Thursday 19 June 2014

Man Of Her Dreams

It was the moment they had both been waiting for but all of a sudden she was nervous. They had been dating for over a year now and in that time, she had come to know him well enough. She was a virgin and was in no rush to give up her virginity but she knew that tonight was going to be the night. He had taken her out for a romantic meal and now they were back in his flat and lying on his couch listening to some soft music. He was looking into her eyes and gently running his fingers through her long wavy hair. He kissed her gently on the lips and moved to her her neck, kissing her ever so lightly. She was trembling from the sensation and loving every bit of it. She could feel his passion as he lay on top of her. She knew what to expect. Slowly he took off her top and gently unhooked her bra. He sucked on her nipples and gently caressed the other one, before he removed her skirt. By now, she was really trembling, she had been looking forward to this but she was really nervous. He sensed it and gently whispered soothing words into her ears. before he removed his trousers. He stroked her thighs and then proceeded to play with her clitoris with his warm wet tongue. The sensation was electric and she could barely contain herself. He then went over to his dressing table and got a small bottle of lubricating gel. He kissed her again before he applied some on his huge pulsating. She closed her eyes tightly as he slowly parted her pussy lips with his hard cock, and as he went in further, she grabbed him tightly, digging her nails into his back as she felt a sharp pain but all too soon the pain was replaced by the sort of pleasure that she had never experienced before. And he was a very sensitive lover, giving it to her so gently and at the same time whispering into her ears. It went on and on until he climaxed.She shed tears as he held her in his arms, not tears of pain but tears of joy because she had given her virginity to the man of her dreams.

Tuesday 17 June 2014

You CAN'T tell a Man's Peen Size From his Shoes! The Scientific Truth Behind 7 Myths about Sex

Most of us have learned all sorts of things about sex - from talking to friends, sex education at school, the TV or the internet. Some things you might even have figured out from experience. But while you may have plenty of information, some of it is plain wrong. In fact, people believe all kinds of things about sex that are simply not true.  
Here are the most popular and prevalent sex myths and the scientific truth behind them. 
  • 1. BIG FEET, BIG... AHEM!  
 Many people think you can size up what a man's penis is like by looking at his feet, hands, or nose. Truth is there's no good evidence that men with big feet have bigger penises.  You can look at a man's feet all you want, but it's only going to give you an idea about his taste in shoes. 
  • 2. MEN THINK ABOUT SEX EVERY 7 SECONDS
You probably believe men think about sex every seven seconds. But that would mean men are thinking about sex more than 6,000 times a day, or pretty much every time they take a breath. That would not only drive most people mad, it would make them incapable of performing any other functions at all.  
However, it's true research data suggests men think about sex more than women do, but the difference is far less dramatic than you might think. Almost half of men don't think about sex every day - and that's  a far cry from the way they are frequently portrayed. 
  • 3. SEX HELPS YOU LOSE WEIGHT
Sounds plausible, doesn't it? But unless you are having sex for much longer and with much more vigour than the average person, sex is probably not going to get you anywhere near the recommended amount of exercise to lose weight.  
Sex is considered to be only a mild to moderate intensity activity, and the average sexual encounter lasts only around five minutes. Estimates of how many calories are used up range from 25 to 125 - not a great deal.   
  • 4. SEX IS BAD FOR A DODGY TICKER 
Everyone has heard horror stories of people dying of a heart attack in the middle of sex, and those with a history of heart disease may be particularly afraid that sex is too much for their heart. But the chance of having a heart attack during sex is very low.  
A large study called the Framingham Heart Study tells us that if you are a man who doesn't have diabetes and doesn't smoke, the chance is just one in a million. And while people who've had a heart attack do need to exercise some caution when resuming normal activities, they do not need to be so afraid of having sex.  
The truth is that most people just don't exert themselves that much during sex. The physical exertion is similar to walking up two flights of stairs. So if you can do the treadmill test (the stress test used to check heart function), this is about the same level of exertion you'd have during sex that produces an orgasm.   
  • 5. THE PILL WILL MAKE YOU FAT  
Nearly all medications have side-effects. But it is a myth that the Pill causes weight gain. It wasn't always the case - when it was first developed, the Pill had very high levels of oestrogen and progestin - a synthetic version of the hormone progersterone - which might have caused weight gain. But today's Pill contains much lower levels of hormones,  and two major reviews of all the studies found no evidence of weight gain. 
  • 6. TESTICLES SAG WITH AGE  
Most men think so. And the male reproductive tract definitely goes through a number of changes with age - the testicles produce fewer sperm, slower sperm, and sperm that are less able to fertilise an egg. The components of the testicles also start to change. The tiny tubes where sperm are produced start to degenerate, and, overall, testicles also become smaller. These smaller testicles may seem to be hanging lower, but this is because the sac is a bit emptier. 
But while it's true there might be some weakening of the skin of the scrotal sac, the smooth muscle that controls the movement of the scrotal sac up and down continues to function for life. And that kind of muscle - smooth muscle- is unlikely to sag very much. 
  • 7. SEX BEFORE SPORT IS BAD 
Many athletes are told they should not have sex the night before a big game because they will have less strength, less concentration, or not enough testosterone to fuel an aggressive, strong performance.  
In fact, the science of what happens in the body during and after sex suggests athletes might actually perform better if they did have sex. In one study, men who had sex the night before a sporting event had higher testosterone levels the next day than those who had not had sex.  
Sex has also been shown to have no impact on leg muscle strength, grip strength, reaction time or flexibility. 
Written by Dr. Carroll

Saturday 14 June 2014

Make You Partner Ask For More Sex

While some people believe that sex is no big deal in a relationship or marriage, others see it as something they only want to share with someone special to them.

The fact is, no sane person would want to force his or her partner/spouse to have sex with them.

So if you've reached that point in your relationship where you want to take it to the next level, you can always soothe some of his/her fears and reassure him/her that you are really a person he or she can fully trust.

After you do some of the below magical tricks, you can be rest assured that sex will come naturally:

1. Be Dependable:

If you want to make your partner/spouse want to have sex with you, then you should show him/her what an amazingly dependable person you are. If your girl is going to trust you enough to have sex with you, whether it's her first time or if she's had sex before, then she has to feel like she can depend on you. One of her fears may be that as soon as you have sex, she won't be able to rely on you anymore because you would have gotten what you wanted. So, prove her wrong by being an upstanding and dependable guy.

2. Give it time:

Some guys can be ready to have sex with a girl in the time it takes to down a beer, while some girls can take months, or even longer, to decide that they're ready to make love. And some girls -- sorry, gentlemen -- are really adamant about holding out for the one, and don't even want to have sex before marriage. So, don't rush into it -- wait for the girl to trust you first. If you want to make your girlfriend want to have sex with you, the worst thing you can do is bring it up or try to force it when it's way too early. This will turn your girlfriend off and will make her much less likely to sleep with you.

3. Don't act like you're obsessed with sex:

Let's face it -- if you're a male of a certain age who is desperate for his girlfriend to have sex with him, then you probably are obsessed with sex. But that doesn't mean you have to make jokes, innuendos, or even blatant references to sex all the time. The last thing you want your girlfriend to think is that you're a horndog who is so obsessed with sex that you don't care which lady comes into your bed. You should make her feel special, like you want only her.

4. Be Loyal:

If you want to make your girlfriend trust you, then you have to be loyal to her. She'll never have sex with you if she thinks you're talking to or checking out other women, or even hanging out with other women. Though you don't have to be rude to or ignore other women, you should have a laser-sharp focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you will always be there for her, especially after you start having sex.

5. Make Sure She Is Ready For Sex:

If you really want to treat your lady well, then you have to be able to have an idea about whether or not she's ready for sex. If you're her first boyfriend, if she's sexually inexperienced, or if she's deeply religious or has other moral convictions that make her steadfast about not having sex, then you should back off and wait for her to trust you enough to even consider having sex with you.

6. Be Prepared:

If you plan on trying to have sex, or even talking about having sex with your girl, then you should be prepared with some condoms in case the mood strikes her. If she wants to have sex and you have to run out to the drug store for some condoms, this may make your first sexual experience fall flat

7.Set The Mood:

If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to set the mood. You should start the evening by doing something romantic to soften her up. Then, go back to your (clean) apartment, which should be stocked with red wine, grapes, chocolate, and some light jazz on the radio. Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink.

8. Kiss Her:

If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to be a master kisser. Even if you've been kissing for a while, you should still know how to kiss her in a variety of ways and make your kisses feel fresh. Don't overwhelm her and grope her the second you lock lips. Instead, take it slow, grazing your lips as you touch her hair or stroke her face.Take breaks from kissing so she has time to come up for air and want you even more.You are not very likely to have sex with your girlfriend if all you've done is kiss. It takes a bit longer for things to reach a natural progression.

9. Play Hard To Get:

If you really want to make your girlfriend want you, then you shouldn't act like a sexual beast, moving rapidly from kissing to touching, to ripping off your clothes and practically levitating into the bedroom. Instead, you should kiss your girlfriend for a few seconds, then hold back, stroke her, and talk to her. Repeat this move a few times and wait for her to go wild. Why does playing hard to get work? Because this will make your girlfriend feel like you like her, but that you're in control of your desires and aren't desperate to get your hands all over her -- even if you are. This will make her want to be the one who asks for more.

10. Touch Her:

If you want to turn on your girlfriend, you can start thinking about doing more than just kissing. Begin by lightly caressing her arms, the back of her head and hair, and then, as things progress, stroke her breasts under her shirt or wait for her to touch you. If your clothes are off or partly off, you can kiss her breasts or touch her through her underwear to get her in the mood.

11. Don't Pressure Her:

If your girlfriend says she's not ready to have sex with you, then you shouldn't pressure her. Don't try making any arguments -- saying things like, "But we've been together for so long," "Everyone else is doing it," or "But I really, really like you," isn't going to make her feel any better. In fact, trying to reason with her will only make her more frustrated, annoyed, and much less likely to sleep with you.

5 Things To Never Say To A Naked Woman

Love can be messy, so to straighten things out, sometimes you have to start a difficult conversation. Communication is the most critical factor in a couple's success-it's even more significant than the sex itself.

According to a sex therapist, Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., you have to develop the vocabulary to talk about sensitive issues. It will help you please your partner.

Read five things you should never say to a naked woman:

"Not now, thanks. I'd rather just read my book."

You're allowed to be tired, but make sure she knows you're surprised too. Try, "I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm too exhausted," says Finkel. Then ask for a rain check-say, for the morning-and tell her you'll do anything she wants. "Reassuring her is important," Goldman says. If she knows you're still interested, she'll give you a pass.

"There's something really weird I want to try with you."

Congrats-now she's leery. "If you say, 'I know this is weird, but. . .' your partner is bound to feel conflicted," Goldman says. A smarter way in: "I'm curious about bondage. What do you think?" By starting a conversation instead of forcing her to say yes or no, you give her time to think. She'll see that you view the act as a way to connect, not control.

"That orgasm seemed as phony as Cheez Whiz."

Don't accuse her, says Eli Finkel, Ph.D., a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University. Instead, have that talk away from the bedroom. When the topic comes up naturally, say, "You don't ever need to fake orgasms with me. I want our relationship to be totally honest." You'll foster mutual respect-in and out of the sack.

"I'll enjoy the sex more after you take an STD test."

The message she hears: "I suspect you have an STD." That's not exactly a turn-on. So flip the script: Tell her you want to get tested for her sake, and ask if she'd be willing to do it with you. If you frame the suggestion as something the two of you can do together, says Goldman, then she won't feel accused.

"Is that supposed to feel good? I don't like it."

Say this, and you'll look like an ass. Instead, show that you're eager to improve too, says Goldman. Ask, "What do you want more of or less of in bed?" You'll learn something about your own game, and when it's your turn to share, she'll be all ears. One trick: Sandwich the complaint between two compliments, and it will go down even easier.

What Makes Sex So Sacred?

In an era where discourse about sexuality is discouraged especially amongst young minds, due to the belief that the subject topic is sacred, all I can say is..."I do not know how sacred sex is but hey! look at those two dogs engage in a sacred act!"

When I was a teenager, i had a friend of the opposite sex. Being a little older than I am, I knew Ibukun has had many sexual experiences considering the way he talks as if he knows all the women in the world. Meeting him and getting to know him opened my eyes to some of the things I never got to know from anyone since I was born. This was due to the fact that, the home I come from, you dare not open your mouth and talk about sex or even the human reproductive organs except you are ready to be skinned alive.

With the little I got to know from him, the next afternoon, after school and chores, I was eager to talk about it with my female friend, who is also the daughter of our next door neighbour. Bridget, who was my only close friend as at that time is a Hausa girl who, like Ibukun was also in the know about sexual stuffs. So I was eager to let her know that I now have an idea what sex is and how the male and female reproductive organs work.

A little taken aback, Bridget sat down listening to what I had to say but I didn't say much before I realised my mum has been listening! I kept quiet but it was obviously too late already.....I smelt my abdomen that night.

What does "sacred" mean? It is something connected with God (or gods), holy or dedicated to a religious purpose and so deserving great veneration (great respect). Now, let us break this meaning down and try to associate it with the word "sex". Yes, sex is connected with God because it was God's idea at the beginning. God created sex.

Secondly,..that sex deserves great respect is acceptable to me, because when unmarried adults do it, it is immoral; So the respect that sex deserves is for it to be done in the confines of the lifetime commitment called marriage.

And finally, that sex is holy, and dedicated for a religious purpose...is what I am against which brings me to the question:" is sex really sacred?"

The main essence of sex is for procreation.There is nothing more natural, basic or mundane than the biological desire for a man to look at a naked woman; now tell me,what is holy in that? What is so sacred in that that cannot be talked about? We have concealed so many truths about sex to the point that it is now the abberated, diluted and the overrated version that young
minds get to see and hear from the media, hence, the high rate in sexually transmitted diseases, early pregnancy and the likes.

This generation of ours has unhealthily misrepresented sexuality to the point that makes the subject topic too heavy, too laden with guilt and disconnected from reality. While few mothers think children should be told about sex at a tender age, quite many are of the opinions that allowing the child to come of age is better. As for me, I think whether you choose to talk to your
child at a tender age or otherwise really depends on so many things like the environment you are in, the child's maturity level and so on which all vary from one child to another.

Also, the manner of approach and presentation is key. When you talk to a child about things he/she must not do instead of what he/she needs to do; Don't you think this generic approach can yield negative results making the child want to try what he/she was told not to do?

Is sex scared? No! Why? Because no one can explain what sacred means and apply it to sex. Should we treat sex with respect? Yes. Should we because of the respect now make sex a big issue in front of the younger generation? Absolute No! why? Because they need to learn about it from appropriate places so that they can get to know the real truth about sex!

Are there better ways to teach young people about sex in a balanced way? Do you think sex is something that should not be talked about? Did your parents/guardians take time out to describe sex to you in an educational way?


By Adams Odunayo

Why Sexual Moans Is Important!

The art of sex is intensely interesting as every person acts and reacts in different ways. Studies have shown that moaning during sex has mutual benefits for both partners involved in the lovemaking act.

Making love to a motionless and and voiceless mate is like having it with a log of wood or a dead body. No doubt, feedback is important. Otherwise, how can you determine what works for your partner and what does not?

Here are some of the great importance of moaning during sex:

Assurance of Pleasure

You might be the "soft-moans" type, or the "the-scream-aloud" type and amazingly, and even the facial expressionist but all in all, when any of these sexual communication methods is used, your partner, one way or the other knows you enjoy he or she is doing you right at that moment.

Oiling the Ego of your man

No man wants to be seen as a failure in the bedroom department. Ladies, each time you moan or communicate sexually to him, you remove some residual insecurities of low self esteem and many more from your man. He goes about the day's activities fulfilled!

Great and enhanced sexual lifestyle

Here, the logic is, if you moan or communicate to your partner in your own sexual way, your partner will from time to time where he/she needs to touch and what he/she needs to do to take you to the desired cloud nine. This. overtime, makes the both of you understand each other's exact needs and will birth a fulfilled sex life.

You will get much more

Like the Oliver Twist, when your partner gets "on-the-spot-feedbacks", he/she tends to want to do more so as to make you get more pleasure. Trust your instincts...he/she would just do more!

Although not all feedbacks or sex communications need to be vocal, the most important thing is to be genuine and also to know the exact signal your partner uses in getting across to you to avoid frustrations. So, if it is not working, tell your partner how to make it work because you deserve a great sex life! It is important.

- by Adams Odunayo


Signs You Are Being Used

There could be nothing more frustrating and heartbreaking than discovering those who purportedly professed their 'love' to us, and we reciprocating in return, are the same ones that took our love for granted and played with our emotions like it's some worthless toy.

To avoid finding yourself in such an unpleasant situation, here are four signs that could help you detect earlier if you are being used or manipulated by your partner.

YOUR ACTIVITIES TOGETHER IS MAINLY SEXUAL

Your relationship is really a time bomb waiting to explode if all your partner is always interested in getting you involved in is sex. And once they've extracted all possible sexual pleasure and gratification from you, then you've certainly have been marked 'done' on their register. However, if you don't want to be a record holder as a perpetual bridesmaid or an ever consistent groomsman and never the bride or groom, you've got to avoid being a pleasure spot that gratifies other people's sexual appetite.

MAINLY CONTACT YOU WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING

Being with a partner that more or less contacts you only when they need something either through calling or meeting, is a bold sign that you are being used to serve their needs and they wouldn't mind discarding you when you start objecting or when you have been comprehensively milked dry. You'd agree with me that when they need something, they'd perfectly act all caring, super nice, speak to you in romantic tones like they just came back from throat surgery and intense voice training. And when they're done getting what they want, they are almost instantly gone for a while like they are on exile.

YOU GUYS BASICALLY HANGOUT WHEN THEY ARE BORED

It's always advisable to be on the alert when someone who is supposed to be your partner suddenly realises you exist. You either get sudden calls or request for hangouts and it could only mean two things- they are bored and need someone to be with or they are idle. Then if you similarly try making a request to hang out with them, you're served with excuses from being busy (this is frequent) to tooth ache, to eye ache, and all what nots.

NO FUTURE PLANS WITH YOU

Nothing can be more indicative of being used than having a partner who seems reluctant or uninterested in making future plans with you. His/her temporary arrangement for you is to keep him/her company; you simply don't figure in their future. If you on the other hand have made plans on the kind of luxurious house you'd build together, the large number of beautiful children you'd have or those exotic cars you'd drive, well, you might as well only be driving them in your imagination.

If you've been noticing any of these signs in your relationship or you have other views, kindly drop your comments.

By Kalejaye Abayomi

10 Ways To Get Over Heartbreak

There’s a thin line between heartbreak and lovesickness. Take a look at these signs to find out if you’re lovesick, or on the verge of experiencing lovesickness. And if you do see these traits in yourself, speak with a friend and try to pull yourself out of the pit you’re digging for yourself. [Read: Why does love hurt so much when it goes bad?]

#1 Mood swings. You almost always feel depressed or hopeless, and believe you have no reason to live if you can’t have this person’s affection.

#2 Isolation. You love isolating yourself from the rest of the world. Nothing interests you anymore, and all of a sudden, you start to feel like none of your friends understand you or what you’re going through.

#3 You’re tired all the time. The mental stress you endure constantly tires you easily, and you don’t have energy to do anything you want to do.

#4 Appetite. Even looking at food makes you queasy. You suffer from loss of appetite and weight loss.

#5 Distractions. You’re always distracted, and nothing you do ever feels like it’s to the best of your abilities.

#6 Obsessive compulsive disorder. You find yourself constantly checking your email, facebook page, or your cell phone to see if you’ve received a new message from this person. You may know you aren’t going to get a message, but compulsively checking them becomes a part of your lifestyle. [Read: What is unrequited love and ways to get over it completely]

#7 Hoarding. You treasure this person’s memories and hold on to little things of no significance or value like a movie ticket or a strand of hair. You just can’t bear the thought of losing it or throwing it away because it means so much to you.

#8 You overanalyze. You spend several hours analyzing the things this person says or the particular words they use, and try to see things from different perspectives even if it’s something as trivial as a wave or a hello.

#9 Tearful. You feel like crying for no reason at all. You feel depressed for the smallest of things and you’re oversensitive about everything in your life.

#10 Insomnia. You have difficulty sleeping. Every time you lie down, your mind is filled with thoughts of your crush or your ex. You spend several hours tossing and turning in bed even if you try hard to just fall asleep. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never ever like you back]

10 ways to stop feeling lovesick and move on with your life

Lovesickness hurts, and there is no escaping it until you make up your mind to move on with your life, or confront the issue. Here are 10 things you can do to stop feeling lovesick and start controlling your life again.

#1 Ask them out. Wear your heart on your sleeve and ask this person out. What’s the worst that could happen? They could decline you. It’s okay to fail at something. What’s worse is not trying! [Read: How to tell a girl you love her without losing her]

#2 Hate them. Do you even realize what this person is doing to your life? Your life is spiraling out of control and you’re messing up in every part of your life only because this person is toying with your feelings. [Read: The best way to get over someone you love is by hating them]

#3 What makes them ugly? Look for their flaws and try to remember it all the time, be it their facial expressions, their low IQ, or their lack of etiquette. And compare them mentally to other goodlooking people you see on the street. Once you realize that this person isn’t as awesome as you once thought they were, you’d be able to take them off the pedestal you’ve built for them.

#4 Keep your mind occupied. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Is it shopping? Is it playing games? Indulge in something that excites you and makes you feel good about yourself. [Read: How to get over a crush easily and have fun doing it!]

#5 Get social. You may have been avoiding your friends for a long time, but it’s time you get out and have fun with them. Party, have fun and realize that you can still have a great life even if this person isn’t in it!

#6 Burn those memories. Do you have any photos or memorabilia of this person? Burn it, burn all of it. You’ll feel liberated in no time!

#7 Rationalize, but don’t obsess. It’s okay to think of this person now and then. Shutting them off completely may make the addiction worse. But each time you spend a few minutes thinking of this person, avoid drifting away into fantasyland. Reminisce, rationalize and move on within a few minutes. [Read: 12 reasons why the no contact rule always works!]

#8 Spend time outside. Nature is wonderful and full of beauty. Spend a while outside in a park or a garden. Stare blankly at the green leaves and the flowers and admire them for their beauty. Isn’t it frustrating that you’re letting this one person darken your heart when there’s so much beauty in the world?

#9 Flirt with someone else. They say that the easiest way to get over someone is by getting under someone else. If you don’t feel like dating someone just yet, at least try to find someone who catches your fancy and flirt with them. It’ll keep you distracted and help you regain the confidence you’ve lost. [Read: 20 things you can do to stop thinking about someone you still love]

#10 Accept that it’ll take time. Wounds don’t heal overnight, and your lovesickness won’t go away too soon either. Accept the fact that it’ll take time, but try to avoid thinking of this person, and avoid all triggers that reminds you of this person. It may take a few weeks or a few months, but thememories will fade away soon as long as you focus on having fun in your life.