You may or may not know this but the female species take far longer to get sexually aroused compared to that of men. On the flipside however, although men get excited very quickly they can not remain in that state anywhere near as long as that of a woman.
In order to really get your woman to her absolute peak of sexual arousal you must do one thing...... tease her! By simply teasing her it is possible to get your woman to a level of horny that you may previously thought impossible. And you can do this without even laying a finger on her. Do you want to learn how to gain complete control over the arousal level of your woman? Follow this steps:
How to get a girl horny
To make a girl feel horny, you first need to build the sexual chemistry between both of you. You need to flirt with her, tease her and make her like your attention.
And when you feel like there's some secret chemistry in the air, just sit next to her, use these tips and watch her get aroused in no time!
How to make a girl wet while sitting next to her
Is it really possible to make a girl horny by just sitting next to her? Well, with these 8 tips here, it definitely is!
Just don't be hasty, and if you sense any awkwardness in the air, take a step back and play it safe.
1. Sit really close. When you're with this girl you're sexually attracted to, find an excuse to sit really close to her.
But as you sit next to her, make sure you're sitting in a tight spot so your arms are touching each other's. And even if there's a lot of space to sit on, squeeze close to her and immediately shift her focus to something else so she's too distracted to slide her butt away from you. Make sure your arms touch each other, because the soft grazing of both your arms is crucial to rouse the sexual tension and turn her on.
2. Keep her interested. Don't talk flirty at all. It'll raise her guard. She's already touching you and she's obviously conscious of that. Get her distracted from the touches by having an interesting conversation with her.
Get her attention by gossiping about something you heard or reveal a little secret you heard. As long as you excite her with something while talking to her, she's overlook the fact that both of you are almost attached at the hip.
3. Start talking flirty with her. Getting a girl horny is easiest when both of you have to sit next to each other for a while with no interruptions, be it in a boardroom or a library, or even while travelling in a train or bus. But no matter where you are, just get her involved and things will go smoothly all the way.
Somewhere along the conversation, get flirty with her discreetly. Compliment her about something to start with. Be very subtle or she'll move away from you. "You smell great", "I like the fabric of your shirt", "You have really nice eyes, did I ever say that before? From this close, it sparkles" are just a few lines that'll charm her and yet make her blush without moving away from you.
4. Touch her fingers. Play it safe and slow. No matter what, make sure these little moves both of you are indulging in is discreet. If she feels awkward or uncomfortable, it's the end of the road for your sexual endeavor. Find an excuse to touch her fingers, either by brushing her palm with yours or by giving her something to hold. Compliment her about her delicate fingers or how smooth it is. She'd know your naughty games by now, but as long as you keep the pace slow and enjoyable, she'll like your sensual touches.
Another good way is to pretend like you read palms. It'll work even if she knows you have no idea about palmistry. Flirt with her and say something naughty when you see her palms. Or if that doesn't work, touch her fingers and compliment her ring or her bracelet. Or even her earrings. Just make sure you warm her up to your touches.
5. Whisper into her ears. This is especially good if there are other people around both of you who are too preoccupied with something else. Movie theatres, bus journeys, the backseat of a car with friends when another guy is driving, or if both of you are at home watching a movie are perfect times to indulge in the whispering act.
Don't be funny while whispering into her ear. If she laughs, it completely kills the mood. Go near her ear like you're whispering something and compliment her again and say you just had to compliment her about the same thing again.
If you want to get straight to the point, whisper into her ear and ask her if she'd like to hang out with you later. Whispering something intimate like a date request with some heavy breathing in the background will make the hair on the back of her neck and hands stand. And make sure your lips graze her ears so she can feel a hint of a teasing kiss on her ear.
6. Reach out from across her. To make any of these moves work, you have to feel the sexual tension in the air. If you don't feel it, don't try these moves. And when you feel the sexual chemistry thicken in the air, don't worry, she'll feel it too and even get aroused by it.
Now that you've been touching her and whispering into her ear, it's time to take it to the next level. Find an excuse to reach out to something from across her. And as you reach your hand out to pick something up, make sure your shoulder or arm grazes her breasts or some other strategic body part. Play innocent and don't jerk back or look awkward. Make it seem natural, like you're a clean boy scout who's doing nothing wrong.
If her breasts are out of reach, move your hands across her back or over her thigh, or just about any place that you wouldn't touch in other casual circumstances.
7. Read her reciprocation. If she starts speaking softly or moves closer to you, chances are, she's as horny as you are right now! If you've been following these tips to the tee, you'd definitely have an erection already. Just play along and repeat the flirting, teasing, touching and reaching out to body parts now and then for as long as both of you enjoy it.
Graze your hands against her breast or watch her tee shirt and if you find anything stiffened up, you've just worked your magic and made a girl horny, my friend!
8. Ask her out. Now all this turning on shouldn't go to waste, should it? Tease her and play with her for a while, and she'll love it all the more. Or if you want to do something more about it, go close to her ear and ask her if she'd like to come over to your place.
If you're with friends, make an excuse and get out separately and meet her outside so both of you can get home and do something about all that heavy petting and raging hormones!
And that's all you need to do to figure out the secret behind knowing how to get a girl horny and wet. I've used it dozens of times, and it's taken me to bed almost every single time!
Tuesday 30 April 2013
Facts About Female Orgasms
You probably are well aware of the fact that orgasms occur because of muscle contractions in the body, combined with an increase in blood pressure.
A result of intense pleasure, when it comes to decoding the female orgasm secrecy, one can glance through several books, publications, online reviews and whatnot! But having gone through all of this, most men (and at times women) remain confused. If you are among the bewildered, today we have jotted down for you top 5 facts about female orgasms.
1. Myth about Female Orgasms: Generally, women can attain orgasm only through sexual intercourse.
Fact: One of three women gets orgasms on a regular basis during sexual intercourse. Few can attain orgasms with sexual intercourse but require extra acts to arouse action. Recent studies show that an orgasm is a sexual climax no matter which way you get it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.
2. Myth about Female Orgasms: Lacking the power to reach orgasm means that something is wrong with the women or her spouse.
Fact: Women who were capable of sexual climax in the past, but can no more do so, may be troubled with some medical issues or fallout from medicinal drugs. Women who have never arrived at sexual climax successfully, may simply be unaware about what they need to be able to attain orgasm.
3. Myth about Female Orgasms: Clitoris or G-spot stimulation of 5 minutes can result in orgasm, post that there is no chance of success.
Fact. While there are lots of ways of love making that can help a woman reach sexual climax, in the end, a woman is the cause for her own pleasure. Intercommunication between partners is important as well. It is up to the woman to communicate with her partner.
4. Myth about Female Orgasms: Hereditary and genes have a straight impact on the female orgasm.
Fact. Twin-based grounds show that orgasm frequency has a mild hereditable component. However, hereditary factors are the reasons for only a third of the population-level variation in female orgasm.
5. Myth about Female Orgasms: A few women are simply not capable of achieving orgasm.
Fact: About 10% of women have the disability of not attaining sexual climax during sexual intercourse. This inability to reach orgasm is known as Anorgasmia. It may either be primary or secondary. Primary Anorgasmia is a stage in which a woman has never been able to attain sexual climax by any means. Secondary Anorgasmia is an orgasm felt at some point in the past times or situational (orgasm may be felt in certain intimate spots but not others; for instance, with foreplay but not with sexual intercourse).
A result of intense pleasure, when it comes to decoding the female orgasm secrecy, one can glance through several books, publications, online reviews and whatnot! But having gone through all of this, most men (and at times women) remain confused. If you are among the bewildered, today we have jotted down for you top 5 facts about female orgasms.
1. Myth about Female Orgasms: Generally, women can attain orgasm only through sexual intercourse.
Fact: One of three women gets orgasms on a regular basis during sexual intercourse. Few can attain orgasms with sexual intercourse but require extra acts to arouse action. Recent studies show that an orgasm is a sexual climax no matter which way you get it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.
2. Myth about Female Orgasms: Lacking the power to reach orgasm means that something is wrong with the women or her spouse.
Fact: Women who were capable of sexual climax in the past, but can no more do so, may be troubled with some medical issues or fallout from medicinal drugs. Women who have never arrived at sexual climax successfully, may simply be unaware about what they need to be able to attain orgasm.
3. Myth about Female Orgasms: Clitoris or G-spot stimulation of 5 minutes can result in orgasm, post that there is no chance of success.
Fact. While there are lots of ways of love making that can help a woman reach sexual climax, in the end, a woman is the cause for her own pleasure. Intercommunication between partners is important as well. It is up to the woman to communicate with her partner.
4. Myth about Female Orgasms: Hereditary and genes have a straight impact on the female orgasm.
Fact. Twin-based grounds show that orgasm frequency has a mild hereditable component. However, hereditary factors are the reasons for only a third of the population-level variation in female orgasm.
5. Myth about Female Orgasms: A few women are simply not capable of achieving orgasm.
Fact: About 10% of women have the disability of not attaining sexual climax during sexual intercourse. This inability to reach orgasm is known as Anorgasmia. It may either be primary or secondary. Primary Anorgasmia is a stage in which a woman has never been able to attain sexual climax by any means. Secondary Anorgasmia is an orgasm felt at some point in the past times or situational (orgasm may be felt in certain intimate spots but not others; for instance, with foreplay but not with sexual intercourse).
Sex For Money: Men Who Take Prostitutes Home Share Their Stories
The police officer asks a middle-aged woman sarcastically: "Did he pop you?" Apparently uncomfortable with the presence of a small crowd that had gathered, she was reluctant to answer the question. But the man at the centre of the matter roundly denied the accusation. The sex hawker he brought home the previous night had alleged that he slept with her and refused to pay for services rendered all night long. He told the policemen who arrested him that he refused to pay her because he dozed off without touching her, due to excessive booze. It was obvious he did not convince the police because the prostitute was asked the same question again and replied: "He popped me."
This was despite the man insisted, "I didn't have sex with her and I can't pay for what I did not eat."
The incident was one of the endless stories of men who go home with sex hawkers but end up with ugly experiences. Checks reveal that the fear of prostitutes who agree to go home with their randy male clients is the beginning of wisdom for most night crawlers. For the cautious among these men, they sleep with one eye open, mindful that the bag of most call-girls are usually loaded with weapons of 'mass destruction' including razor blades, powdery substances that could be charms or drugs, and knives that come handy when a client proves difficult. For the uninformed, the drugs come useful when the hawker wants to put her host to sleep to enable her steal and escape.
Narrating his experience with a woman of easy virtue that he brought home one night, a man, Osas Ife [not real name], said: "These days, many prostitutes are not after sex or even their fees because for most of them, the fee is not enough.
"They can go any length to steal from the man who took them home. We [men] are after sex while they are strategizing on how to poison you, get your money and disappear. They want to get rich quickly, which makes them more devilish than armed robbers.
"When you call a hooker to join you, you need to observe whether she is the kind of person that doesn't take much drink because she might have a plan. While others are drinking and enjoying themselves, she keeps her head because she has a target - to loot. She came home with you, to drug you because maybe, she has an urgent financial need to meet. When you bring her to your house, she would take her bath before you. Then, as a man of the house, you would go to take your bath, and while you are still inside the bathroom, she would take a bottle of drink from your bar and drug it. She would pretend to like that particular drink and insist that both of you drink it.
"But the moment you drink it, she would quickly reject it, knowing you have consumed much, and demand for a different drink.
"I had been drugged by a prostitute, and before I woke up, she disappeared. She ransacked my house and made away with some of my expensive items and a friend's belongings that I had to pay for."
Osas was not the only one that had the ugly encounter with women of easy virtues. Ade, who pleaded to use only his first name, told story of a man duped at prominent hotel at Ajao-Estate recently.
"In the game between us and prostitutes, interests differ because they are after money, not for sex these days. Many of them have one thing at the back of their mind - how to drug you and take your money. Often times, they want to dupe you in order to attend to urgent needs either at school or their homes. They can eliminate you, to achieve their aim. It is really a cat and dog game. You really need to shine your eyes when you are with them because they can do anything. They always know why they came.
"Last week, we were in a hotel at Ajao-Estate, when one man narrated his experience in the hands of a prostitute. He said he met the girl at Ikeja and took her to an apartment where he spent three days with her. Listening to the man's different calls from his business partners, the hooker realized that he does not live in Nigeria. Moreover, he counted his money in her presence because, according to him, the girl looked very decent.
"One day, the man came home with N500,000 that he couldn't pay into his bank and kept the money in his bag. Later, he invited her downstairs for a drink but the call girl said she was too tired to move out of the room. The man went downstairs and before he came back to the room, the girl had gone with the money he kept in the wardrobe.
"I opened the bag of a prostitute who came to my house some time ago. Do you know what I saw? Razor blade and white substance that I suspect, was drug. I refused to go and take my bath after her because of the fear of the unknown", he stated.
Also, Ayo and his friend recalled how they were locked inside their room for refusing to pay a prostitute they took home after heavy drinking. "My friend and I went out to drink and after taking some bottles, we decided to go home with a prostitute. When we got home, my friend and I took our bath but she told us she did not need a bath. Apparently due to the heavy drink, we soon fell asleep without touching her, and the next day, she insisted that we must pay her, whereas we had paid her madam. While we were still on bed, arguing with her, she walked out of the room and locked us inside. It was our shout for help that attracted my neighbours who begged her before she opened the door. She threatened to throw away the keys and make us spend the whole day inside the room.
"My advice is, if you are going home with any of them, you must be smart and sharp. I didn't pay her because we gave her madam N5000," Ayo said.
Another victim, who identified himself as Bright, narrates how a fight erupted between him and a sex worker and he was forced to pay for services not rendered: "I am not the drinking type because I can't drink more than one bottle and a half. Whenever I drink above my limit and I take a prostitute home, I can't perform. On this particular occasion, I returned with one of them but I hardly touched her in the night because I was weak to the bone.
"She begged for it but I told her that I had no strength. She even came on top of me, yanked down my trousers and tried to arouse me but to no avail. The next morning, she demanded for her fee but I reminded her that I didn't shag her at night. We had a serious fight before neighbours separated us and advised me to pay her. Unknown to me, she had stolen some of my belongings. It was after she left that I discovered that some things were missing. Up till now, I have not set my eyes on that prostitute. I still go out to sleep with them, but I hardly bring them home because that one thought me a lesson. Each time I bring them to my house, I sleep with one eye closed while the other is open enough to watch her," Bright said.
Saturday 27 April 2013
Smart Dating Tips For Single
Have you noticed that, when dating, each man you meet seems to have wonderful qualities -- but after a few dates or even a few weeks, something would often emerge that changed your mind? The guy who is spontaneous has a problem with commitment, and the guy who has a really steady job turns out to be a workaholic. Isn't it always such a disappointment? This is what you should do. By following a few simple rules, get to know a guy before giving your heart away.
1. On a first date, meet up in public. On your first date (especially if you've never met them before), meet somewhere neutral and in public. This is mostly for safety. Make sure you have a plan to keep the date short. Arrange to have a friend call your cell phone half an hour after the date begins to check on you and give you the "emergency call out" if things are already uncomfortable. Sometimes, the first impression tells you all you need to determine if there is a connection. Meeting for coffee in a casual cafe works best.
2. Listen to your intuition. Make sure you listen to your gut. What is your first impression? Is he being honest? Does he seem authentic? You want to go into the date from the viewpoint of analyzing the situation with a critical eye. Physical chemistry isn't everything, and, besides, the novelty will always wear off over time. It's just one of the important ingredients to a successful relationship.
3. Don't ignore the warning signs - even the small ones! So, assuming that you're attracted to your date, you still need to remain objective enough to get to know who this person is beyond how physically appearance. Dating is meant to be fun and entertaining, but odds are, you're also looking for a commitment. You should learn over time if the person you're with has what you need to be happy. Even if you're still unclear on this after going out on five or six dates with this person, that's okay. This decision evolves over time. The longer you're with someone, the more you know about them. Watch for warning signs and keep these in the back of your mind so you can see how they play out in your relationship over time. And if your date can't get past a few dates without being impolite or inappropriately sexual, it's time to sever the cord and move on.
4. Spend three to six months getting to know your date. The purpose of dating is to find out as much as you can about the other person as quickly as possible to see if he is a true match. It's a numbers game, so you want to date as many people as you can until you find the right one. Resist the urge to decide that this person is the perfect match for you, because you can only really get to know someone over time. You need to be clear and honest with yourself. So, no matter how intensely you feel, remind yourself: "I am just getting to know this person enough so I can find out if I want to take it further."
5. Talk to someone who can give you an objective perspective. Whether it's a friend or a family member, it helps to share your dating experiences with someone else to get an outsider's perspective. Sometimes, these people have a better insight into our motivations than we do ourselves. Are you tired of being along and simply willing to settle for anyone? Maybe your biological clock is ticking and your desire to have kids is outweighing your decision to meet and commit to someone who would truly make you happy. A third party can help you stay objective, avoid making cloudy decisions and can help point out your blind spots. Having an objective ear can really make a great difference between making smart decisions versus impulsive ones.
6. Know your pitfalls. We all have relationship patterns that follow us throughout our lives. Since they began in childhood, they can be largely invisible. One tip that can make all the difference in your life, is to be super mindful of sex. Wait to have sex until you can handle how the guy behaves the day after. If you would be devastated if he didn't call you, then it's too soon; but if you're fine, independent of his behavior, then you're safe to be in the bedroom together. Know yourself. If you get overly attached after you have sex, it's smart to wait.
Dating is about getting to know new people, then breaking up and repeating this process until you meet your true match. Try not to spend too much time with the wrong person. The more time you spend with the wrong person, the more attached you'll get and the more hurt you'll be when the relationship ends. You want to find your soulmate with minimal heartache. This means keeping the wrong relationships as short as possible so you can get to the one you're meant to be with for life!
1. On a first date, meet up in public. On your first date (especially if you've never met them before), meet somewhere neutral and in public. This is mostly for safety. Make sure you have a plan to keep the date short. Arrange to have a friend call your cell phone half an hour after the date begins to check on you and give you the "emergency call out" if things are already uncomfortable. Sometimes, the first impression tells you all you need to determine if there is a connection. Meeting for coffee in a casual cafe works best.
2. Listen to your intuition. Make sure you listen to your gut. What is your first impression? Is he being honest? Does he seem authentic? You want to go into the date from the viewpoint of analyzing the situation with a critical eye. Physical chemistry isn't everything, and, besides, the novelty will always wear off over time. It's just one of the important ingredients to a successful relationship.
3. Don't ignore the warning signs - even the small ones! So, assuming that you're attracted to your date, you still need to remain objective enough to get to know who this person is beyond how physically appearance. Dating is meant to be fun and entertaining, but odds are, you're also looking for a commitment. You should learn over time if the person you're with has what you need to be happy. Even if you're still unclear on this after going out on five or six dates with this person, that's okay. This decision evolves over time. The longer you're with someone, the more you know about them. Watch for warning signs and keep these in the back of your mind so you can see how they play out in your relationship over time. And if your date can't get past a few dates without being impolite or inappropriately sexual, it's time to sever the cord and move on.
4. Spend three to six months getting to know your date. The purpose of dating is to find out as much as you can about the other person as quickly as possible to see if he is a true match. It's a numbers game, so you want to date as many people as you can until you find the right one. Resist the urge to decide that this person is the perfect match for you, because you can only really get to know someone over time. You need to be clear and honest with yourself. So, no matter how intensely you feel, remind yourself: "I am just getting to know this person enough so I can find out if I want to take it further."
5. Talk to someone who can give you an objective perspective. Whether it's a friend or a family member, it helps to share your dating experiences with someone else to get an outsider's perspective. Sometimes, these people have a better insight into our motivations than we do ourselves. Are you tired of being along and simply willing to settle for anyone? Maybe your biological clock is ticking and your desire to have kids is outweighing your decision to meet and commit to someone who would truly make you happy. A third party can help you stay objective, avoid making cloudy decisions and can help point out your blind spots. Having an objective ear can really make a great difference between making smart decisions versus impulsive ones.
6. Know your pitfalls. We all have relationship patterns that follow us throughout our lives. Since they began in childhood, they can be largely invisible. One tip that can make all the difference in your life, is to be super mindful of sex. Wait to have sex until you can handle how the guy behaves the day after. If you would be devastated if he didn't call you, then it's too soon; but if you're fine, independent of his behavior, then you're safe to be in the bedroom together. Know yourself. If you get overly attached after you have sex, it's smart to wait.
Dating is about getting to know new people, then breaking up and repeating this process until you meet your true match. Try not to spend too much time with the wrong person. The more time you spend with the wrong person, the more attached you'll get and the more hurt you'll be when the relationship ends. You want to find your soulmate with minimal heartache. This means keeping the wrong relationships as short as possible so you can get to the one you're meant to be with for life!
Man Inject 8month Pregnant Wife With HIV Blood
In a shocking incident, a woman was allegedly injected with HIV infected blood by her husband and in-laws at Cherukupalli mandal in Guntur district for conceiving a baby girl and failing to get more dowry, India.
The husband and his parents allegedly did the ghastly deed with the help of a compounder who is also their relative.
Though the incident occurred three months ago, it came to light only Wednesday when the victim, Asodi Tirupatamma of Betapudi village in Bapatla mandal, lodged a complaint with the Vedullapally police.
The victim, eight months pregnant, alleged that her husband Mutyala Srinivasa Reddy, father-in-law Venkateswara Reddy and mother-in-law Indravati of Mutyalavaripalem in Cherukupalli mandal had harassed her for additional dowry and injected HIV-infected blood with a syringe with the help of compounder Nagireddy.
Bapatla inspector Y Ramarao told Express a dowry harassment and another case for outraging the modesty of a woman was booked against the husband's family members for insulting the woman and allegedly driving her out of home.
Another case was also registered for conducting sex determination test.
The husband and his parents allegedly did the ghastly deed with the help of a compounder who is also their relative.
Though the incident occurred three months ago, it came to light only Wednesday when the victim, Asodi Tirupatamma of Betapudi village in Bapatla mandal, lodged a complaint with the Vedullapally police.
The victim, eight months pregnant, alleged that her husband Mutyala Srinivasa Reddy, father-in-law Venkateswara Reddy and mother-in-law Indravati of Mutyalavaripalem in Cherukupalli mandal had harassed her for additional dowry and injected HIV-infected blood with a syringe with the help of compounder Nagireddy.
Bapatla inspector Y Ramarao told Express a dowry harassment and another case for outraging the modesty of a woman was booked against the husband's family members for insulting the woman and allegedly driving her out of home.
Another case was also registered for conducting sex determination test.
Judge His Sex Style In Seconds
The Top Signs has been revealed to watch out for on that very first date...
First dates are a chance to get to know someone new, figure out if you want to see them again and, potentially, meet the love of your life. But apparently they can also be used to analyse whether or not the guy sitting opposite you is going to be great in bed.
A list of ways has been revealed to help you to work out if a man will give you an unforgettable night between the sheets - and all it takes is a little attention to detail...
HOW DOES HE TALK?
Everyone loves getting to know someone, but apparently chatting with a man doesn't just reveal your compatibility levels or a few key personality traits - it'll also showcase his sex style.
"If they talk in a monotone and change facial expressions once an hour, they're flat-lining. Low enthusiasm means they'll be boring in bed as well. The person who throws their arms in the air at dinner, nearly knocking over the waiter, is full of life and passion. If they can get that worked up out of the bedroom, just think what they'll be like in it!"
WHERE'S HE SITTING?
"Where they choose to sit when you're out for a drink or dinner is another giveaway. If they choose the seat facing you and the wall instead of the prime people-watching position, you're onto a winner."
Yup, having a man choose the seat which faces you, and only you, is a VERY good sign when it comes to predicting his bedroom style - and the reason, when you think about it, is pretty obvious.
The more their focus is entirely on you, the more they can remain in the moment when you're alone.
WHAT DOES HE ORDER FOR DINNER?
You read that correctly - apparently a man who's more adventurous with his food is set to be more adventurous in the bedroom too. Spicy and exotic foods are basically one of the easiest ways to guess if your guy will spice things up in the bedroom. If they're not into experimenting or trying exotic fare, they're hardly going to dish up the Kama Sutra behind closed doors."
WHAT'S HIS EATING STYLE?
They say the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but it seems as if his stomach is also the best way to figure out if he'll be a sizzler between the sheets. Watching your man tuck into his dinner is a surefire way to tell what he'll be like in bed - and it's apparently a case of bigger is better!
"Quite frankly, I'd put my money on the guy with love handles who tucks in with gusto, over the one with the six-pack who eats one steamed chicken breast every fortnight. A good appetite usually means they've got a lusty libido to match."
IS HE A TOUCHY-FEELY PERSON?
We're not talking over-the-top all-over-you, but a man who is comfortable with others invading his personal space is apparently more likely to be comfortable in the bedroom.
"Physical distance often translates to emotional and sexual distance. The more comfortable they are expressing affection, the more affectionate and loving they'll be during sex."
Look for arm touching, standing or sitting close to people, hugging friends hello (or goodbye) and other little indicators that he's happy showing his affection. Easy!
HOW DOES HE HOLD YOUR HAND?
Moved onto hand holding? Apparently the way he holds your hand in his is a very good way to indicate how he'll leave you feeling after a night of passion - and, unsurprisingly, it's all about the intertwining fingers.
"Intertwined fingers mean they're likely to be highly erotic: they're touching every part of your hand which expresses a desire to be connected physically and emotionally."
Sounds good to us! What about the less exciting hand-cupping action?
"The standard palm-to-palm clasp suggests affection and acceptance though it's unlikely they're going to surprise you sexually."
WHAT'S HIS KISSING STYLE?
As Cher said all those years ago, it really IS in his kiss! Only YOU can decide if he's got this one nailed - if he leaves you weak at the knees with a touch of his lips, you're more than likely to appreciate his skills between the sheets. If he leaves you recoiling in barely-disguised disgust, it really is best not to go there. Ever.
But there's a few other little things you can watch out for...
"Men who cup your face in their hands are romantic souls and usually intense, passionate lovers who want full, reciprocal focus."
"Getting a little carried away during your first kiss is a good sign; if there's a little groan or moan even better - who wants a lukewarm lover?"
Exactly - we'll be keeping an eye out for that when we're next locking lips with someone new........
First dates are a chance to get to know someone new, figure out if you want to see them again and, potentially, meet the love of your life. But apparently they can also be used to analyse whether or not the guy sitting opposite you is going to be great in bed.
A list of ways has been revealed to help you to work out if a man will give you an unforgettable night between the sheets - and all it takes is a little attention to detail...
HOW DOES HE TALK?
Everyone loves getting to know someone, but apparently chatting with a man doesn't just reveal your compatibility levels or a few key personality traits - it'll also showcase his sex style.
"If they talk in a monotone and change facial expressions once an hour, they're flat-lining. Low enthusiasm means they'll be boring in bed as well. The person who throws their arms in the air at dinner, nearly knocking over the waiter, is full of life and passion. If they can get that worked up out of the bedroom, just think what they'll be like in it!"
WHERE'S HE SITTING?
"Where they choose to sit when you're out for a drink or dinner is another giveaway. If they choose the seat facing you and the wall instead of the prime people-watching position, you're onto a winner."
Yup, having a man choose the seat which faces you, and only you, is a VERY good sign when it comes to predicting his bedroom style - and the reason, when you think about it, is pretty obvious.
The more their focus is entirely on you, the more they can remain in the moment when you're alone.
WHAT DOES HE ORDER FOR DINNER?
You read that correctly - apparently a man who's more adventurous with his food is set to be more adventurous in the bedroom too. Spicy and exotic foods are basically one of the easiest ways to guess if your guy will spice things up in the bedroom. If they're not into experimenting or trying exotic fare, they're hardly going to dish up the Kama Sutra behind closed doors."
WHAT'S HIS EATING STYLE?
They say the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but it seems as if his stomach is also the best way to figure out if he'll be a sizzler between the sheets. Watching your man tuck into his dinner is a surefire way to tell what he'll be like in bed - and it's apparently a case of bigger is better!
"Quite frankly, I'd put my money on the guy with love handles who tucks in with gusto, over the one with the six-pack who eats one steamed chicken breast every fortnight. A good appetite usually means they've got a lusty libido to match."
IS HE A TOUCHY-FEELY PERSON?
We're not talking over-the-top all-over-you, but a man who is comfortable with others invading his personal space is apparently more likely to be comfortable in the bedroom.
"Physical distance often translates to emotional and sexual distance. The more comfortable they are expressing affection, the more affectionate and loving they'll be during sex."
Look for arm touching, standing or sitting close to people, hugging friends hello (or goodbye) and other little indicators that he's happy showing his affection. Easy!
HOW DOES HE HOLD YOUR HAND?
Moved onto hand holding? Apparently the way he holds your hand in his is a very good way to indicate how he'll leave you feeling after a night of passion - and, unsurprisingly, it's all about the intertwining fingers.
"Intertwined fingers mean they're likely to be highly erotic: they're touching every part of your hand which expresses a desire to be connected physically and emotionally."
Sounds good to us! What about the less exciting hand-cupping action?
"The standard palm-to-palm clasp suggests affection and acceptance though it's unlikely they're going to surprise you sexually."
WHAT'S HIS KISSING STYLE?
As Cher said all those years ago, it really IS in his kiss! Only YOU can decide if he's got this one nailed - if he leaves you weak at the knees with a touch of his lips, you're more than likely to appreciate his skills between the sheets. If he leaves you recoiling in barely-disguised disgust, it really is best not to go there. Ever.
But there's a few other little things you can watch out for...
"Men who cup your face in their hands are romantic souls and usually intense, passionate lovers who want full, reciprocal focus."
"Getting a little carried away during your first kiss is a good sign; if there's a little groan or moan even better - who wants a lukewarm lover?"
Exactly - we'll be keeping an eye out for that when we're next locking lips with someone new........
Thursday 25 April 2013
Nigerian Girl Attempts To Kill Herself Because She Prefers To Die In Uk Than Come Back Home
Photos: Nigerian Girl Attempts To Kill Herself Because She Prefers To Die In Uk Than Come Back Home
Note: Thank God I have access to my blog now. It was hacked by people i don't know. But God being God, He got it back for me. Thank you all for the messages, never knew we were this loved. The Lord won't take away your joy from you, Amen.
‘I am deeply sorry that I had to go this way, without even saying goodbye.
‘The UK immigration has finally driven me insane. They’ve pushed me too far this time and I can’t take the pain any more.
‘I don’t want a life or a future you won’t be part of. I love you so much, more than life itself and can’t endure the agony of not being with you.
‘Please forgive me for ending it this way. It’s better to die with my dignity than be subjected to torture and undignified death back in Nigeria.’
She said: ‘If they send me back to Nigeria they are signing my death warrant, they will cut my life short because I will be killed.
‘I have found peace with Michael, he gave me a reason to live. I have got a family here and we don’t claim any benefits.
‘Michael works and I am studying to become a barrister, we have not harmed anybody.’
May Brown is currently in a coma after attempting suicide. May who is a student of public affairs at Weymouth College moved to the UK three years ago.
She met her husband Michael Brown a year ago and they got married in December 2012. She applied for asylum in the UK. However, her request was denied. According to the UK Daily Mail – “Mr Brown, 34, said UK Border Agency officials believe their marriage to be a ‘sham’ with no ‘emotional attachment’.”
While May was due to be deported tomorrow, her husband and mother in-law insist that their marriage is real.
She was so distressed at the prospect of returning to her home country she took an overdose of medication.
In the report on May’s ordeal via the Daily Mail, her mother in-law outlined reasons why May did not want to return to Nigeria.
Helen-Claire Brown, Ms Brown’s mother-in-law, said the 19-year-old is part of the family and blasted border officials as ‘heartless'
Click Dailymail to read more
Wednesday 24 April 2013
25 Year Old DJ Shot Dead In Surulere
According to eyewitnesses, the assassination was carried out at about 2pm while George was with friends under a tree, popularly known as Abe Igi.
It was learnt that just before his murder, George reportedly answered a phone call, and the caller requested to know where he was. George answered that he was at Abe Igi.
George’s father, Mr. Gbolahan George, said, “I was told that the assassins were four and were in Keke Maruwa (tricycle). They parked at the entrance of the street; two got down and walked to where Olamide was sitting with his friends. The one with the gun did not know him, so the other person who accompanied him pointed at Olamide.
“Immediately Olamide was identified, he was shot in the head and the chest.”
“I was called around 2:30pm and was told that my son’s body was at the morgue in Lagos University Teaching Hospital. He was declared dead on arrival at the hospital. I reported the case at Area C Police Command.”
Gbolahan George said his son was not of a dubious character.
“He is a DJ, and not a scammer. And he is very gentle and pleasant. He wanted to write JAMB and get into Lagos State University.
“Olamide was also about to wed his girlfriend, Yetunde Adeyeri, who is five months pregnant before his untimely death. And that was why I gave him N500,000 to rent a one-room self-contained apartment at Apapa Road.”
Our correspondent saw family members cleaning blood stains from Olamide’s Golf Volkswagen car with number plate, LND 879 AG.
The Chairman of CDA, Bank Olemoh Street, Mr. Wilson Ojei, said, “I know Lamide as an easy young man trying to survive. Nobody had any complaints about him except for the occasional youthful exuberance, which is common among other young men in the community. From indications, the attack was not from within the community; the assassins were outsiders.
“We have been instructed by the police to cut the tree at Abe Igi.”
The police spokesperson, Lagos State, Ms. Ngozi Braide confirmed the incident. She said, “The case was reported to Area C Police Command. We are investigating the killing and I can assure you that reasonable arrest has been made.”
Culled from Punch
Tuesday 23 April 2013
How To Give Men Great Head...
Be In A Comfortable Position
Just like penetrative sex, there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a BJ to your guy. You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.
Let’s say that you choose the last positi
on. What you can do here is kneel in between his legs so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’. Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.
Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him
It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not. The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.
Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers
As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft. Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth.
Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction. Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!
Tips:
Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even swallow one of his balls into your mouth if you want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience for him.
#Warnings#
The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips...!!!
Just like penetrative sex, there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a BJ to your guy. You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.
Let’s say that you choose the last positi
on. What you can do here is kneel in between his legs so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’. Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.
Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him
It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not. The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.
Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers
As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft. Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth.
Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction. Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!
Tips:
Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even swallow one of his balls into your mouth if you want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience for him.
#Warnings#
The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips...!!!
Fun Places To Have Great Sex. PT2
The continuation of fun places to make sex exciting for you and your partner:
21. In a hot tub.
22. On the deck of a yacht during a full moon.
23. Under a rainbow.
24. On a trampoline.
25. On top of a hill.
26. In the middle of nowhere.
27. In the car during heavy traffic.
28. In the car on the side of a deserted road.
29. In a hotel.
30. In a state park.
31. On a waterbed.
32. On the loft in a barn full of hay.
33. In a field full of wildflowers.
34. On a rooftop.
35. In an open field at night.
36. By a waterfall with the water misting all around you.
37. Under a waterfall.
38. In your partner's bed.
39. In the garage.
40. On a jungle gym at night.
To be cont.
21. In a hot tub.
22. On the deck of a yacht during a full moon.
23. Under a rainbow.
24. On a trampoline.
25. On top of a hill.
26. In the middle of nowhere.
27. In the car during heavy traffic.
28. In the car on the side of a deserted road.
29. In a hotel.
30. In a state park.
31. On a waterbed.
32. On the loft in a barn full of hay.
33. In a field full of wildflowers.
34. On a rooftop.
35. In an open field at night.
36. By a waterfall with the water misting all around you.
37. Under a waterfall.
38. In your partner's bed.
39. In the garage.
40. On a jungle gym at night.
To be cont.
Fun Places To Have Great Sex. PT1
Has your love life stalled? Are you looking to spice up your sex life? What about new positions, situations or places? If you and your partner are looking for something exciting, check out this collection of ideas for places to have sex.
From romantic and sensual to sexually liberating, this list of places to have sex has something that will excite you and your partner.
1. On your back porch.
2. Inside an unknown rocky cave or limestone cave.
3. In the weight room at your gym.
4. In your not-yet-finished new build house.
5. On the hood of your car on a deserted gravel road.
6. On a pool table.
7. On top of the washer... while it's running.
8. On a secluded island beach.
9. In the backyard under the stars.
10. In the woods after it rains.
11. On a parked motorcycle.
12. In a public restroom.
13. In an airplane restroom -- join the mile high club!
14. On a train in the middle of the night.
15. In bed with silk or satin sheets.
16. In bed with rose petals all over.
17. On the beach at night.
18. In your lover's childhood room while their parents are home.
19. Outside in the rain.
20. In a bounce house.
From romantic and sensual to sexually liberating, this list of places to have sex has something that will excite you and your partner.
1. On your back porch.
2. Inside an unknown rocky cave or limestone cave.
3. In the weight room at your gym.
4. In your not-yet-finished new build house.
5. On the hood of your car on a deserted gravel road.
6. On a pool table.
7. On top of the washer... while it's running.
8. On a secluded island beach.
9. In the backyard under the stars.
10. In the woods after it rains.
11. On a parked motorcycle.
12. In a public restroom.
13. In an airplane restroom -- join the mile high club!
14. On a train in the middle of the night.
15. In bed with silk or satin sheets.
16. In bed with rose petals all over.
17. On the beach at night.
18. In your lover's childhood room while their parents are home.
19. Outside in the rain.
20. In a bounce house.
Understanding The Clitoris
Clitoris secrets reveal the essential facts about the holy grail of female sexual pleasure. Located at the top of a woman's vulva, the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female genitals. It's a small, pea-sized organ, covered by a protective hood of skin. When the tip is stimulated, it engorges and becomes erect.
Did you Know?
1. The word 'clitoris' derives from the Greek language and means 'little hill.'
2. The clitoris and the penis are equivalent, gender-adapted equals. The clitoris is made of the same erectile tissue as a penis, has a penis-like shaft, and a tiny glans with its own foreskin.
3. The average clitoris is just about as big as a flaccid penis, since it has a much bigger section buried in the pelvis.
4. One of the most fascinating clitoris secrets is that it has twice the number of nerve endings as its male counterparts.
5. The clitoris plays a pivotal role in a woman's ability to orgasm. While many women fail to orgasm through intercourse, few fail to climax through stimulation of the clitoris.
6. It's the clitoris one should be addressing if one wants the same rapid response from a woman as from a man. Most women climax easily, quickly and without stress from clitoral stimulation with a vibrator.
7. The clitoris starts retracting when an orgasm is about to happen.
8. A clitoral orgasm generally lasts longer than the best of male orgasms.
9. The clitoris is the only sexual organ without a reproductive function.
10. The clitoris is the only human organ designed purely for pleasure.
Armed with these clitoris secrets, head straight for the bedroom for a night to remember!
Did you Know?
1. The word 'clitoris' derives from the Greek language and means 'little hill.'
2. The clitoris and the penis are equivalent, gender-adapted equals. The clitoris is made of the same erectile tissue as a penis, has a penis-like shaft, and a tiny glans with its own foreskin.
3. The average clitoris is just about as big as a flaccid penis, since it has a much bigger section buried in the pelvis.
4. One of the most fascinating clitoris secrets is that it has twice the number of nerve endings as its male counterparts.
5. The clitoris plays a pivotal role in a woman's ability to orgasm. While many women fail to orgasm through intercourse, few fail to climax through stimulation of the clitoris.
6. It's the clitoris one should be addressing if one wants the same rapid response from a woman as from a man. Most women climax easily, quickly and without stress from clitoral stimulation with a vibrator.
7. The clitoris starts retracting when an orgasm is about to happen.
8. A clitoral orgasm generally lasts longer than the best of male orgasms.
9. The clitoris is the only sexual organ without a reproductive function.
10. The clitoris is the only human organ designed purely for pleasure.
Armed with these clitoris secrets, head straight for the bedroom for a night to remember!
Wednesday 17 April 2013
World's Hottest Transgender
Tuesday 16 April 2013
World's Most Expensive iPhone 5 Cost $15.3 Million
Have $15.3 million lying around? Then you could become the owner of the world'smost expensive iPhone 5.
Created by United Kingdom-based designer Stuart Hughes, the £10 million (about $15.3 million) iPhone is coated in solid gold and features both black and white diamonds.
Hughes, who is known for crafting incredibly pricey luxury tech products, created the design at the behest of a Chinese businessman. According to CNN, Hughes said the businessman owned a rare 26-carat black diamond that had been passed down from one generation of his family to the next and wanted to include it in the iPhone design.
On his website, Hughes details the features of the black diamond iPhone 5, which includes an inlay of 600 white diamonds, a solid gold Apple logo surrounded by 53 white diamonds, 135 grams of 24-carat gold and sapphire glass for the screen. As for the black diamond, the stone replaced the iPhone's home button. Overall, the design took nine weeks to create.
Previously, Hughes created an iPhone 4S Elite Gold phone priced at £6 million (about $9.18 million) that once held the title of world's most expensive phone. However, with his latest creation, Hughes has broken the record yet again.
What do you think of the $15.3 million iPhone 5? Is it worth it?
Created by United Kingdom-based designer Stuart Hughes, the £10 million (about $15.3 million) iPhone is coated in solid gold and features both black and white diamonds.
Hughes, who is known for crafting incredibly pricey luxury tech products, created the design at the behest of a Chinese businessman. According to CNN, Hughes said the businessman owned a rare 26-carat black diamond that had been passed down from one generation of his family to the next and wanted to include it in the iPhone design.
On his website, Hughes details the features of the black diamond iPhone 5, which includes an inlay of 600 white diamonds, a solid gold Apple logo surrounded by 53 white diamonds, 135 grams of 24-carat gold and sapphire glass for the screen. As for the black diamond, the stone replaced the iPhone's home button. Overall, the design took nine weeks to create.
Previously, Hughes created an iPhone 4S Elite Gold phone priced at £6 million (about $9.18 million) that once held the title of world's most expensive phone. However, with his latest creation, Hughes has broken the record yet again.
What do you think of the $15.3 million iPhone 5? Is it worth it?
Man Who Was A Woman To Marry Woman Who Was A Man
Helen Morfitt, 56, started life as Leslie, and is due to marry Felix Laws, 46, formerly Katy, in September.
Between them, the couple has already been married four times, and Helen has eight children and Felix two from their previous relationships.
They will officially change their gender on their birth certificates, allowing them to get married, with a date set for 13 September, the date both had their sex change operations, albeit seven years apart. Click to read more and see their past photos.
Helen told the Daily Mirror: "We've been through a lot over the years and had tough times transitioning from one sex to another, but we've now found each other and that's all that matters.
"I've been married three times before but this time I know it's for real because I know I'm the right sex this time."
Felix added: "We're just like any other couple - including in the bedroom. Neither of us has any complaints on that score."
The couple met in 2008, when Felix visited a doctor about the possibility of having a sex change operation. The doctor referred him to a transgender support group run by Helen.
"As a child my friends were playing with dolls and prams but I wanted to climb trees, play football and get muddy," said Felix.
"Even sitting down to go to the toilet felt wrong. But it was the 1970s and you didn't have those kind of thoughts back then."
He got married as Katy at 21 and soon had two children.
Source : ibtimes.co.uk
Monday 15 April 2013
Stop Stalking His Facebook Page, Start Talking!
Do you check your partner's Facebook page at least once a day? You might be a stalker. When your partner says or does things that trigger your jealousy, it feels like you can't help but stalk them.
Improve your relationship by following this steps.
1. Talk with yourself first. As you feel that impulse to stalk, notice what you're doing and stop. Don't take any action until you have a talk with yourself first. Your self-talk might go something like this, "Hey, I really really want to click on over to Facebook and check my boyfriend's page. His class reunion was last weekend, and I'm worried that he's re-connected with his old girlfriend."
Take a deep breath and continue by saying to yourself, "Okay, is this going to make my jealousy go away? I don't think so. Will it help me feel close to my boyfriend? No. So, instead I'm going to go for a run, and then I'll text my boyfriend and invite him to meet me for a late dinner together."
You can literally talk yourself out of being driven by jealousy. Slow down and remind yourself to consider the consequences of stalking before deciding whether or not to go ahead and do what you were compelled to do.
2. Talk with your partner. Are there times when you've got good reason to check up on what your partner says? Definitely! It's never wise to ignore warning signs that indicate your partner might be lying to you or hiding something. Stick with observable facts, and, in some cases, this might involve doing the very same things that constitute stalking.
The most important thing is for you to know when your jealousy is taking over your decision-making and when clear-seeing is leading the way. For many people, jealous impulses are fear-driven and not linked to facts. Clear-seeing comes with a sense of certainty, even if you don't like what you're being pulled to say or do.
When you have reliable proof that your partner is flirting, lying, breaking promises or disrespecting you, communicate with him/her about it. Have a talk where you set boundaries and create agreements to address whatever is going on. If you find out that your partner is having an affair, decide whether or not you'll stay in the relationship. Second chances can lead to success, but only if both of you are willing to work together to rebuild trust.
Improve your relationship by following this steps.
1. Talk with yourself first. As you feel that impulse to stalk, notice what you're doing and stop. Don't take any action until you have a talk with yourself first. Your self-talk might go something like this, "Hey, I really really want to click on over to Facebook and check my boyfriend's page. His class reunion was last weekend, and I'm worried that he's re-connected with his old girlfriend."
Take a deep breath and continue by saying to yourself, "Okay, is this going to make my jealousy go away? I don't think so. Will it help me feel close to my boyfriend? No. So, instead I'm going to go for a run, and then I'll text my boyfriend and invite him to meet me for a late dinner together."
You can literally talk yourself out of being driven by jealousy. Slow down and remind yourself to consider the consequences of stalking before deciding whether or not to go ahead and do what you were compelled to do.
2. Talk with your partner. Are there times when you've got good reason to check up on what your partner says? Definitely! It's never wise to ignore warning signs that indicate your partner might be lying to you or hiding something. Stick with observable facts, and, in some cases, this might involve doing the very same things that constitute stalking.
The most important thing is for you to know when your jealousy is taking over your decision-making and when clear-seeing is leading the way. For many people, jealous impulses are fear-driven and not linked to facts. Clear-seeing comes with a sense of certainty, even if you don't like what you're being pulled to say or do.
When you have reliable proof that your partner is flirting, lying, breaking promises or disrespecting you, communicate with him/her about it. Have a talk where you set boundaries and create agreements to address whatever is going on. If you find out that your partner is having an affair, decide whether or not you'll stay in the relationship. Second chances can lead to success, but only if both of you are willing to work together to rebuild trust.
The Rule Couples Should Practice In Bed
You hear so much about the Golden Rule -- "Do unto others [including your partner] as you'd like done to you," but there's a higher standard and a more valuable rule for your relationship. It's called the Platinum Rule.
So, here it is: "Do unto your partner as they want done to them!"
That's right, it's so easy to forget that your partner doesn't think exactly like you do nor does he like the same things you do. Ask yourself: are you giving your partner what you desire, not necessarily what he or she wants? The blessing, sometimes experienced as the curse, of relationships is that your partner is not you!
So many couples default too quickly into believing they know exactly what their partner is thinking and feeling. The reality is, you may just be guessing! You can't truly know if you don't ask and receive an honest response in return, despite all of the historical evidence you've mounted to support your case. This mindset forecloses on your curiosity to truly know your partner.
It's not always easy to figure out what the other person wants. When you first meet someone, it's natural to spontaneously explore to find out each other's turn-ons. Most couples, however, sooner or later find themselves following a limited sexual script.
Don't limit yourself.
There is incredible value (read: so much more pleasure to be had) with novelty and trying new things. In the bonds of your relationship, you have the trust and freedom to explore the vast realm of your sexual expressions and possibilities. Hey, your partner not only has your back, they have and desire all of you!
Here are three ways to expand your pleasure as a couple:
1. Ask your partner: What are the top five ways you like to be touched? If they don't know or list fewer than five, then explore together to help them find out! The biggest sex organ is your mind, and the biggest organ is your skin. Move beyond just genital pleasure to find new fun ways to turn each other on. Don't overlook simple skin-to-skin contact such as massage, showering together, holding hands, snuggling, cuddling, spooning, or stroking.
2. Each of you writes a list of your top three fantasies. Exchange lists and rank the fantasies from one to three, in the order that you think your partner would rank them. Were you right? Make a plan to do your partner's #1 - or scrap the plan and do it now! As you'll find out, sharing and discussing fantasies is a greatly erotic practice in of itself.
3. Practice a week of alternating "favorites" where you honor your favorites together one day and then play to your partner's favorites the next. Which one of you goes first? The one who answers the most questions correctly from the list below!
1. Favorite food
2. Favorite activity
3. Favorite sex move
4. Favorite song of the moment
5. Favorite smell
6. Favorite trip
7. Favorite couple memory
With an open mind, curiosity and the dedication to giving your partner what he or she truly wants, the possibilities for pleasure in your relationship are limitless.
So, here it is: "Do unto your partner as they want done to them!"
That's right, it's so easy to forget that your partner doesn't think exactly like you do nor does he like the same things you do. Ask yourself: are you giving your partner what you desire, not necessarily what he or she wants? The blessing, sometimes experienced as the curse, of relationships is that your partner is not you!
So many couples default too quickly into believing they know exactly what their partner is thinking and feeling. The reality is, you may just be guessing! You can't truly know if you don't ask and receive an honest response in return, despite all of the historical evidence you've mounted to support your case. This mindset forecloses on your curiosity to truly know your partner.
It's not always easy to figure out what the other person wants. When you first meet someone, it's natural to spontaneously explore to find out each other's turn-ons. Most couples, however, sooner or later find themselves following a limited sexual script.
Don't limit yourself.
There is incredible value (read: so much more pleasure to be had) with novelty and trying new things. In the bonds of your relationship, you have the trust and freedom to explore the vast realm of your sexual expressions and possibilities. Hey, your partner not only has your back, they have and desire all of you!
Here are three ways to expand your pleasure as a couple:
1. Ask your partner: What are the top five ways you like to be touched? If they don't know or list fewer than five, then explore together to help them find out! The biggest sex organ is your mind, and the biggest organ is your skin. Move beyond just genital pleasure to find new fun ways to turn each other on. Don't overlook simple skin-to-skin contact such as massage, showering together, holding hands, snuggling, cuddling, spooning, or stroking.
2. Each of you writes a list of your top three fantasies. Exchange lists and rank the fantasies from one to three, in the order that you think your partner would rank them. Were you right? Make a plan to do your partner's #1 - or scrap the plan and do it now! As you'll find out, sharing and discussing fantasies is a greatly erotic practice in of itself.
3. Practice a week of alternating "favorites" where you honor your favorites together one day and then play to your partner's favorites the next. Which one of you goes first? The one who answers the most questions correctly from the list below!
1. Favorite food
2. Favorite activity
3. Favorite sex move
4. Favorite song of the moment
5. Favorite smell
6. Favorite trip
7. Favorite couple memory
With an open mind, curiosity and the dedication to giving your partner what he or she truly wants, the possibilities for pleasure in your relationship are limitless.
10 Signs He's Husband Material
Choosing whether or not to spend the rest of your life with a guy is a pretty weighty decision, on par with other scary decisions like whether you should eventually be responsible for the well-being of another human. It's life-changing.
So, how do you know if your beau is husband material? How can you ever really know that he's going to be the type of guy you can count on when push comes to shove? The type who will still wine you and dine you after you've been together for five trillion years? The type whose happiness will always be crucial to your own (and vice versa)?
So, without further ado, here are 15 random signs this one's a keeper:
1. He indulges your guilty pleasures. A guy who's husband material comes home from a long day at work, bypasses his man cave, ambles on over to you instead and up-ends his backpack to drop five bars of your favourite chocolate onto the table -- and he doesn't even like chocolate.
2. He brags about you to anyone who will listen. A guy who's husband material talks you up to his friends, family, his hairdresser, the elderly woman who lives next door and is always concerned about whether he's "met a nice girl yet"... even (gulp) his mom. Because he thinks you're talented and amazing and gorgeous, and everyone should know.
3. He likes your brand of crazy. A guy who's husband material sticks around, even when you're totally irrational or downright bitchy. He recognizes that he can be a pain in the butt, too. Because you get each other.
4. He accompanies you on weekly visits to where your grandparents live. He engages in enthusiastic conversation with them, even though he's already heard every story they've ever told approximately 5,238 times since you first started seeing each other.
5. He fights fair. A guy who's husband material takes a step back and becomes the voice of reason in the midst of your most volatile arguments.
6. He always remembers to do that thing you love in bed. You know, the thing. The one that curls your toes. Because even though he often forgets that it takes more than a quick nipple squeeze to put you in the mood, he truly does want you to have as much fun as he's having. And he's having a lot of fun.
7. He is not a jealous man. A guy who's husband material inherently understands that you don't suddenly become blind to the attractiveness of others just because you're in a committed relationship. He trusts you. Now there's a concept!
8. He understands that the healthiest couples are not attached at the hip. Rather, the healthiest couples live their own lives, having experiences they can then share with each other the next time they're together. As a result, your relationship does not implode just because he wants to go away on a weekend trip with his coworkers, or because you don't always invite him out to the weekly meetings with your college friends.
9. He writes a song about you. A guy who's husband material pens a song about how you're a bit of a loner, but "loner and lover are just a letter apart." And then he performs it at his next gig. And though a part of you feels as if you're living a scene from one of those cheesy, formulaic rom-coms, another part of you notices that your heart seems to be swelling in your chest, until you almost can't even breathe.
10. You just know it. Sometimes, even when you're frustrated with him, you remember just one of these things and are suddenly overcome by a massive, overwhelming wave of love. When he's husband material, you just know it.
So, how do you know if your beau is husband material? How can you ever really know that he's going to be the type of guy you can count on when push comes to shove? The type who will still wine you and dine you after you've been together for five trillion years? The type whose happiness will always be crucial to your own (and vice versa)?
So, without further ado, here are 15 random signs this one's a keeper:
1. He indulges your guilty pleasures. A guy who's husband material comes home from a long day at work, bypasses his man cave, ambles on over to you instead and up-ends his backpack to drop five bars of your favourite chocolate onto the table -- and he doesn't even like chocolate.
2. He brags about you to anyone who will listen. A guy who's husband material talks you up to his friends, family, his hairdresser, the elderly woman who lives next door and is always concerned about whether he's "met a nice girl yet"... even (gulp) his mom. Because he thinks you're talented and amazing and gorgeous, and everyone should know.
3. He likes your brand of crazy. A guy who's husband material sticks around, even when you're totally irrational or downright bitchy. He recognizes that he can be a pain in the butt, too. Because you get each other.
4. He accompanies you on weekly visits to where your grandparents live. He engages in enthusiastic conversation with them, even though he's already heard every story they've ever told approximately 5,238 times since you first started seeing each other.
5. He fights fair. A guy who's husband material takes a step back and becomes the voice of reason in the midst of your most volatile arguments.
6. He always remembers to do that thing you love in bed. You know, the thing. The one that curls your toes. Because even though he often forgets that it takes more than a quick nipple squeeze to put you in the mood, he truly does want you to have as much fun as he's having. And he's having a lot of fun.
7. He is not a jealous man. A guy who's husband material inherently understands that you don't suddenly become blind to the attractiveness of others just because you're in a committed relationship. He trusts you. Now there's a concept!
8. He understands that the healthiest couples are not attached at the hip. Rather, the healthiest couples live their own lives, having experiences they can then share with each other the next time they're together. As a result, your relationship does not implode just because he wants to go away on a weekend trip with his coworkers, or because you don't always invite him out to the weekly meetings with your college friends.
9. He writes a song about you. A guy who's husband material pens a song about how you're a bit of a loner, but "loner and lover are just a letter apart." And then he performs it at his next gig. And though a part of you feels as if you're living a scene from one of those cheesy, formulaic rom-coms, another part of you notices that your heart seems to be swelling in your chest, until you almost can't even breathe.
10. You just know it. Sometimes, even when you're frustrated with him, you remember just one of these things and are suddenly overcome by a massive, overwhelming wave of love. When he's husband material, you just know it.
Do's & Don'ts When Another Woman Hits On Your Man
"Can you believe she just did that?!"
Funke is outraged. She and her boyfriend are out dancing with a group of friends. She notices another woman checking out her guy - even though he's obviously with Funke. At one point, the woman grabs Funke's boyfriend and starts dancing with him. He is embarrassed but plays along and dances for a few minutes with her.
Later, Funke is mad at her boyfriend for continuing to dance with the other woman. She feels like he could have pushed her away or made a clearer statement that he's in a relationship. The rest of the evening is ruined. Funke is continuously on the lookout for the woman who was so forward with her boyfriend. She worries that there's more going on than she knows...
When it seems like another woman is flirting with or coming on to your man, things can get ugly and fast. Your jealousy gets triggered, and you begin to question what you think you know about your partner and your relationship. Is he really the victim of unwanted advances or is something else happening?
It doesn't matter if you and your partner are at a bar, party, office event, out dancing or walking through your neighborhood. The two of you are enjoying one another's company when - out of nowhere - another woman barges in. She runs up and hugs your guy or she rubs his shoulders and strokes his arm as she talks to him (and ignores you). Maybe she isn't physically there, but has been texting him throughout the evening.
Your glares and "ahem's" don't seem to be getting through, and you feel jealous. It's starting to seem that this other woman is trying to break you and your partner up!
Let's be clear here. It's not just other women who hit on men already in committed relationships. This opposite happens too. If you're a heterosexual man in a monogamous relationship, it's just as likely that another guy might try to pick up your woman. How you respond to someone else hitting on your partner can mean the difference between renewed trust and connection or more tension and distance in your relationship. Here are four do's and don'ts to remember.
1. Don't confront the flirt. It is really tempting to let the other woman (or man) know that you don't appreciate and will not allow this. Your first impulse may be to seek out the "tempter" or "temptress" and make it clear that your partner is taken! While this is understandable, it's probably going to cause bigger troubles in your relationship. Here's why...
You risk escalating the tension and conflict with the other person and in your relationship too; and You insert even more distance between you and your partner and miss an opportunity for healthy communication.
2. Don't accuse. Pause, calm down and really think about it before you accuse your partner of breaking trust, betraying you or acting inappropriately. When you blame your partner without proof to back it up, you're only going to drive him or her further away from you. Jealousy can bring accusations to your lips, so stay aware and really think before you talk about it. Accusations instantly put your partner on the defensive and are often inaccurate or don't reflect the whole picture. So, unless you have verifiable and tangible proof that your partner broke trust, stop yourself before you make an accusation.
3. Do remember the facts. Get clear about the facts as you know them before you try to talk with your partner about what happened. When looking at facts, double check what you think you know and rely on information that is trustworthy. How many texts did your partner and the other woman exchange? Was there a valid reason for the exchange? What exactly did your partner say and do when the other woman hugged him? Don't get side-tracked by what the other person said or did. Pay closest attention to facts about how your partner responded to being hit on.
4. Do create clear agreements. Conscious and specific agreements can positively transform your jealousy and a difficult situation. With an agreement in place, the next time someone seems to be hitting on your partner, you two will have a plan for how to de-fuse the situation and return to enjoying being together. If your partner dismisses the flirting (or whatever is going on) as "no big deal" and refuses to create an agreement with you, remain calm and stay focused on the facts. Arguing about this isn't going to solve the problem or bring you ease.
Instead, shift your request to concrete ways you two can keep your connection strong. This might be an agreement to periodically check in with each other at a party by making eye contact or to text one another at lunch. You can also choose to set a boundary to make clear what you believe is appropriate and what is not. If your partner crosses that boundary, your decision then might be whether or not you will stay in the relationship.
Funke is outraged. She and her boyfriend are out dancing with a group of friends. She notices another woman checking out her guy - even though he's obviously with Funke. At one point, the woman grabs Funke's boyfriend and starts dancing with him. He is embarrassed but plays along and dances for a few minutes with her.
Later, Funke is mad at her boyfriend for continuing to dance with the other woman. She feels like he could have pushed her away or made a clearer statement that he's in a relationship. The rest of the evening is ruined. Funke is continuously on the lookout for the woman who was so forward with her boyfriend. She worries that there's more going on than she knows...
When it seems like another woman is flirting with or coming on to your man, things can get ugly and fast. Your jealousy gets triggered, and you begin to question what you think you know about your partner and your relationship. Is he really the victim of unwanted advances or is something else happening?
It doesn't matter if you and your partner are at a bar, party, office event, out dancing or walking through your neighborhood. The two of you are enjoying one another's company when - out of nowhere - another woman barges in. She runs up and hugs your guy or she rubs his shoulders and strokes his arm as she talks to him (and ignores you). Maybe she isn't physically there, but has been texting him throughout the evening.
Your glares and "ahem's" don't seem to be getting through, and you feel jealous. It's starting to seem that this other woman is trying to break you and your partner up!
Let's be clear here. It's not just other women who hit on men already in committed relationships. This opposite happens too. If you're a heterosexual man in a monogamous relationship, it's just as likely that another guy might try to pick up your woman. How you respond to someone else hitting on your partner can mean the difference between renewed trust and connection or more tension and distance in your relationship. Here are four do's and don'ts to remember.
1. Don't confront the flirt. It is really tempting to let the other woman (or man) know that you don't appreciate and will not allow this. Your first impulse may be to seek out the "tempter" or "temptress" and make it clear that your partner is taken! While this is understandable, it's probably going to cause bigger troubles in your relationship. Here's why...
You risk escalating the tension and conflict with the other person and in your relationship too; and You insert even more distance between you and your partner and miss an opportunity for healthy communication.
2. Don't accuse. Pause, calm down and really think about it before you accuse your partner of breaking trust, betraying you or acting inappropriately. When you blame your partner without proof to back it up, you're only going to drive him or her further away from you. Jealousy can bring accusations to your lips, so stay aware and really think before you talk about it. Accusations instantly put your partner on the defensive and are often inaccurate or don't reflect the whole picture. So, unless you have verifiable and tangible proof that your partner broke trust, stop yourself before you make an accusation.
3. Do remember the facts. Get clear about the facts as you know them before you try to talk with your partner about what happened. When looking at facts, double check what you think you know and rely on information that is trustworthy. How many texts did your partner and the other woman exchange? Was there a valid reason for the exchange? What exactly did your partner say and do when the other woman hugged him? Don't get side-tracked by what the other person said or did. Pay closest attention to facts about how your partner responded to being hit on.
4. Do create clear agreements. Conscious and specific agreements can positively transform your jealousy and a difficult situation. With an agreement in place, the next time someone seems to be hitting on your partner, you two will have a plan for how to de-fuse the situation and return to enjoying being together. If your partner dismisses the flirting (or whatever is going on) as "no big deal" and refuses to create an agreement with you, remain calm and stay focused on the facts. Arguing about this isn't going to solve the problem or bring you ease.
Instead, shift your request to concrete ways you two can keep your connection strong. This might be an agreement to periodically check in with each other at a party by making eye contact or to text one another at lunch. You can also choose to set a boundary to make clear what you believe is appropriate and what is not. If your partner crosses that boundary, your decision then might be whether or not you will stay in the relationship.
7 Signs She's About to Break Up With You
Are you afraid that the special girl in your life is about to call it quits? Here are a few warning signs you should look out for.
1. She Doesn't Make Future Plans
Planning ahead is a major factor that shows that a relationship is serious. Women in love usually can't resist discussing the future. They want to talk about marriage and kids and everything connected to that. If your girl suddenly stops talking about a future with you, then it's time to be worried.
2. She Avoids Your Family & Friends
A girlfriend that wants to be a permanent feature in your life will make an effort to get close to your family and your friends. If she starts avoiding your family and friends and dodging your family engagements then it's very likely that she no longer wants to be a part of your life.
3. She Doesn't Confide In You
If your girlfriend begins to tell everyone else but you her problems, then you have a serious problem of your own. A girlfriend who's still interested in being with you will highlight your importance in her life by sharing her sorrows and her joys with you.
4. She Doesn't Argue With You
It's virtually impossible to find any human relationship with absolutely no conflict. If your girlfriend no longer argues with you, it simply means she has chosen not to bother herself with you anymore because she's planning to leave you and she's decided that you're someone else's problem, not hers.
5. She's Never Available
If your girl used to answer your calls before the first ring even finished and now you can barely ever reach her, that is a sign that she may want to break up. If she also never wants to hang out with you anymore, it's very likely that she's planning to leave you.
6. She Never Calls You
If the girl who used to enjoy talking to you for hours on end suddenly stops calling, it's a sure sign that the end has come.
7. She Cries For No Reason
If your girlfriend is always crying for no apparent reason, it may be a sign that she's unhappy with you and she's already planning to leave. Most girls break up with a man about 10 times in their minds before they eventually do it in the physical. Her tears might be her way of grieving over your already dead relationship.
1. She Doesn't Make Future Plans
Planning ahead is a major factor that shows that a relationship is serious. Women in love usually can't resist discussing the future. They want to talk about marriage and kids and everything connected to that. If your girl suddenly stops talking about a future with you, then it's time to be worried.
2. She Avoids Your Family & Friends
A girlfriend that wants to be a permanent feature in your life will make an effort to get close to your family and your friends. If she starts avoiding your family and friends and dodging your family engagements then it's very likely that she no longer wants to be a part of your life.
3. She Doesn't Confide In You
If your girlfriend begins to tell everyone else but you her problems, then you have a serious problem of your own. A girlfriend who's still interested in being with you will highlight your importance in her life by sharing her sorrows and her joys with you.
4. She Doesn't Argue With You
It's virtually impossible to find any human relationship with absolutely no conflict. If your girlfriend no longer argues with you, it simply means she has chosen not to bother herself with you anymore because she's planning to leave you and she's decided that you're someone else's problem, not hers.
5. She's Never Available
If your girl used to answer your calls before the first ring even finished and now you can barely ever reach her, that is a sign that she may want to break up. If she also never wants to hang out with you anymore, it's very likely that she's planning to leave you.
6. She Never Calls You
If the girl who used to enjoy talking to you for hours on end suddenly stops calling, it's a sure sign that the end has come.
7. She Cries For No Reason
If your girlfriend is always crying for no apparent reason, it may be a sign that she's unhappy with you and she's already planning to leave. Most girls break up with a man about 10 times in their minds before they eventually do it in the physical. Her tears might be her way of grieving over your already dead relationship.
Saturday 13 April 2013
Kindergarten Teacher Quits Job To Become A Full Time Stripper
Chris Rock once said that a father's primary responsibility is to keep his daughter "off the pole."
But Emma Nicholson, 36, would likely disagree.
The former primary school teacher from Hull, England resigned nine weeks ago to focus on her pole dancing career fulltime.
"When you're influencing young people, it's dangerous to stereotype as you can't teach them there's only one type of person," Nicholson said, according to the Sun. "All people are different and you shouldn't judge."
Nicholson, who started dancing seven years ago, now runs her own studio where she teaches other women the joys of her profession.
"As soon as I started, I knew I wanted a pole at home," Nicholson said, according to Metro. "Me and my friends spent many a night drinking a bottle of wine and going on the pole at mine."
Andrew Katzander, founder of PoleRiders, a group of pole-based performance artists in the U.S., believes that pole dancing is becoming more mainstream and differentiated.
"There's a lot of dancers that have stayed with the whole high-heels and sexy moves, and others who have moved toward the gymnastic and athletic side of it," Katzander told The Huffington Post last year. "Others are moving towards the more dance side of it."
But Emma Nicholson, 36, would likely disagree.
The former primary school teacher from Hull, England resigned nine weeks ago to focus on her pole dancing career fulltime.
"When you're influencing young people, it's dangerous to stereotype as you can't teach them there's only one type of person," Nicholson said, according to the Sun. "All people are different and you shouldn't judge."
Nicholson, who started dancing seven years ago, now runs her own studio where she teaches other women the joys of her profession.
"As soon as I started, I knew I wanted a pole at home," Nicholson said, according to Metro. "Me and my friends spent many a night drinking a bottle of wine and going on the pole at mine."
Andrew Katzander, founder of PoleRiders, a group of pole-based performance artists in the U.S., believes that pole dancing is becoming more mainstream and differentiated.
"There's a lot of dancers that have stayed with the whole high-heels and sexy moves, and others who have moved toward the gymnastic and athletic side of it," Katzander told The Huffington Post last year. "Others are moving towards the more dance side of it."
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