and enjoyable.
Therefore, to make your relationship work, don’t stick to the rule that if it’s not broken, don’t fix it. In fact do the very opposite. Be aware of ways you can improve your relationship and be open to new things you can both try to keep your relationship fresh, fun and strong.

There are plenty of fish in the sea

Although there is not just one person out there for you, constantly telling yourself that there are plenty of fish in the sea may make you blasĂ© about your relationship and it may mean that you won’t try to make your relationship work. Relationships aren’t easy. They require a lot of work. Therefore, if you think that there are plenty of other fish in the sea you may bail on your partner when you come to the first hurdle, thinking there are better ones out there.
Instead, understand that although there may be other people out there for you, whoever you end up with the relationship will require effort, work and sacrifice. Read more on realbuzz.com...

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Tuesday 29 January 2013

Allowing Gay Marriage Is Like Legalizing Male Breastfeeding Says Catholic Arc-bishop

San Francisco, U.S. - Introducing equal marriage is like legalising "male breastfeeding", according to the Catholic Archbishop of San Francisco Salvatore Cordileone.

In an interview with the Catholic Herald, Archbishop Cordileone said: "Truth is clear. Wanting children to be connected to a mother and father discriminates against no one. Every child has a father and a mother, and either you support the only institution that connects a child with their father and mother or you don't.
"Adoption, by a mother and father, mirrors the natural union of a mother and father and provides a balanced, happy alternative for when a child may not be reared by their biological parents."
In referencing the supporters of equal marriage, Archbishop Cordileone said: "If you use theology, you will play into their hands and they will say you use religion to control people. Marriage isn't primarily in theology; marriage is in nature. Theology builds on the natural institution, giving us a deeper mystical and supernatural sense of its meaning."
Archbishop Cordileone then cautions against using the term "gay marriage", advising that it should be used "only sparingly" because - as the author of the article Mary O'Regan states - "it is a natural impossibility". Archbishop Cordileone is then quoted as saying: "Legislating for the right for people of the same sex to marry is like legalising male breastfeeding."

Wife Tried To Kill Husband By Poisoning Her Own Private Parts

A woman is accused of trying to kill her husband by putting poison inside her private parts - then asking him to perform a sex act on her.
The shocked 43-year-old hubby is now suing her for the alleged attempted assassination.
The woman, from Sao Jose do Rio Preto in Brazil, planted a toxic substance in her genitals then lured her husband to bed, local reports say.
But when she asked him to give her oral sex, he is said to have fled after noticing a strange smell.
The suspicious husband then took his wife, who has not been named, to hospital where doctors carried out tests and found she had ingested a poisonous substance.

10 Interesting Things Women Must Know About Men

Note: There are two types of males: Dishonorable males and honorable men. Don't date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two.

1. Honorable men are protectors and will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and support you for your spiritual, mental and physical well-being.
2. Dishonorable males treat sex as a sport and for fun, females as trophies. Never allow yourself to become their next score or sperm bin.
3. Don't judge ALL men by one man's actions, unless you want ALL men to judge you based on the acts of amoral women.
4. Guys love their moms ,so don't speak anything about their mom's that might provoke them.
5. If a guy seriously loves a girl he would make everything possible for her because she means the world to him.
6. Beware!!! Guys can spread a gossip like fire, faster then a girl will spread.
7. If a guy likes a girl ,he will always tend to tease her or find a way to talk to her.
8. To understand a guy you need to listen to him first.
9. Guys prefer girls who have beauty with brains rather then beauty with miniskirts.
10. (I sincerely doubt this)If you tell a guy a secret , stop telling because they do not have a tendancy to keep them like girls.

Omega Fire Ministries Worldwide 2013 PROPHECIES

Founder and senior pastor of Omega Fire Ministries Worldwide, Apostle Johnson Suleiman has revealed 2013 prophecies and he claims they are not prophecies given out of personal interest or animosity but are direct from the Holy spirit.



If prayers are made negative prophecies can be averted.

1. House of Representative to lose some members to death, prayers needed.

2. Alhaji Bamanga Tukur will be the last united PDP Chairman, as there will be great in-fighting in PDP.

3. There will be major boom and breakthrough in the agriculture this year.

4. CNN will lose major staff.

5. Nollywood will keep losing people unless prayers are made and repentance; Many have gone fetish and there is high rate of immorality. I see three major stars dying this year unless prayers are made.

6. Many barren women will become joyful mothers.

7. Emir of Kano Alhaji (Dr) Ado Bayero to pray against attempt on his life. He will lose some men.

8. Rapist will be on the prowl. Raping women little children and even pregnant women. watch where your kids go..

9. A sect deadlier than Boko -Haram is being trained and prepared.

10. South Africa to mourn a hero. They should pray for former South African president Dr Nelson Mandela and Arc-Bishop Desmond Tutu.

11. I see a Governor dying.

12. This year, the looting of National treasury will be on a massive scale.

13. President Goodluck Jonathan's own men from his place will fight him.

14. Igbos should forget about presidency.

15. In 2015, an opposition will lose, PDP will fail.

16. I see the crisis in PDP widening more and more.

17. A yoruba movie actor to die surprisingly.

18. A year judgment for politicians and wicked leaders.

19. There will be scarcity of money in 2013, but food will be in abundance.

20. Chief of Defence Staff to be retired.

21. There is vacancy in Aso Rock.

22. Prayers to be made because I see the National flag flying half mask.

23. I see NUJ lose notable member through accident.

24. President Goodluck will lose someone precious to him either this year or next.

25. Auchi my hometown to pray against serious flood disaster.

26. A member of the United State of America's senate house will die.

27. President Barrack Obama's life will be attempted.

28. Alhaji Aliko Dangote will have issues.

29. Central Bank of Nigeria's governor will be made an Emir, but he needs prayers.

30. MTN needs prayers.

31. Massive retrenchment in Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN), but prayers needed to avert it.

32. I see something happening in a foreign country ( natural disaster) and people could not fly in or out of that nation for days.

33. Nigerian Music entertainer Tuface Idibia will face blackmail and scandal.

34. Hon. Aminu Tambuwal (Speaker) should not contest for presidency. If he goes for governorship, he will win.

35. Dame patience Jonathan will have health issues unless prayers are made.

36. Kidnapping will start in South Africa.

37. HID Awolowo, it is well.

38. The governor of Ondo to pray against poison.

39. President Robert Mugabe, I see death around him, he needs prayers.

40. Abuja the Federal Capital City will experience high scale attacks this year.

41. I see Traditional Rulers die.

42. Omega Fire Ministries (OFM) will witness worldwide recognition that will shock everyone.

43. Lots of Nigerians will be repatriated from African nations.

44. Oil will be found in a state

45. I see a new president.

The Secret To A Long-Lasting Romantic Relationship Is Friendship Not Sex!

A strong friendship is the secret to a long-lasting romantic relationship, new research suggests.



Researchers found that valuing your friendship with your partner helps create relationships with more commitment, more love and greater sexual satisfaction.

People who put more emphasis on trying to satisfy their personal needs or desires through their relationship are less likely to sustain the bond in the longer term.

'Romantic relationships are, at their core, friendships,' said the study's lead author Laura VanderDrift, of Purdue University in Indiana.
'As such, it may be the case that valuing that aspect of the relationship fortifies the romantic relationship ... and serves as a buffer against breaking up.

'The results indicate that valuing the friendship aspect of a romantic relationship is important to relationship quality.

'It seems likely that placing greater importance on the friendship component of the relationship relative to other components (e.g. sex) may promote lasting relationships.'

The psychologists wrote that relationship failures can lead to negative emotions, feelings of insecurity and reduced physical health.

But they added that friendship is a 'defining characteristic of love' and suggested that understanding the causes of break ups could help couples avoid that fate.

The team, who report their findings in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, conducted two experiments.

The first involved 190 students who had been in a relationship for an average of 18 months at the start of the study.

They filled out questionnaires designed to assess the amount of investment they put into their relationship generally, different aspects of their relationship and their future hopes.

Four months later they were contacted again, by which time a quarter (27 per cent) were no longer with the same partner, and asked further questions about their relationship.

People who had scored highly for investing in the friendship aspect of their relationship were also more likely to score highly on romantic commitment, love and sexual satisfaction. They also tended to see increases in these elements over the four months of the study.

Crucially, those who put the most effort into building a strong friendship with their partner were less likely to have broken up.

The second experiment involved 184 students, who had been in relationships for 16 months on average.

They were asked to rate the value they attach to aspects of a relationship such as companionship, security, sex, self-improvement and experiencing new things on a scale of one (not at all important) to nine (extremely important).

People who rated the need for companionship and affiliation highly also tended to score higher for romantic commitment and sexual fulfilment.

Those who rated personal needs as more important did not score as highly on commitment or sexual fulfilment.

The authors said that further research could look at the specific kinds of behaviour that influence the link between strong friendships and lasting relationships.

How to Know if You Are an Abusive Spouse (By Sheri & Bob Stritof)

You may think that the way you treat or talk to your spouse is normal, when in reality it is abusive.
Here are questions to ask yourself to determine if you are abusive towards your spouse and children.


Here's How:

Is your spouse afraid of you?
Have you ever threatened to kill your spouse?
Do you believe that your way is the only way?
Have you ever hit, slapped, pushed, pulled hair, or choked your spouse?
Are you the jealous type?
Do you believe you have the right to know what your spouse is doing and where your spouse is all the time?
Do you think of yourself as in charge?
Do you enjoy seeing your spouse in pain, crying or hurt?
Do you believe your spouse deserves to be hit or yelled at or punished?
Do you believe your spouse 'asked for it'?
Do you break or destroy your spouse's belongings on purpose?
Have you ever been arrested for violent behavior?
Do you think you have an anger problem?
Are you afraid of asking for help because you might lose everything that is important to you?
Has your spouse ever tried to leave you?

Tips:

If you answered yes to several of these questions, please see a counselor.
Saying 'I'm sorry' isn't enough. It is important that you take responsibility for your abusive behavior.
Don't expect your spouse to forgive and forget quickly. It takes time to rebuild trust once it has been broken.
What You Need

Honest Self Appraisal
Willingness to Seek Help
Ability to Let Go of Controlling Your Spouse
Understanding of Why You Are Abusive

How To Divorce An Abusive Husband!


The mental part of abuse is insidious. If your husband is abusive, you don't have to have his permission to get divorced. What you have to do is learn to separate his put-downs and control from reality, be very careful of your own physical and mental safety, and be prepared to give up some security.

1. Tell your husband that you have the right to your own choices.

2. Think about where you want to go and what you want to do. Have a plan. It's not wrong to have dreams and believe you're worth having a good life. Break it down into manageable steps: the short term (getting away safely) and the longer term (getting a decent job, whatever...).

3. Find a shelter or women's center with people who can counsel you discreetly. Some places will help you even if you have children, but most will at least be conduits to other agencies who can help. They may be able to put you onto Legal Aid sources who can get you a lawyer. They will know about job training programs if you need one. They may be able to help with childcare or a transitional residence where you'll be away and safe.

4. Prepare without telling your husband or anyone who might tell him. Be smart enough to not even give him subtle clues. Don't circle the shelter's phone number and leave it by the phone! If you look up a place online, be sure to delete it from your History file before you log off.

5. Get counseling. The shelter/­women's centers will have leads on that too. When you're abused, your self-esteem is so wrecked that your reasoning is flawed. You need to listen to someone who knows about such things and be prepared to take their advice. Sure, even those people make mistakes sometimes, but you must learn to put your own welfare #1 on the list and that means letting go of what the abuser has "sold" you to keep you under his thumb. Don't let him take over your life.

6. Remember that this is YOUR life that is at stake. If he's physically abusive, it's well established that the levels of violence will escalate. Sure, he promises it will never happen again, and you have a nice time for a bit, but the cycles ALWAYS repeat themselves. After a beating you might end up permanently scarred or brain-damaged or maimed or even dead. What use will his promises be then? If you are unsure if you will be safe when you leave you can request a protective order from the court. This is an order that states that your spouse cannot be within a certain distance from you and potentially your children. You should contact the local police department or county attorney's office to find out how to apply. You will need proof of violence, though your sworn statement of past events will generally work. But just like his promise, a protective order may not protect you. While you can call the police if he violates the order and they will help you, if he decides to violate the order it might be too late. Promises and paper should never substitute for common sense.

Rwanda: Top 10 Most Dangerous African Countries On List

Global Peace Index has recently released a report on global ranking of countries according to their dangerousness, a dozen African countries are among the most affected by war, terrorism and political instability; but Rwanda is not on the list and is positioned among safe ones.
Since 2007, the Global Peace Index, conducted by the Research Institute of Economics & Peace, class 153 countries of the safest most dangerous. Countries affected by civil wars for years, or face regular violence, are part of the top 10 African countries most dangerous.
The ranking evaluates, among other things, the risk of renewed fighting, the resurgence of political instability and terrorist threats. Among the top ten ranked to be dangerous Ethiopia is ranked the Ten (10) on the list.
More than ten years after the war that opposed to Eritrea, Ethiopia still maintains a tense relationship with the country and conflict: the Ethiopian government has not fully withdrawn its troops from Badme area, the north, and attributed to Eritrea, although the International Court of Justice has precisely defined the borders of both countries.
Ethiopia is also home to separatist movements: the Oromo Liberation Front, which affects the most populated region of Ethiopia to the southwest and the birthplace of important natural resources, the National Liberation Front in the Ogaden, based east on the border with Somalia, has an armed wing, Said the global peace ranking.
9 - Burundi: political instability
Burundi has experienced a civil war for fifteen years because of opposition Tutsi and Hutu rebels. Following a cease-fire, the Hutu rebels of the National Front for the Liberation became a political party. The 2010 elections were fire-proof: the boycott of presidential elections by the opposition and the return of violence show that the country is still far from stability.
8 - Zimbabwe: Renewed violence
Zimbabwe has experienced a wave of violence after the disputed presidential election in 2008: Robert Mugabe and Morgan Tsvangirai, his main rival, both claimed victory in the first round of elections. The situation has eased in 2009 with the establishment of a system with two-headed as president, Robert Mugabe and Morgan Tsvangirai as Prime Minister.
In 2010, attempts by the Prime Minister to develop the Constitution have been sabotaged by the camp of Robert Mugabe. Public meetings were banned, arbitrary arrests, looting and ransacking, have pushed the country into violence.
7 - Chad: peaceful relations with neighboring countries
Chad has significantly improved its position by improving relations with neighboring countries. Several agreements signed between 2009 and 2010 led to pacify the country. The political situation has also stabilized.
6 - Nigeria: religious war and economic war
The instability still reigns in the center and south of the country where the reelection of Good luck Jonathan has not changed. Nigeria, the most populous country in Africa with 155 million inhabitants, is marked by a religious conflict at the center, near Jos, where the killings of Muslims and Christians have killed nearly 20,000 people during the last decade.
But religion is not the only reason for conflict and economic needs have led to the southward migration of landless farmers Christians.
Other economic battle in the Niger Delta in the south: the Nigerian government is facing a terrorist group, the Movement for the Emancipation of Niger Delta (MEND), which attacks the facilities and personnel of oil companies. Kidnappings of expatriates and attacks on oil pipelines are their predilections, negating attempts Armistice incurred by the State.
5 - Libya: civil war
Following the Arab Spring came in February 2011; Libya has entered into a civil war. The protests led to the downfall of the authority of Muammar Gaddafi in the east. Since then, international intervention under the authority of NATO has still not managed to restore calm in the country.
4 - Central African Republic: an eventful year
New entry in the standings: the Central African Republic. The presidential elections have created an environment of tension and unrest within the country. The presence of rebel groups in the border area with Sudan and Chad is also problematic.
Despite the signing of a peace agreement in 2008, some groups have not signed the agreement, are still active. In south-east, the troops of the Lord's Resistance Army (LRA) led by Joseph Kony, continue unabated.
This group is part of the most violent in the world, has expanded internationally and is present in the DRC and southern Sudan, where he is engaged in looting and
Abductions of civilians.
3 - Democratic Republic of Congo: Terrorist threats increasingly present
The problems of the Democratic Republic of the Congo residing in these activities at the border of its territory and the presence of several armed groups and terrorists in the east. It is mainly in Kivu, in the Great Lakes region, the situation is more difficult. The origin of the conflict: the massive influx of refugees after the Rwandan genocide. An improvement is noted, however, about the tensions between the forces of the national army (FARDC) and the Democratic Forces for the Liberation of Rwanda (FDLR) on the dominance of territory and resources.
The attempt to integrate SPDC to the regular army and the cease-fire of 2008 is ineffective because regularly violated.
To the east, the Allied Democratic Forces-National Army for the Liberation of Uganda (ADF-NALU), Ugandan rebel movement, is in conflict with the Congolese government. This group is related to the Shabab Somali fundamentalist Islamic group linked to al-Qaida.
2 - Sudan: a multitude of conflicts
The situation in Sudan has worsened from 2010. The country suffers from two years of internal conflict have serious consequences both human and political. To the west, the conflict in Darfur has killed 300,000 people, including those due to famine and disease, and 2.7 million displaced since 2003. Peace, signed in 2006 between the government and the rebel Justice and Equality Movement (JEM), one of the strongest rebel groups, is fragile because all factions did not sign. The UN presence is still needed.
In the South, thanks to self-determination referendum in 2011, the conflict in Southern Sudan is in the process of healing. However, the situation in Abyei, remains uncertain.
1 - Somalia: a generalized civil war for over twenty years
Since 1991, Somalia is facing a civil war difficult, the conflict between the Transitional Federal Government, supported by the UN, and several groups of Islamist rebels, some of which are close to al-Qaida.
Unrecognized within the territory of Somalia, the government of Sheikh Sharif Sheikh Ahmed cannot impose his reforms across the country. The only piece of territory it controls is part of the capital Mogadishu, the scene of regular fighting between both sides to maintain control.
Over 1.9 million people or over 20percent of Somalis under the Office of the United Nations for Refugees (UNHCR) have fled the country controlled by fear. Stabilizing the country still seems impossible.
Among all the sub-Saharan African countries which experienced wars in the past 10 years Rwanda have not been ranked among the ten most dangerous countries.

Monday 28 January 2013

Up Coming Musician Kicked Out Of Home 3 Weeks After Marriage For Beating Wife In Public

An upcoming musician, Gbemi Adetuberu, married to Ibadan society lady and interior decorator, Laide, has been booted out of the latter’s apartment allegedly for physical assaults barely three weeks after their society wedding on November 8, 2012, at one of the Akure branches of RCCG. Mrs Olaide Adetuberu reportedly sent her husband, Mr. Gbemi Adetuberu, out of her apartment for allegedlly making the heat in the kitchen unbearable for her with his endless beatings.

It was alleged that Gbemi was seen 20 days after the N4m wedding, beating the living daylight out of his wife in Lagos during an event that had foreign guests in attendance. The interior decorator was said to have kept mum over the battery allegation but eventually did opened the Pandora box after getting the nod of her lawyer. The lady confirmed that she had been through hell in the hands of her husband.


She described her husband, Gbemi, as a violent husband whom she had hoped would change in marriage. Hear her: “He used to beat me even before we got married, but I believed he would change once we got married. I was wrong.”

Claiming that she had invested millions of naira in her husband’s musical career since they started dating a year and a few months ago, Laide said Gbemi was not appreciative enough “to show some seriousness in his career” to justify her investment in his life. “He had always been interested in music, a passion that I passionately invested money in just to please him even though my parents wanted him to be a prophet. Because I wanted to support him, I paid almost N200,000 for him to participate at the NIMEX exhibition held at the Muson Centre, apart from other amounts spent on him”, she added.


At the exhibition on November 28, both had agreed that Laide would stay in the car outside the venue of the exhibition to get some rest as she had been exhausted by preparations for the event, and that Gbemi should join her in the car once he was done auditioning at the event. Gbemi was said to have been through in less than 30 minutes after he was called on stage, but didn’t go to join his wife in the car as both had agreed. Worried, she looked for Gbemi and found him chatting with an usher.

Not wanting to cause a scene however, she walked up to her husband, asked the usher to excuse her as she wanted to talk to her husband, and both strolled into the venue of the exhibition.

They talked briefly but Laide said she could sense from her husband’s countenance that he was getting worked up. Laide ignored Gbemi, who had shouted at her that they should leave the event and go home. “He didn’t care whether we were at a public place, he continued to raise his voice at me”, she said.

Laide said she was ashamed as Gbemi continued to shout at her that she should leave Muson Centre start going home. She refused to do as she was instructed by her husband and his next action was to slap her. “I was stunned.

He just kept beating me right there in public and astonished guests couldn’t do anything. It took the intervention of security officials before I could be rescued  from him. He beat me blue black. I never expected he would beat me like that in public. I had expected that he would wait till we got home, he didn’t. He has come to beg me, but I am afraid of losing my life because that is how he has been beating me from time.

Even my friends warned me not to marry him because each time he came to beg me after beating me, I always forgave him. But I’m now afraid for my life”. She said that her in-laws were aware of the ugly development, but that each time she reported Gbemi, his parents always waded in and Gbemi would always promise not to beat her  again.

She also said she reported these beatings to some of her friends. “After the Lagos beating, I decided to send him out of my apartment because the suffering was getting too much for me. I reported to the police at Iyaganku in Ibadan, because he has started threatening me via e-mails since he can’t come to my house. I have refused to take him back but I’m still afraid he may break into my house one day to injure me.”

However,the musician, Gbemi is yet to say his own side of the story.

Culled from Tribune

Result Of Indecent Dressing!!!

Her breast are not the only victim here. This girl is a disgrace to herself. When you tell them to dress appropriately they will say this is what's in vogue, now see the embarrassment – her photo is now trending on social network sites. (See The Photo Below)


Ladies please dress properly

Sunday 27 January 2013

Prophet Battered Son for Attending Another Church

A cleric, Prophet Elikanah Ajibade, who was charged to court on Tuesday and was remanded in prison, was accused to have physically abused his son because he attended a church service against his instruction.

According to the details obtained by Crime Reports, the boy who is now in the care of  JWC staff, reportedly left home for the new year eve service on Monday, December 31, 2012, in a church which was not his father’s, though against the will of his father.


The father, a Cherubim and Seraphim prophet at Okinni, a town  in Egbedore Local Government area of Osun State, had earlier told his son who is his late wife’s third son not to go to any other church for the service to usher in a new year.

It was gathered that Prophet Ajibade, in annoyance, went to the church, interrupted the service and brought  David out, lashing him with strokes of cane. Efforts by members of the church, Salvation Army Church, Okinni, to rescue the hapless boy proved abortive as the father reportedly shunned their pleas.

The boy, who told the police that the father started maltreating him since the demise of his biological mother, recounted that the father in company of his stepmother and stepbrother beat him mercilessly. “When we got home, my dad, his wife and her son descended on me. They tied my hands with a rope and started beating me mercilessly”.

With tears cascading down his cheeks, David Ajibade said, “after beating me, my stepmother locked my me and my father inside and took the key away. Then my dad continued to beat me and when he was tired, he ordered that I should be rolling on hot ashes”.


While giving his account on the matter, Prophet Ajibade said the boy had been running away from home for years. He said, “he used to run away for weeks and would come back himself.On his last deed which got me angry, he ran away for one week”.

The father, whom Crime Reports learnt had never reported to the police anytime his son was missing, stated that he decided to punish the boy because of the tension and anxiety he went through and the problems he encountered while looking for the boy. He denied asking the boy to roll on hot ashes.

Confirming the arraignment in court, the Police Public Relations Officer in Osun State, Mrs Folasade Odoro, told Crime Reports that the operatives of JWC were administering proper care and medical treatment on the boy in their custody.


Source: tribune

WHAT SEX CAN DO! Joke! Joke!! Joke!!!



1. It makes u religious: oh god, yes oh my god, jessussss.
2. It gives u ur 1st singing lesson: mmmmm, owwwww, awwhh.
3. It makes u a natural competitor: fast, faster, faster faster.
4. U announce ur own obituary: yeee ah! Ur killing me, am dying, oh am finished, gosh! Am dead
5. Some babes suddenly turn terrorist: scatter it, destroy it, dnt v mercy juz tear it.
6. It makes u respectful: gve it 2 me pls, pls am begging pls pls
7. It brings out d loyalty in u: i luv u, u r d owner, no1 else, u r d best.
8. It turns some into beggers: yea pls dnt stop, dont stop juz continue pls.
9. U go come dey answer d call of ur ancestors wey no1 else go hear
except u: yes im coming, am cooooomming, am cooooooooooming­=))

7 Steps To Sexual Satisfaction




 You probably already know that one of the key aspects of any healthy relationship, and even just general happiness, is a fulfilling sex life.



But, with work, children, and all the daily obligations that demand so much of our attention, that's easier said than done, right?

Though there will always be challenges, the below seven steps will help you bring sexy back into your life (and keep it there):

1. Stay healthy, fit and vibrant. It not only makes us outwardly attractive and alluring to others, but helps us feel sexy, desirable and confidant as well. That confidence creates sexual energy, a seductive charisma guaranteed to awaken and maintain a partner's sexual interest.

Naturally, the most obvious way to stay healthy and fit is to take care of yourself, use alcohol moderately, control your blood pressure and weight, eat a well-balanced diet, get regular exercise and adequate rest. And remember, regular check-up visits to your physician must be an essential part of your sexual fitness program.

Also, couples who work to stay healthy together enjoy the added benefit of building emotional closeness (a must for the bedroom) while sharing a sport or fitness activity. Taking brisk walks together, for instance, gives couples an opportunity to talk, to share ideas and feelings, and to relax their nervous systems while enjoying a healthy workout.

2. Think young, fun and yes, sexy. When you watch someone who is enthusiastic, youthful, jovial and having a good time, do you even notice how old that person is? Probably not. Most likely you just want to get to know that person and be part of the high spirits. And when you keep your attitude and behavior youthful and playful, you'll be the person others are attracted to and want to know.

Regardless of age, an adult's personal approach to sex is supposed to be similarly positive, titillating, erotic and creative. Whether you're 25 or 50, feel and be sexual without guilt! Loosen up and be inventive! Go ahead and have let yourself have fun!

3. Plan on having good sex. Good sex also requires good timing. Are you a morning person? A night owl? What about your partner? The best time to make love is when you and your partner are the most responsive (as men mature, that time is usually in the morning, but many women enjoy sex more in the evening). So, good sex also requires some planning.

As often as possible, clear everybody out of the house so you and your partner can be as uninhibited as you want to be. Get rid of the kids for a while, send the grandkids home to their parents (for a change!). Once alone, take time to enjoy yourselves. Turn off the TV. Turn down the lights (or turn them all on). Why not light candles? Add music. Share the tub or shower. Play an erotic and seductive game. Watch a romantic or sexy video. Give each other relaxing, sensual massages. Have you ever used whipped cream in the bedroom? Or peanut butter? You can't imagine the fun you can have with ice cubes! Take off all your clothes. Or put on costumes! Make love in the kitchen. Or on a blanket in the backyard under your favorite tree at midnight. Then do it again at high noon! Let your imagination and your sense of sexual adventure lead you and your partner into a glorious world of new sensations, and favorite joys. When you run out of ideas, there are plenty of books and videos on the market to help you discover new ones. Sex will never be boring again. And neither will your life. All it takes is a little creativity, time and planning. So start!

4. The cardinal rule: Just do it. And do it. And do it! Masters and Johnson, those famous sex researchers, claimed that continuing to have sex was the "cardinal rule for preserving sexual vigor beyond middle age." Post-menopausal women who are sexually active have less shrinkage of the vagina and higher levels of naturally produced sex hormones than sexually inactive women. Men who are sexually active as they pass through middle age and beyond maintain higher blood testosterone levels than those who stop having sex. The bottom line? If you keep on doing it, you'll continue to be able to keep on doing it! In other words, use it or lose it! It's really that simple.

5. Send sex messages in as many ways as you can. The key to the best relationship (sexual and otherwise) is honest communication. If you don't talk about your sex life and feelings with each other, then how can you get your message across and let your desires be known? Sex therapists encourage open, caring communication, as well as an affectionate relationship, as some of the most important keys to enhancing sexual happiness. Achieving a closer, more loving relationship with your partner is a crucial component of your sexual fitness program, as it's difficult for sexual harmony to co-exist with marital distance and conflict, submerged resentment, basic incompatibility or lack of positive feelings toward one another.

Any barriers to communication must be addressed because they increasingly inhibit sexual feelings as we grow older. If poor communication is a problem in a relationship, a couple should seek the help of a therapist to develop deeper levels of intimacy, love and understanding, and greater shared physical enjoyment. The reward can be a richer, fuller, more exciting life.

Remember, too, that we also send sexy messages in very simple, ordinary, even nonverbal, ways, including being relaxed and interested in each other; not drinking too much alcohol; paying special attention to body and oral hygiene; and learning new ways to touch and please one another.

6. Expect it to be different, but expect it to be good. There's no question: our bodies, and our bodily responses, change as we age. But those changes shouldn't concern or worry us. We just need to be aware of them and understand that these changes are normal and don't mean the end of a satisfying sex life.

As a woman ages, her clitoris is not affected and her capacity for orgasm and sexual interest normally remains unchanged. But increased thinning of the vaginal walls can contribute to painful or uncomfortable intercourse, as can an inability to adequately lubricate; but, many of these conditions can be reversed with advice from her physician.

For men over 50, erections will usually be sturdy and reliable, although they might take a little longer to achieve and won't be as hard as those of a man in his twenties. The forcefulness of ejaculation and orgasm may be slightly less than in the past, and more time may be required between repeat performances. The older man, in particular, might require more direct stimulation of his genitals to be ready for sex (unlike during his younger days, when his reaction and response was spontaneous, immediate, and frequent).

Understanding, accepting and working with these minor and normal bodily changes can definitely help a couple create and enjoy a satisfying sex life. There are now many resources available to help couples with this process.

7. Get help for specific sex problems. The most common sex problems that exist today are, in fact, treatable. In women, these include the inability to orgasm, painful intercourse and low sex desire. In men, these include erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and low sex desire!!

245 People Dead, 200 Injured In Brazilian Night Club

A fire swept through a crowded nightclub in southern Brazil early today Sunday January 27th, killing at least 245 people (and still counting) and leaving hundreds injured, police and firefighters told local media.

Fire broke out at popular night club, Kiss Club, in the city of Santa Maria, while a band was performing. There were over a 1000 people at the club when fire started at around 2 a.m. A stampede ensued immediately as party goers pushed and shoved each other to escape.

The cause of the fire is not yet known, officials said. A police spokesman told a radio station that a truck carrying 70 bodies arrived at the Municipal Sports Center, which they used as an improvised morgue.

"Sad Sunday", the governor of the southern state of Rio Grande do Sul tweeted. He said all possible action was being taken and that he would be in the city later in the day.

Friday 25 January 2013

How To Make Your Partner Love You More

Love, they say is endless. So says the Holy Bible, too, but it happens so often in our lives that this same love could fade. To think that love can kill is also another debate. That is why we need basic tips to spice up our love relationships.

The following are 10 tips to make your partner love you more.
1. Change communication pattern: Some partners always quarrel about really small issues, but it happens so because of the way issues are confronted. For instance,asking to go out with a partner may not be said properly and a fuss is made out of it. A good communication pattern will go like "Darling, can we go out today? I feel like outing." While a bad one will go like "Take me out today, I feel like outing."
2. Smell fresh always: Strong scent from the mouth, from various areas of your body may affect the love of a partner. These issues put people off, they don't want to be close to their partners. The old paste could be changed, the roll-on could also be change for a good scented ones.
If in any case a partner thinks,"Oh, If you love me, you should learn to appreciate however I am, if you don't, then it means you don't love me," their partner usually leaves. Some behavioral patterns also have to change. If you used to bath or brush the teeth once a day, try twice a day.
3. Learn to apologize when necessary: saying "sorry" heals wounds. "Sorry" can make a furious person calm down. It won't cost a thing to say, "I'm sorry, it wasn't intentional", or "I didn't mean to offend you, I am sorry", when one does something wrong.
4. Be fashionable: A change in one's wardrobe matters. If your old clothes are still what you wear, it might push your partner aside. Whatever happened to fashion? There are a lot of new styles, grab the chance and save your relationship. Fashion, on the other hand, does not mean dressing "wild" or being "nude", but following the right trend of fashion might help, maybe the one that your partner likes. When one fails to appear nice before a partner, he/she will find someone else attractive and that is not healthy for a relationship.
5. Be humble: Humility does not mean total submission. You don't have to succumb totally because one partner is the breadwinner or abusive. Grant respect the best way you can and also say "please" when you have to, so that a lasting relationship could be built.
6. Be serviceable: Being serviceable in all areas matters most in every relationship. Running errands for your partner is such a romantic feeling. It shouldn't be a bother at all.
7. Avoid too many friends: As the saying goes, "Bad friends corrupt good manners". Too many friend means that there may be bad nuts among them. Be careful of the friends you make and bring home, they can cause you heartbreak. It is said that if a friend comes to pick your partner out and stay late in the night before coming home, then watch out for that friend. The same friends may also give you both good and bad advice. Choose the few good ones but wisely.
8. Give gifts: Learn to shower gifts on your partner to make him/her feel that you care. Little gifts are very important and it could be given not just on birthdays, christmas and anniversaries but any given time. Do this just to surprise your partner.
9. Show gratitude: Learn to appreciate and recognize the value or significance of something your partner does for you. It is often said that the greatest attitude one can acquire is that of gratitude. If you don't appreciate what someone does, you can't be grateful for it too. Showing gratitude relieves your partner from guessing whether you like a gift or not.
10. Use pet names: Special names like "darling", "sweetheart", "honey", "sugar", "dear", etc. help spice up relationships. They bring about fondness, build intimacy and help remind you of who your partner is to you. Even if one party is angry at the other, mentioning the name alone brings the feeling of "Oh my gosh, he just called me honey!"

Wednesday 23 January 2013

Charges Against Flower Eating Goat Dropped!

Gary and his owner, Jim
According to Metro UK, a flower-eating goat named Gary has been cleared of vandalism after an Australian judge dismissed the case at a court in Sydney.

His owner Jim Dezarnaulds had been ordered to pay a 440 Australian dollar (£290) fine after Gary was spotted snacking on a flower bed outside the city’s Museum of Contemporary Art.

The case was dismissed however, after a judge ruled that neither Gary nor his owner could be held accountable for the crime. Lol. Read more after the cut...



Magistrate Carolyn Barkell said there was no evidence that Gary, who had his own lawyer, had been brought there to intentionally eat the flowers.

‘This is actually an abuse of the laws of nature, I mean it was a goat eating grass,’ Mr Dezarnaulds said after the verdict was announced.
‘I’m a comedian, I can come up with jokes, but it’s pretty hard to compete with cops coming up with this stuff. ‘It’s obviously a joke, but the fact that we’re here it’s gone a bit beyond a joke.’

Gary, who was not required to give evidence, did not comment on the verdict upon leaving court. (lol).

Mr Dezarnaulds added: ‘Gary taught the cops a valuable lesson and that’s don’t bite off more than you can chew.’
Gary became an internet star after news of his plight went viral, with his official Facebook page racking up over 10,000 likes.

Man Killed His 26yrs Old Ex-girl Friend For Dumping Him




The Aleato family has been thrown into sorrow following the murder of their 26-year-old daughter, Onyinyechukwu, last Saturday by her ex-boyfriend in Lagos.
The deceased, a sales girl at Alaba International market, Ojo, was reportedly trailed by her ex-boyfriend, Osita Amanunwa from her Iba new site abode, to Ajangbadi area of Lagos, where she had gone to visit a friend.
Crime Alert gathered that the late Onyin, as she was fondly called, sat outside her host’s compound, exchanging banters, without the slightest inkling that death lurked at the corner.
Eye witnesses said she turned and suddenly, the smile on her face disappeared. And  when her  host turned to the direction of her gaze, they discovered  that her ex stood  opposite them.
Her host  who spoke on condition of anonymity, told crime Alert that: “ she greeted him but he hissed and walked away. He later came back and beckoned on her to come. She excused herself and left…”.

Singular response

He paused at this juncture,quivering with fear. That singular response happened to be Onyin’s greatest undoing because unknown to her,  Osita had a sinister motive up his sleeves.
This was confirmed moments later, following a desperate  shout for help from the isolated meeting point at number 4/5 Abike Ogunlana close, at about 9pm.  At first, no one suspected it could be Onyin.
  
But after waiting for a while, her host decided to check on her, only to see Onyin in the pool of her own blood with a knife still thrust in her neck. From all indication, it was obvious that she tried to put up a struggle  in order to free herself from the assailant’s grip.

She was also discovered to have managed to crawl from the isolated spot to an open area. But her strength apparently failed her midway, owing to   much loss of blood. Unable to crawl further, she  stopped,  clutching firmly to the earth as if rescue  would spring out of it. Osita on the other hand, was nowhere to be found.

Cause of break-up
Crime Alert  gathered that before the incident, Osita, a trader at Alaba International market, had on several occasions, threatened to leave an indelible mark on Onyin for dumping him for another man. Investigation revealed that the duo had a romantic relationship that lasted  for six years, a relationship that was to lead to marriage until Osita allegedly raped Onyin’s younger sister.


Family sources told Crime Alert that Oyin’s younger sister(names withheld) was sent to deliver a parcel to Osita at his 80 Isiaka street, Iba new site  two years ago. However, on reaching his apartment  he allegedly raped the teenager who was barely 15 years-old.
It was gathered that the teenager never told anyone about the deed, until she was discovered to be pregnant. She gave birth about a year ago.

Without further warning or advice,  Onyinyechukwu, stopped seeing Osita. But her action as gathered, signaled the danger that eventually led to her sudden death, following threat from Osita.
Perhaps, had she listened to her parents, this tragedy might not have befallen her. It was gathered  that right from the onset, Onyin’s parents kicked against her relationship with 36-year-old Osita who hails from Akere village in Ogbaru local government area of Anambra state.

Her devastated father, Mr Aleato, offered an explanation to the family’s stance: “ My daughter came back home one fateful day with razor  marks all over her body and when I asked what happened, she told me that she fell down. But we were later  informed by a friend of hers that her  boyfriend, Osita, inflicted the marks on her. I warned her  severally to abstain from Osita and every other man who would go to the extent of inflicting such injury on her; men who would not respect her as a woman…”

It was also gathered that Osita had on several occasions beat Onyin publicly, for calling off the relationship , only to start off with another man, boasting that if he could not have her, nobody else would.

Police on the trail of the  assailant
Since the tragic incident, Osita’s whereabouts is unknown. Policemen at Ilemba Hausa  were however,  said to be on his trail. When Crime Alert visited his apartment at Iba new site, it was discovered that Osita had a wife already. Sources hinted that he rushed home that fateful night and informed some of his friends around the area about what he had done and thereafter, picked some of his clothes before disappearing into thin air. Out of fear, his close friends were also discovered to have fled, apparently to avoid being arrested by the Police.

The case, has been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) where operatives at the Homicide section have reportedly began investigation.


Culled from Vanguard

Facebook users 'are insecure, narcissistic and have low self-esteem'

These are the recent findings of a research conducted on facebook users, I disagree with some of its findings most people use facebook for networking nothing more, some don't even have their profile details there!

Read the research



A 2012 research from Boston University found out that there are only two primary motivations why most people are on Facebook.

1. The desire to belong and
2. The desire to show off.

Majority of those addicted to using Facebook use it for self promotion.
Narcissists and intellectually insecure people are often those posting and uploading loads of pictures and other trivia on their walls. Shy people frequent Facebook most, but they often have fewer "friends" compared to the more socially outgoing users who attract thousands of "fans" or "friends".

The findings, published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behaviour And Social Networking, also suggested that those with low self-esteem also checked their Facebook pages more regularly than normal.


Daily Mail of UK.

The study showed a very important discovery among the users, that more principled, organized and achievement-orientated people are among the lowest users of Facebook. But most of them are on LinkedIn where you find the most professional members of the society. So, Facebook may be for dummies, but LinkedIn is for smart people.

"There are millions of fake profiles on Facebook and Twitter of people having duplicate accounts with different profiles and pages, but most people cannot do that on LinkedIn," said an expert on social media.
Facebook has been abused and misused by mostly idlers who spend hours on the social network hub to escape from boredom and depression and use Facebook as an antidepressant of some sorts.

56yrs Old Grandma sentenced to death in Indonesia for drug trafficking

Lindsay Sandiford, 56, from Gloucestershire, was today sentenced to death by firing squad in Indonesia for attempting to smuggle cocaine worth $2.5 million in her suitcase onto the resort island of Bali. State prosecutors had called for the housewife to be jailed for 15 years but she was told today that she would be put to death for her crime.

Lindsay had claimed in court that she was forced to take the drugs into the country by a gang that was threatening to hurt her children but the court wasn't interested in her reasons. She was arrested in May 2012 when customs officers at Bali's airport discovered 3.8 kilograms of cocaine in the lining of her luggage. Two other British citizens and an Indian have already been convicted and sentenced to prison in connection with the bust. Lindsay plans to appeal the sentence.

Monday 21 January 2013

OMG! Buried Baby Found Alive

Some members of a community in Lagos found a baby who was buried alive yesterday. Surprisingly the baby survived. See pictures below.

                                                                 The buried baby

                                                     The baby after he was picked up
                                                    The baby after they washed him up

Shoe-Maker Arrested For Sexually Assaulting Little Boys

The police in Abuja on Monday arrested a shoe maker, Haruna Ibrahim, 35, of Ajata, Jikwoyi in the Federal Capital Territory for allegedly, indulging in sodomy with six male minors whose ages range from eight to 14 years.
A source at the Jikwoyi Police Station told the News Agency of Nigeria that all the affected boys had confessed to the act to their parents.
"Their parents then alerted the police who arrested the suspect," the source said.
The source said the suspect lured the boys into the act at different occasions, paying them N300 each.
"Sometimes, he will repair their shoes free of charge before perpetrating the act," he said.
The source who pleaded for anonymity because he was not authorised to speak on the matter said that Ibrahim had denied the allegation but "investigation is still on to gather evidence after which the matter will be charge to court."

It's Not Same-Sex Marriage, It’s Same-Sex Union" —Archbishop Martins


In this interview, most Reverend Alfred Adewale Martins, Archbishop of the Lagos Catholic Archdiocese comments on the issue of Boko Haram, same-sex relationships, plans to legalise cremation in Lagos State and numerous other issues.


What do you think is responsible for the near intractable problems in the North? Why has it become so difficult to achieve peace there?

We, as a nation, have quite a number of challenges and difficulties to deal with. I believe that we must trace it back to this thing about human nature. People are selfish and greedy for power and always want to have their own ways, with regard to lives and situations. That is the ultimate reason for the problems that we have in the northern part of our nation. I believe that it is this basic problem that continues to play itself out in the case of Boko Haram, for example. People want to dominate others and want to ensure that it is only their own voices that would be heard; that they take control of lives and situations for all kinds of reasons, including material wellbeing and the rest of it. And, therefore, I believe that as we begin a new year, the call must be to people in the northern part of the country - those who are fomenting trouble there - that they have to recognise that every human being is made in the image and likeness of God. Every human being has a right to exist. And every human being, as a Nigerian, has a right to be here and has a right to the opportunities that Nigeria has to offer. And, therefore, they do not have the right to abridge the right of all other Nigerians, so that, as they want to carry through and fulfill their own particular agenda, they must realise that their agenda is not the national agenda. And, therefore, they should allow others to live, to be and to flourish in the nation that God has given to us.
So, whether be it ethnic, religious or anything at all, the call is that everyone should recognise the fact that every other person has the right to be. And that right must not be abridged by anyone for any reason at all. After all, as I said, we are all made in the image and likeness of God and that being the case, we all have equal rights in the presence of God, not to talk of equal rights according to the constitution of the nation. Therefore, if we are going to have peace in the North, all the selfishness and greed, personal and group agenda must be subjected to the peace of the nation and the goodwill of all within the nation.

What is the position of the Catholic Bishop Conference with regards to Boko Haram and what are its efforts at assisting government towards dealing with the sect?

Well, the Catholic Bishops Conference over the years has always been engaging with the leaders of our government. We have engaged with the current President, Goodluck Jonathan. And we indeed, presented our positions on that matter and other matters to him, sometime in 2012; one of which was that we advised him to create a forum, by which leaders of different religions will meet, as different from NIREC - such forum that will bring together those who are directly connected with these issues, such as the Boko Haram. We reasoned that interacting with them and bringing them in contact with others, we would be able to begin to sensitise them, as to what others feel and how others feel with regard to their activities. But apart from that, we know that our bishops and the church in the northern part of the country is also engaging with leaders of the Islamic religion to work with them in the North such that we can harmonise our efforts and bring together out different effort to ensure that we bring about the resolution of the Boko Haram problem. But we continue to also ask that this issue should be continually put in prayers because, in the end, no matter what it is that we do, it is the help of God that is capable of taking care of the problems that we find among us.

Nigeria is currently facing numerous challenges, as has been noted. What is your advice to Mr President with regard to finding lasting solutions to some of them?

In the first instance, we recognise the fact that Nigeria is a nation that is challenging in many ways. There are different kinds of factors and there are different kinds of agenda set by different kinds of people in the nation. And, therefore, governance is not an easy thing in our nation. We recognise that very much. However, I believe that our government, led by President Goodluck Jonathan, also ought to address some issues frontally and not skirt around them. We are talking, for instance, about the issue of corruption in the nation and the issue of ensuring that good governance is established. Indeed, we have so many bodies and agencies that have been put together to deal with these matters. But what we know too is that some of the matters that have come up have not meet proper resolution. And we have had committees that have been set up to deal with some of the issues; committees submit reports and in the end, nothing seems to come out of those reports. So, one would like to advice Mr. President that these bodies and agencies that had been set up should be empowered to carry through whatever it is that they are set up for; they should be empowered to carry them through - the EFCC, ICPC and all others. And they should be given adequate political backing in order to ensure that whatever it is that they discover are not swept under the carpet but are dealt with frontally. Secondly, reports that come from the different committees and panels that have been set up should be made to see the light of day. I believe that if some of these were addressed in the past, if some of the reports have been put to use, we will not have the same kind of impunity that we have sometimes when people commit crimes and carry through unwholesome activities in the nation.

What is the church doing to sensitise all Nigerians, not only Catholics, to ensure that the menace of same-sex marriage does not encroach into the Nigerian society?

First of all, let me note that to call it same-sex marriage is to abuse the word "marriage", because that can be called same-sex union or anything, but, certainly, it cannot and should not be described as same-sex marriage. Marriage, by its very definition, is union between a man and a woman, as it is given to us by God in the scriptures and as nature itself has ordained it. It is natural, such that anything that is now called same-sex union or anything is certainly unnatural. That is why they have to try and find reasons it should be acceptable in the nation. The scriptures have made it clear. Natural inclination as human beings has also made it quite clear, such that the word marriage is not quite applicable to that which we call same sex-union.

On what the church is doing to ensure it does not encroach into the nation, we know that there are many interests all over the world that are putting a lot of money into ensuring that these disvalues are finding their way into the nation, such that even they are trying to get the National Assembly to accept and put such aberrations into law. Obviously, the church will not stand by and not put across that which we know is the will of God in this regard - that which we know is the natural thing. And that is why when the bill came before the National Assembly, the church was fully represented at the debate. And the position of the church was clearly made available to members of the National Assembly. Thank God that majority of them were also responsive to the need to ensure that we keep the traditional values and the right and good, with regard to human relationships and marriage. So, the church continues to use opportunities such as interacting with the lawmakers as well as bringing the truth and the values concerning these issues to the people within our own immediate constituencies, the church and also asking the members of the church who, by the definition of their faith, also buy into this to also be agents of ensuring that the message of the values of marriage and traditional family values are passed across to the rest of the nation.

What are the challenges you have encountered since you became the Archbishop of the Catholic Archdiocese of Lagos?

One thing I must say is that our church, by the grace of God, is built and structured in such a way that anyone who is given the authority to carry through any responsibility is also given the backing with which to carry them out. And, therefore, the authority to carry out my duties have not been lacking. Therefore, the challenges that arise are also easily resolved, by the grace of God and by the goodwill of people. And I can say to you that by the grace of God too, there have been a lot of, not only goodwill but also demonstration of faith in the way people have been cooperating and ensuring that the work of God continues, knowing fully that for us, the work is that which is most important. God is the reason for doing the work. And, therefore, persons are just instruments. And as instruments in the hand of God for the church, for the growth of the kingdom, the challenges are well taken care of by the people around who are ready to do God's work. So, the challenges have not been daunting. They are there, but we deal with them as they come. God has been very, very faithful in these past few months; He will always be.

What is your view about the acquisition of choice property, such as private jets and other landed property by religious leaders in Nigeria, which has raised enormous controversy in recent times?

Well, the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the leader of His church, has given us parameters by which we must behave. And it is only necessary that each of us who have the responsibilities of being religious leaders be conversant with the expectations of Christ of us and, therefore, ensure that we do not go beyond our bounds. The Lord Himself did all that He needed to do without necessarily going out of that which is necessary. The Lord Jesus should be our model in the way we carry out our responsibilities as religious leaders. I believe that if Christ Himself is before us all the time, in whatever decision we want to take, that naturally, we cannot go far on. I believe that this is necessary to just keep on reminding ourselves about this, and keep on trying to ensure that we live and abide by this principle - principle of life.

Taking you back to the issue of corruption, most of those involved in high profile corruption in the country are people who also attend various churches, including the Catholic Church, at the end of the day. What is the church doing about that situation?

Any religious organisation has within it, both the good and the not-so-good; the saint and the sinner. That is the nature of any human organisation. But it is obviously, the responsibility of the institution to continue to tell those who are on the wrong side that they are on the wrong side. In other words, if our members are among those who are engaged in corrupt practices, our church has never stopped preaching it in season and out of season, that it is not acceptable in the sight of God and also in the sight of human beings. It leads to hell. It leads to damnation to be involved in acts that bring pain and poverty - actions and activities that bring any kind of discomfort or lack of adequate welfare of people; that we will continue to say. There are some who may be engaged in that, yes. But the duty of the church is not to cast aside those who go astray, but rather to help them to find their way back to the right path. And that is what the church will continue to do with utmost zeal and utmost authority behind it. That's the church's position in that regard.

In his New Year message of Pope Benedict the XVI, he urged leaders in all states to ensure that agriculture was given prime attention and noted that food shortage is worse than economic recession. How, in your view, does that apply to the Nigerian state, considering the flood disaster witnessed in the country in 2012?

Well, the Holy Father obviously is concerned about the kind of situations that can abort the peace that we are seeking. If there are people who are hungry, their hunger can lead to situations in which they could just create conditions that would not make peace available. So, it is in that situation that we must look at the comment of the Holy Father. Even the Yoruba have a saying that if you have food to eat, your poverty has reduced by a large percentage. So, it is in that circumstance that you can say that food shortage is worse than economic recession - meaning, therefore, that it is necessary for anyone who has responsibility of leadership to see that if he does not succeed in doing anything else, he should make effort to put food on the table of people. You know that even if you do not have a house you can call your own, if you have food, at least the urge to violence and the likes is reduced. That is not to say that having a house over your head is not a basic need of a human being. It is. But we are only saying that food is the much more direct thing.

Now, we have mentioned about the flood disaster in parts of our country and how that has affected food - production and availability of food. This brings to the fore again the need for our nation to go back to its roots - a time in our country where production of food and other agricultural produce were in the forefront of every other thing. And we must not allow this oil that has distorted the whole phase of our nation to continue to distort the living of people. And so, agricultural institutions should just begin to find ways and means of ensuring that we do not have food shortage in this nation. All the facilities for storage should be well organised more and more. And wherever we have excesses sometimes, it should be mopped up and kept for the rainy day. But the minister of agriculture and the various state commissioners in that sector should encourage the different bodies responsible for food and agriculture to take more steps in this regard.

What is your take on the issue of legalising cremation in Lagos State, which has passed second reading at the Lagos State House or Assembly? What is the position of the church?

We know that one of the basic things of human life is to have a decent way of taking care of the dead, such that the body is not in any way desecrated. The body of a human being, even after his death, is still a sacred thing. And, therefore, they should not be desecrated. We know that different parts of the world have different cultures with regards to taking care of the body of the dead. I do not know the reasoning behind government's position with regard to cremation. I do not know whether it has to do with availability of land. I do not know what particular argument are there that informed that effort. However, what we know is that as long as the body is decently taken care of without any disrespect to the body, it is okay. Even in the Catholic Church, there is a right for taking care of bodies that have undergone cremation. So, in principle, cremation is not an unacceptable practice. That is not to say that every individual should not be able to give directives about how he wants his or her body to be treated after death. But if there are individuals who do not mind being cremated, they should be allowed to have the option of being cremated. So, the position of the church is that in principle, cremation is not abominable. But on the other hand, every individual ought to be able to have a right to decide on personal term, what should be done with him or her.